To sleep with as many people as I wish

[ambiencing]

DP, his sister, mum, dad and I were all having a conversation regarding virginity after talking about people calling for the age of consent to be lowered.

It went onto the topic of how many people (average) one will sleep with in their lifetime. My DP's dad that he felt sorry for me, having slept with "so many" people at aged (almost) 20. And asked what had made my self worth so low. I was stunned into silence, but now I really want to say something. This was only a couple of hours ago, but DP thinks I just just leave it.

AIBU to be furious?

This whole thread sounds like a journalistic pry.

You’re dodging the question and won’t even give a vague answer. If you’re happy telling your PILS, then go on...what’s your number..ballpark if you don’t want to give the actual number? What’s telling people anonymously, when you’ll tell your partner’s parents...?

Your choice op. But personally I wouldn’t have a relationship with anyone who had more than 10 sexual partners.

Weird how you’d tell your in-laws the amount but not strangers on the internet

Youre 20 and your partner is 51?

, no they don't have to be strangers. There's safe ways to do everything.

How though, genuinely? How can a 16 - 19 year old meet that many sexual partners safely?

If a women came on here saying she’d been out with partner and her parents and he’d admitted that even though he was only 19 he’d slept with nearly 100 women , are we all saying that she would’ve been told it was non of her business and that he was just exploring his own sexual appetite!!!

No she would’ve been told to ltb and get herself down to the doctors for a std check

@AlexaAmbidextra, it's the Aids crisis. I was around 17 when it hit. Until the middle 90's without the developed anti biotic and TB treatment, it meant death for most people.

Classic Eastenders is at the Mark Fowler HIV storyline. His wife is dying in it.

Elizabeth Meyer (Paul Michael Glasier's wife) died in 94. Their Daughter died of it as a baby.

It stopped being a gay disease.

Did I say 4? I meant 41.

Let's all tell each other our numbers

Let's all tell each other our numbers

Thanks but that's private! is what the OP should have said

*We came into our sexuality when each sexual partner meant a chance at death

No matter how many times I read this I can't work it out.

Thank fuck for that. I thought I was having a particularly dense moment.*

It means you never got the joy of watching someone go from completely healthy to a walking skeleton to dead from an unnamed mystery disease, eventually named aids, in a few weeks. For me it was my grandfather’s lover.

@Branleuse Her DP's dad is 51

Hearhoovesthinkzebras, I'd say that's there's less likely to be major risks with younger men. They generally take a while to get bitter etc enough to kill.

But if you live in a city and went to a big school/college/hobbies then it's easy to meet people that you can find out about. Now with SM you can research their friends in minutes and get the lowdown.

Where do you meet all these people?

Anywhere tbh. I've walked around a supermarket and walked out with an unexpected item lol.
You don't have to necessarily be alone with them. Toilets, back of a club, a group of mates have gone home together, in the cinema, the list is endless. Not all involve going back to each other's places, and I have a no random man rule here.
I take precautions seriously, I don't drink alcohol and the only thing I drink is water from a bottle provided by me and refilled by me.

The riskier stuff I don't do with a one-night stand.

I'm not sure why the op is being called immature. She's a sexually active young woman who is open about sex.
There are many people who use mn who I could equally call immature because of their reluctance to talk about sex, even after they've procreated. I'm not talking discussions like this, I'm talking about to their partners.

“You sound terribly immature”

This. And it sounds like you’re dressing it up having had a mature conversation (despite the fact it was a pissed-up one with your in-laws )
No one really gives a fuck about your teenage fumblings, just do what you want 💁🏻‍♀️
Pointless “pleeeesase notice meeeee” thread

And OP said that the number is nowhere near 100.

Yuck.

Sitting around drunk on a Wednesday night, discussing sex with your DP’s family.

You clearly think it’s fine, so not sure there’s much point posting on AIBU. I don’t think it’s necessarily misogyny, it might just be that he has a different view of sex than you do.

And is more comfortable judging someone that isn't his child.

How can a 16 - 19 year old meet that many sexual partners safely?

Same places as people have been finding sex parties for years.

I would not equate your number of sexual partners with low self worth. I would equate your darling partner's father with a monumental arse

Yeah this is firmly in GF territory, not giving any more details, just registering for first time today etc etc

Sex partners lol
Or sex parties also help to increase numbers 🤣

Ponoka7

I know I sound really old here - but how does this work then? Is it planned? Do mutual friends introduce each other?

I just can't get my head around the logistics. Surely you get through mates mates pretty quick. What about diseases - scabies or herpes etc? Things that aren't preventable by wearing condoms? Even if he's a mutual acquaintance you don't really know that he's not into something weird do you?

I think the age of consent should be raised, not lowered. It's mainly the paedo rapists that want it lowered.

I don't think you should be so open about your sex life. It's nobody's business but your own. I wouldn't even tell a boyfriend or a long-term partner this information.

Same places as people have been finding sex parties for years.

16 year olds go to sex parties?

Who says The Jeremy Kyle show is dead? It's alive and well and livin' on MN!

Spot on, TheEmoji. Surprised we haven't had an 'OK, Boomer!' comment from the OP.