Small chocolate bar

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Who is BU here? We have a houseful of family today. DD went to the shops and offered to buy everyone a packet of sweets. Person A asked for a small chocolate bar, Person B said they didn’t want anything. DD got home and handed out the sweets. Person B asked Person A if they could break their bar of chocolate into 2 and give them a piece. Person A said they would like to eat this particular bar themselves, but there was more chocolate in the cupboard. Person B said they wanted a piece of Person A’s chocolate in particular. Person B was told they could have ordered their own bar if they wanted one, but Person B wanted a piece of Person A’s chocolate because they didn’t want a whole bar. Words were exchanged on both sides. Should Person A have shared, or should Person B have ordered their own bar?

Person B is being awful. I can't believe your mum would speak to you like that.

@Dogwalker1 is your OH @Tinkobell 😂

What would happen if 2 people like that sat on a table together? Would no one order? Would they both be disappointed? Or not? Would both order? Would the world implode? Would they be stuck in infinite loop of "Nah. I qm good, but you order yourself something."?

I do get the wanting just one square of choc/one malteser/whatever so not wanting a whole one to be bought.

Easiest o just say no thanks though.

And not insult anyone!

Your mum is the bitch.
You might find the "Toxic Parents" book and/or the Stately Homes thread helpful.
(Might sound like overkill but my guess is that this is the tip of the iceberg.)

I think there's a difference between the dessert and chocolate bar scenario and I get why Tinkerbell does it.

If you buy a chocolate bar but only want a bit, yes you can exercise self-control and save the rest, either for yourself or someone else at a later stage.

But if you get a whole dessert you have to pay for a whole dessert, even if you only want a taste. I didn't use to have a dessert because it was empty calories, but I DID want a taste. Fortunately my DH, while sighing a bit, would let me have a taste (and yes I used to do it with chips, too).

The answer was taking up sport so that I can burn it off and eat the whole lot without feeling guilty about it.

B is being unreasonable. If B is a child that may be understandable. If B is an adult then B can buy B's own chocolate instead of trying to nick A's!

Tinkobell I’d disown you, after shoving the hole chocolate bar in my mouth, slapping noisily and letting it dribble down my chin.

I think it’s time for a name change, as that deep dark chocolate confession will follow you around the site. Imagine that coming up if anyone does a name search

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Your Mum called you a bitch, over a bar of chocolate?!

She’s fucking unhinged, and would have been told so in no uncertain terms!

Hope you enjoyed every last morsel!

Oh wow, B is your mum? What is wrong with her?

I despise "person bs". Fuck off and get your own. My relative used to try this one "I'm on a diet so only want a teeny bit"...proceeding to cut the whole piece in half. I ordered another and made them pay for a whole one.

I don't share puddings.

You're not the bitch in this scenario!

Damn you Tinkobell, come back and explain yourself, enquiring minds want to know!

But it sounds like she didn't just want a piece of chocolate she wanted you to break it in 2 and share so sounds like half?

No way , very unreasonable and the temper after is way OTT .

I had to eat half a caramel Wispa that my DDad bought ( he couldn't resist it , it was 10p) I knew he wouldn't like it .
I said "Don't sell it to him, he's got Diabetes" but the woman behind the till was in cahoots .
He broke off half , couldn't put the rest away tidily so said "D'you want this" ?

he wasn't going into hypoglycaemia , he just likes a 'bargain'

I hate Person Bs unless they are upfront.

"Do you want XYZ?"
"No" = CF

"Do you want XYZ?"
"No, I couldn't manage a whole one, I'd only manage a spoonful ... if you order the medium instead if the regular could I have a little bit?" = annoying but acceptable

Your DD sounds lovely, unless person B is under 5 they are BVVVVU

The answer was taking up sport so that I can burn it off and eat the whole lot without feeling guilty about it.

Well that's a solution to your problem, yes. The solution to your victim's the other person's problem is much simpler - it's for person B not to order anything, but not to wheedle a bit of person A's from them either, and just to manage without!

Person B needs to get over themselves and go back to the shop for their own chocolate bar. Talk about spoiling an atmosphere.

Woah, I assumed A and B were kids. Your mum was being very unreasonable.

I'm going to go against the grain and say that both were unreasonable in their actions. Person B could've ordered a bar of chocolate but perhaps they weren't feeling it until the saw it - I'm sure most people can empathise with that? Person A not sharing was rude. We encourage our children to share but then don't do it ourselves. It's totally embarrassing to be so defiant about not sharing something, when Practically it would've been easy to break a bit off. Person B was wrong to name call. Overall you both sound very juvenile!

@SafetyAdvice0FeedWhenAgitated that is a very worrying suggestion that @Tinkobell is my OH!

@Tinkobell if you are my OH you definitely need a name change and be upfront about being a man. Isn't there a Dadsnet or something?

But if you get a whole dessert you have to pay for a whole dessert, even if you only want a taste. I didn't use to have a dessert because it was empty calories, but I DID want a taste.

What absolute entitled behaviour!!! Either buy the dessert just for a taste or bloody go without, DONT expect someone else to give up some of theirs though!!!

Person B could've ordered a bar of chocolate but perhaps they weren't feeling it until the saw it - I'm sure most people can empathise with that? Person A not sharing was rude.

So person B changed their mind and person B was rude for not bending to accommodate? Nope.

Whole bar of laxative chocolate for her for Xmas imo...
Can't imagine ever swearing at my dc like that op.
I am nc with dm and highly recommend it op.
Very good for the soul.
And mh...

Interesting how people assumed that B was a man. The people I’ve known to behave like this have been women, but mostly because they feel somehow as if they have to be “good” and be seen to be turning down fattening food, like some kind of martyr. It’s more important to call attention to how virtuous you are being than just eating the chocolate you want. So at its root it’s a societal issue because of the judgement around women being overweight/eating the wrong things etc.

But yeah, she was a CF and I’d not have shared.

I liked the way you phrased the post, OP, without indicating the relationship or whether you were one of the people.

I'm with everybody else, and you. Your Mum was BU, and SOOO irritating.

@crispysausagerolls I splurted out coffee, laughing at your post!

But if you get a whole dessert you have to pay for a whole dessert, even if you only want a taste.

Yes but what selfish B people don't seem to realise is that if I'm paying for a whole desert I WANT TO EAT THE WHOLE DESERT. So get your own or go without....