To sleep with as many people as I wish

[ambiencing]

DP, his sister, mum, dad and I were all having a conversation regarding virginity after talking about people calling for the age of consent to be lowered.

It went onto the topic of how many people (average) one will sleep with in their lifetime. My DP's dad that he felt sorry for me, having slept with "so many" people at aged (almost) 20. And asked what had made my self worth so low. I was stunned into silence, but now I really want to say something. This was only a couple of hours ago, but DP thinks I just just leave it.

AIBU to be furious?

How fucking weird to be getting pissed with your in-laws and comparing number of sexual partners .

“ No sex isn't shame, but it's private”

Says who?

I'd accept it as one opinion that is probably quite common from someone of that generation & not get too offended. If you want to him to hear your views that's fine but I wouldn't be too harsh with it. Over sharing or not it's just not a convo I'd choose to have for this reason. In fact 99% of subjects I avoid talking about to DPs dad as his opinions are so far from my own.

@alexafindfilms if they were that shocked, I say it’s probably well over 24, chancer are they wouldn’t say any thing if it was under 24

No no no
This is the occasion for a WHITE LIE

It's not 'oversharing' if it's part of a conversation of consenting adults who are all sharing the same information! They ALL SHARED THE SAME INFORMATION!

I don't give a rat's arse how many of a drunken group are sharing information.
I have my boundaries, and I choose not to share certain information.

Sorry, you're 19 and this isn't even your in-laws? It's just your boyfriends parents?

In future remember it's ok not to go with the crowd. Some things are private, and telling your boyfriends parents how many people you've shagged at the age of 19, or at any age, is never going to be a good idea.

• chances are

If I was in the company of a drunken group sharing such information I would make my excuses and leave.

Sounds a hoot.

Was it more than Mick Hucknell?

Thars probably what shocked him.

I wouldn’t want my barely turned adult child bragging about the number of partners nor at the age would I expect more than a few where they had been dating for a while.

A high number would put me off a partner.

Sexual heath safety is not dated. There is a reason std rates are increasing dramatically in OPs generation.

I do agree with you op but I have a 19 year old and don’t know how I would feel if I found out that her partner had had hundreds of sexual partners. I would love to think that I wouldn’t judge but being honest I think I would. I would worry about my daughter.

So you all shared how many ppl you’d slept with and because your number was higher than the amount DP dad felt was acceptable, he judged you and made you feel crap?

He’s an arse

**You sound terribly immature hmm
As a parent of a 19 year old I would not be impressed with any partner of DD's boasting how many girls he had slept with.

I would judge him for sharing that information.**

^I agree with this.

Way too much info! And he has a point you seem proud of it not ashamed . I'm guessing this relationship isn't that serious

Oh OP I didn't realise you were a teenager and this is your boyfriend.
You have a lot to learn.
You need to mature a little and explore life- and yourself.

For gods sake, it’s his opinion, what does it matter! Get over it

It's also about the different experiences you have.
I've always been really curious and adventurous, and as a direct route I have found out what fetishes/kinks I really enjoy.
I have also enjoyed some of those with partners because one of us have known about it, and of course, we experimented ourselves.

Kink/fetish wise as with all sex it's possible to 'outgrow' each other.

There's also been some things I wanted to try that I needed someone who knew what they were doing.

Things like this can quickly add numbers.

I would be really really fucked off to high heaven if I found out my daughters in laws were prying into her sexual history. Wtf?
And I’d question their motives. Like they’re either perverts, or they suspected you’re not good enough for their son so directed the convo for you to willingly reveal yourself. I suspect the latter.

So long as both (or all) parties are consenting shag as many people as you like. Sex is fun😁. Not sure why it means you have low self worth - how odd

Not sure it’s a conversation I’d have with my in laws though😂

So are you currently aged 19?? Or when you say that are you talking about the number of people you’d had sex with by the age of 19, in the past?

YANBU.
A lot of men and women (regardless of age!) will judge a woman on how many persons she has slept with. Hypocritical, sexist, old-fashioned bullocks.

So what now? They're judging you, you're judging them, sounds great all round.

TBF op having a very high number of sexual partners in your teens is viewed as potentially symptomatic of other issues.

Did you really want to sleep with all of these men or did you feel pressured in some way? I don't think I've met 100 men in my 50 years on the planet that I'd like to have sex with let alone in 3 years.

I think all of you should knock the boozing on the head