In court today. Terrified

[bakabakabeyond]

In court today regarding child arrangements order. I'm witholding access from my ex to our 1 year old as he is abusive, physically and emotionally. I left him with the help of women's aid and a local charity when he started showing signs of abuse towards our son.

He has made numerous false allegations about me in court. They are very transparent and have only cropped up after he told CAFCASS he had no concerns.

My allegations towards him are pretty extensive and all true. When I am giving evidence in court I will prove this as the truth is easy to recall

I am terrified of him. Scared I will bump in to him. The whole court process is making me unwell

Any unmumsnetty hand holds?

I'll be thinking of you! There's loads of good advice here. You can do this. Magistrates aren't daft - the few I know (men and women) are calm, rational people who quickly see through the kind of bullshit your ex might try on.

Wishing you all the very best. Do let us know how you got on, if you are able to.

Adding my support.

Good luck OP, you can do this!

We are all here holding your hand and sending strength your way

Best of luck. I left an abusive relationship the start of the year and know how these men work. Stay strong x

Its OK to cry, hold your head up high, talk clearly and be concise.

Have a photo of your little one in front of you to remind you of why you are doing this.

Remember he is a bully but you are a lioness with your cub.
There is no comparison.

YOU CAN DO THIS

Try not to worry op. They’ll have seen people like him before. He’ll make himself look a fool in court with these false allegations

You're amazing, you can do this x

I think I remember your previous threads OP and I want to join your crowd of supporters 😊
Wishing you all the best for today!

You can do it! The courts are not stupid and can see through men like your ex.

The best of luck.

Another hand holding here and finger up to your ex - evil bastard.
You can do this - you're stronger than you think....hold your head up high and you'll be out the other side soon

I felt exactly the same. But I walked in there with my head held high knowing I was doing the right thing by my child, just like you are. My daughters father lied the whole way through proceedings, and the outcome was in my daughters favour, so it was worth the few tears I shed in there. It would be strange if you weren't nervous. This is the person you love most in the world and you're just trying to project them. You feel how you need to feel and don't be ashamed of that. You've got this.

Good luck OP.
Another handhold here.
Imagine all of us surrounding you, supporting and protecting you today.

All of the luck in the world to you and your boy, today and for the future.

Based on my knowledge of the court system I would say the odds are in your favour xx

Well done, best wishes to you and your son. You are brave and brilliant!

Good luck. Just stick to the facts xx

Best of luck OP.

Another person standing behind you in spirit OP. Think of us all silently sending you strength and positive vibes

Good luck today ! X

Good luck

Good luck @bakabakabeyond please keep us updated if you can. You're doing the right thing, keep strong x

Good luck today. 🤝 💐

Good luck you brave brave woman.

The courage and strength you have shown to get this far is incredible.

You will be heard and you will be believed.

You really have got this. I'm so proud of you and I don't even know you.