In court today. Terrified

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In court today regarding child arrangements order. I'm witholding access from my ex to our 1 year old as he is abusive, physically and emotionally. I left him with the help of women's aid and a local charity when he started showing signs of abuse towards our son.

He has made numerous false allegations about me in court. They are very transparent and have only cropped up after he told CAFCASS he had no concerns.

My allegations towards him are pretty extensive and all true. When I am giving evidence in court I will prove this as the truth is easy to recall

I am terrified of him. Scared I will bump in to him. The whole court process is making me unwell

Any unmumsnetty hand holds?

I have a court assigned McKenzie friend thank god. The same woman as I had last time. She's awesome.

Think about your happiest moment since you left him. If you feel scared or nervous or tearful, take a deep breath and think back to that memory. It will give you strength.
You can do it. You made the right choice and you are protecting your child.
Best of luck today.

It's also worth asking to speak to the Witness Service at your court. They can house you in a different part of the building until it's times for you to go in. Best of luck!

Good luck today, I can't imagine how you must feel but I'm thinking of you and wishing you the best outcome. You are very strong

You've already done the hard bit, you'll be absolutely fine. Take a deep breath and hold your head high, you're doing this for your son because you're a brilliant mum.

You can do this. We are all rooting for you

Good Luck op, wishing you and your son a very happy life after today is over with.

Good luck OP! Hand hold from me!

Hand hold from me too. You are so strong you are amazing.

So what if you cry or even vomit in there? That's not on you, that's on how he has made you feel.

This time tomorrow this experience will be behind you. Can you have something in mind to look forward to this evening or the weekend?

You can do this, it sounds as though you have been so strong already. You’re an awesome Mum doing the right thing for her child and herself. You’ve got this

Good luck Baka will be hand holding with the rest of the vipers

You're amazing, OP! You are putting yourself through this for the good of your son. I hope it goes your way - hand hold from me.

McKenzie friend! Thank you - I couldn’t remember the name
You will be fine lovey - you have right and truth on your side. Wishing you all the best!

Well done you for getting out. Big hand hold from me.

Huge handhold, and some Dutch courage .

The judge will see through his allegations, especially since they only materialised after the CAFCASS report. And no-one will be at all freaked out if you cry or vomit, they'll have seen worse, I'm sure. If you start to feel you might be sick, ask for a break.

You've already been very brave to get away from this piece of shit, this is just the final hurdle.

Good luck OP. I’m sure your testimony will be compelling and convincing. I hope this step in your journey to a better life for you and your son goes well for you.

Good luck x

A handhold to get you through this lass.

to you OP. Thinking of you.

Good luck op - you can do this! Update us later

Good luck OP, I'll be thinking of you today

Happy to offer as much handholding as needed! Hopefully you'll be able to avoid running into him but if you do hold firm and remember that you're in the right and you've already done the hardest part, which was leaving.

Good luck Baka. You can do this and will do this.