Massive back story. Ex was an abusive asshole. He has a conviction for assault by beating and threats to kill towards me. Then in family court admitted 45 further incidents. He got given zero direct or indirect contact, prohibited steps order etc.
At the time his mother made my life miserable. Kept reporting me to social services. Had the police hammering on my door one morning having reported me for abuse.
She could see I was struggling as at the time I had a 10 week old and a SEN just turned 2 year old and instead of ever offering help she made life miserable.
Fast forward 2yr10m and I get a letter pleading for contact with the kids and to put "the rubbish behind us".
Part of me wants the kids to know their family, part of me doesn't trust her an inch and part of me despises her. I could put the despising behind me but is there really any good that can come from this?