To be fed up DH acts like a saviour because he takes the kids to school?

[TheLumpiestSpacePrincess]

He works but for himself. Part time. Usually evenings.

So he is here all day, as am I.

He HATES getting up in the morning.

Routine goes like this...

1. 15am. I get up. Don't even bother asking him to.

Get kids up. Take dog out for wee. Make breakfast. Get uniforms laid out. 7.30am.Clear up breakfast Feed dog Load dishwasher Help little ones get dressed. Shout DH to get up. Make DDs lunch. Shout DH to get up. Check bags and prepare any PE kits etc Shout DH to get up. Make myself a cup of tea Shout DH to get up. Take dog out for poop Shout DH to get up (kids need to leave at 8.25) Wave older kids off.

8.05 Shout DH to get up (shout his name)

Which is responded with a very shouty and aggressive "WHAT??"
With him storming down the stairs barging passed me with "it's only fucking five past 8"

Im sick of this every morning. Then he has the audacity to say 'I get up and take them to school every morning!!'

Yeah he does. And he picks them up.

But I do EVERYTHING else

And I'm sick to fucking death of being his alarm every 10 mins (he just ignores his phone and Alexa) then getting a load of fucking grief for it.

I think I'm going to just start taking them myself.

But then I'll resent him even more for doing fuck all(apart from his part time hours) and getting to stay in bed every morning.

Urgh.

They way you have described it sounds tense and miserable 🤷‍♀️

Our ddogs are great alarms.
Open the door and send in the posse...
You are not his dm.

It's not miserable. It's just bloody annoying. A grown man should be able to pull himself out of bed, no?

That's what annoys me.

Winter my dog sleeps with us. He's a lazy lump. He would just crawl into bed with him 😂

'If you're up anyway, why not just take them to school? Or is that just me thinking this?'

I would just take them and then take the dog for a nice long walk when I got back instead of out for a 'quick' wee and poo separately

I'm taking it he works at night? So if you are up anyway I'd lessen myself the stress of trying to wake him.

One of you make lunches, lay out uniforms night before perhaps?

Rope the older ones in, make a cup of tea / coffee and send a child up with it (better still get the child making the brew),

He can't get angry with a child bringing him a drink.

Also record the morning, he probably doesn't realise you are calling him all the time, he probably thinks he gets up the first time you call him.

He's clearly not a morning person so can you make lunches / PE kits etc his responsibility and he can do it the night before?

Just talk to him then, OP! Make an agreement that he's willing to stick to. It sounds really stressful for you in the mornings, so if this isn't going to change maybe you do the school run and he does something else?
You need to have an honest calm conversation. Not at 8am in the morning

At 7.30 you are shouting him to get up
But he doesn't need to take them until 8.25?

I think if you both prepped lunches and uniforms the night before then it would make it easier.

What time is he in from his nights at work?

Does he earn enough in the four hours of working in the evening to support your family. I don't think the school runs are the issue really - perhaps he needs to get a job and do his business on the side?

So between you you do 4 hours of paid work a day? Yeah, the subject of this post isn't what's unreasonable 🙄

Yes Sunni. We are very blessed in that way.

I guess I'm making a mountain out of it.

It just gets frustrating

OP is not keen on taking the kids to school cos she doesn't drive and it would be a 45 mins drive.
I suggest you learn how to drive OP cos from the feel of it, he isn't changing any time soon.

Not drive, 45 mins walk sorry

Alicia my medical condition doesn't allow me to drive unfortunately :(

OP is not keen on taking the kids to school cos she doesn't drive and it would be a 45 mins drive.

Did I miss this bit of information?

You are a morning person and get up at 7:30 Even if you were given the opportunity to lie in. He isn't and would love the chance to lie in. If the 45 mins is a round trip can you walk (with the dog) when the weather is fair and get him up to drive them when it's raining?

So. You don't get up til after 7am; all you have to do is spend an hour getting the kids ready; and then you have the rest of the day to yourself, until they get home? And you're moaning about that?!

Not sure if this is a joke.

I think I would leave him. (To sleep I mean)

DH has been late for important things and blamed me for not waking him. I told him he’s a fricking adult and if he wants to be in time it’s his own body and life to sort out.
He still sleeps in but it’s not longer linked to me! Also, I prefer getting up with DS anyways. He’s the happiest on a morning and it’s adorable.

How many kids do you have and how old are they? Thinking they could do summat for themselves

tbh I think you are in a better position than most.

As you said you said you're blessed his 4 hours of work is enough to sustain you.

My OH and I work f/t - on top of that he works a p/t job.

As long as he's up on time to get the kids to school, I don't understand the problem.

You don't work and he only works four hours a day. I appreciate you have health issues but you said yourself you wouldn't want a lie-in so I'm not sure I get why it frustrates you so much.

Sorry.

Just do the school run yourself. It makes more sense that you do it given that he works until late. He can do bedtime or something.

Instead of shouting, which children often hate, would you try phoning him? Mine responds much better to phone. And have an evening routine which includes bag-packing, etc.

Send all the kids up to stand beside the bed and say “daddy time to get up” repeatedly, every morning.