In court today. Terrified

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In court today regarding child arrangements order. I'm witholding access from my ex to our 1 year old as he is abusive, physically and emotionally. I left him with the help of women's aid and a local charity when he started showing signs of abuse towards our son.

He has made numerous false allegations about me in court. They are very transparent and have only cropped up after he told CAFCASS he had no concerns.

My allegations towards him are pretty extensive and all true. When I am giving evidence in court I will prove this as the truth is easy to recall

I am terrified of him. Scared I will bump in to him. The whole court process is making me unwell

Any unmumsnetty hand holds?

Good luck!

Good luck OP, sending a handhold for you

Wishing you good things💐

You're amazing!!!! Absolutely amazing!! You should be so proud of yourself ♥️ I'm in absolute awe of you and everything you've done! I have everything crossed today goes your way xx

You can do this!

Oh god can totally relate. I ended up in family court 19 times over 2.5 years because of my abusive ex who I was terrified of. I used to feel physically sick, and I’d have to take tranquilisers just to get through the door. I’d always end up with a migraine too.

Got a great result in the end though (zero contact order) so it was worth it. They saw through his lies.

Good luck lovey

Sorry, I think you may already be in court. I was just going to say that you can ask to testify behind a screen - so you don't have to look at your ex. I hope all has gone very well.

Good luck x

I hope all goes well and you get the best outcome.

Another hand hold here. You can do this, you’re stronger than you think x

I hope all has gone well.

I hope everything goes well

Hoping all goes well.

I was near hysterical all the way through my first hearing. The judge couldn't have been kinder. They're not stupid. They know the difference between manipulation and genuine fear and anxiety. I hope it goes well for you and your little one.

Hoping all goes well for you

On behalf of your DS. THANK YOU MUM! It is a brave thing you are doing. Good luck for now and the future.

I hope today went well

How did it go??

I've just realised that I filed a statement without th Scott schedule and was meant to produce a Scott schedule. They even told me about it but I just don't have a clue what I am doing.

I've only known a Scott schedule be used in construction type litigation. They list everything that's disputed and the cost of putting it right.

Was it a schedule of the incidents of DV?

Hope everything went ok OP

Hope it all went to plan.

I hope it went well

I hope it went well, OP.

I‘m thinking of you and your child.