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Small chocolate bar

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SoapOperaFamily · 17/11/2019 14:43

Who is BU here? We have a houseful of family today. DD went to the shops and offered to buy everyone a packet of sweets. Person A asked for a small chocolate bar, Person B said they didn’t want anything. DD got home and handed out the sweets. Person B asked Person A if they could break their bar of chocolate into 2 and give them a piece. Person A said they would like to eat this particular bar themselves, but there was more chocolate in the cupboard. Person B said they wanted a piece of Person A’s chocolate in particular. Person B was told they could have ordered their own bar if they wanted one, but Person B wanted a piece of Person A’s chocolate because they didn’t want a whole bar. Words were exchanged on both sides. Should Person A have shared, or should Person B have ordered their own bar?

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Ellie56 · 17/11/2019 15:57

Yep person B is a tit and totally unreasonable.

AlexaAmbidextra · 17/11/2019 15:59

Oh dear! I'm often Person B, particularly when the scenario in question refers to deserts in a restaurant

Come on. Tell us why you do that. You certainly wouldn’t be getting any of my dessert.

Bluntness100 · 17/11/2019 15:59

Your own mother called you a selfish bitch? That's awful.

GETTINGLIKEMYMOTHER · 17/11/2019 15:59

Person B needs a good slap and no chocolate.

There's nothing more irritating than the person who (so often virtuously) says they don't want chocolate/pudding/chips, etc. - and then proceeds to want to share the goodies/nick someone else's chips, etc.

Blatherskite · 17/11/2019 15:59

You're a bad person Tinkobell! Either order your own or go without!

Nothing as frustrating as ordering a dessert (or chocolate bar) that you really fancy and then being expected to only get half as you have to share.

FizzyGreenWater · 17/11/2019 16:00

'Call me a bitch in front of my child again and that's the last time you'll see either of us. Now, about this chocolate. I've got a lovely wee bar here laced with dog shit and nails, it's got your name on it I believe!'

macaroniandpizza · 17/11/2019 16:01

Person b is totally u as they were asked and didnt want anything. Cant then go wanting person a's sweets

Bluntness100 · 17/11/2019 16:01

Oh dear! I'm often Person B, particularly when the scenario in question refers to deserts in a restaurant

What, why? Just order your own dessert instead of having someone else's. That's shitty.

As a pp said, no one likes person b.

EugenesAxe · 17/11/2019 16:02

Person B should have said 'I'd like a piece of chocolate but not a whole bar - would anyone getting a bar be happy to give me a bit?' This would have enabled Person A to get a bigger bar on the understanding that once Person B had had their fill, the small amount of chocolate they actually wanted would still remain.

Person B sounds like one of those people who expects others to mind read and/or resents others being assertive simply because they struggle to .

Ummmmcake · 17/11/2019 16:02

I had a BF who did that. Just to top it off he also had a lot more money than me and I was rather underweight. It just confirmed to me that he was an immature git.

Coldilox · 17/11/2019 16:02

Person B might not have wanted a whole one, but that’s tough as person A did

MrGsFancyNewVagina · 17/11/2019 16:07

Tinkobell I’d disown you, after shoving the hole chocolate bar in my mouth, slapping noisily and letting it dribble down my chin.

I think it’s time for a name change, as that deep dark chocolate confession will follow you around the site. Imagine that coming up if anyone does a name search.

alfagirl73 · 17/11/2019 16:08

I hate when people do this. If she didn't want a whole one - she could've just got a bar, had a bit and saved the rest for later - it's not rocket science. She had the opportunity to get something and refused - she doesn't then get to demand that other people give up some of theirs.

APerkyPumpkin · 17/11/2019 16:08

Oh dear! I'm often Person B, particularly when the scenario in question refers to deserts in a restaurant

Well now you know you can stop doing it right?

SchadenfreudePersonified · 17/11/2019 16:09

Person B would be told to get fucked if I was person A.

Definitely this!

Your mother is mean and manipulative - how dare she guilt you when she had the chance to have her own bar, If she didn't want to eat it all she could have kept some for later, or offered the rest to you.

A chocolate bar (no matter what size) is a single portion. That goes for those Christmas bars the size of a football pitch, and those giant Toblerones, too.

Had you offered to share your own minuscule portion of chocolate with her, and she had accepted, that would be bad enough*, but to demand half of your bar, and then throw hissy fit because you, quire rightly, said "Fuck off" "No" is beyond disgraceful.

*In situations like this - when someone has had the opportunity to have their own chocolate/ chips/ can of pop etc, and has declined, there are some people# who for courtesy's sake only will offer a bite or sip. The correct response is - "Thank you - but honestly, I really don't want any today" even if the drool is pouring down their chin. This offer can take place up to THREE times without anyone being expected to take the offerer up on it. After that, it's your own stupid fault if someone says "Oh - go on then! You've twisted my arm." and grabs whatever you were about to scoff.

I am not one of these people. No-one sane is.

Beautiful3 · 17/11/2019 16:09

If that person is a child then share, if they are an actual grown up then no they get their own!

BlouseAndSkirt · 17/11/2019 16:12

Your mother called you a selfish bitch at a family get together?

How horrible. She has no manners, and no clue as to how to behave. Horrible.

If my Mum had asked me for a bit I would probably have rolled my eyes and given her some, but she would have been grateful and wouldn't have asked in entitled expectation.

There is obviously a long back story.

Straycatstrut · 17/11/2019 16:12

Person B sounds like my 3 year old he does this all the time "I don't want ANYFING!!"..... except a bite of everything my brother has.

SchadenfreudePersonified · 17/11/2019 16:13

I think it’s time for a name change, as that deep dark chocolate confession will follow you around the site. Imagine that coming up if anyone does a name search.

This is sound advice Tinkobell. Take it.

Look on it as a sort of new identity - like the police give people who are in serious danger of being beaten to a pulp because of their actions.

Dogwalker1 · 17/11/2019 16:18

B is in the wrong - especially when there was other chocolate in the house.
My other half does this with desserts when we are eating out and it drives me nuts Never orders one but then tries to eat half of mine. Then I'm the one looking like a greedy pig, covering up my plate and saying noooo.

SafetyAdvice0FeedWhenAgitated · 17/11/2019 16:20

For defence works! I had a friend like that. Sooooo frustrating!😤😤😤
Until I snapped and stabbed her hand with for when she again did that "I know I said I don't want anything, but this looks lovely!" while slowly moving her hand towards my plate...
I did not draw blood. The shock was enough for her to never touch my plate again.
I defend my food.🤺

Agree with pp. @Tinkobell should NC now... I will never forget that nick now😂

Autumntoowet · 17/11/2019 16:20

All the persons B in the world can f

VickyEadieofThigh · 17/11/2019 16:21

Person B is wrong, would be dead to me and I would never speak to them again. Even if Person B were my spouse.

dentydown · 17/11/2019 16:21

My ex was person B. I would buy a chocolate bar from the shop, he would say he didn’t want anything, then bite a bit (as in 2/3rds of the bar). I told him to have the rest / threw the rest away and bought myself another one. He sulked. He wanted me to go without. Dickhead.
If you want chocolate, have some and save some, or share some, don’t nick it!

orangechews · 17/11/2019 16:22

@Tinkobell - just, why? Why would you think that's OK? (I'm genuinely interested in your thought processes here.)

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