to not want my husband to share a hotel room with MIL?

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Husband is away attending to family business next week. It is just over an hour away from where we live.

It was agreed he would stay overnight the first night as it involves an early start and a late finish. Now I have learned that MIL has booked him and her into a twin hotel room for TWO nights.

She has always been overbearing, has no boundaries and has caused significant problems (along with FIL) over the course of our relationship.

I think this sharing a room business is grim and have told him I don't want him sharing a room with her. He thinks I am being horrible.

AIBU?

I wonder if some of the posters were also the type to walk around their fathers in their underwear which I most definitely think is grim. It’s not a bikini, it's underwear for those who would throw that card out there

Where did this come from? You change in the bathroom, ffs. Nobody needs to see anyone’s underwear.

Err, I think the people suggesting I'm the one being overbearing while harassing me across different threads need to take a bit of a look in the mirror tbh.

Where did this come from? You change in the bathroom, ffs. Nobody needs to see anyone’s underwear.

I think the implication is that people who would share a TWIN room (ffs) with their adult child would also be ok with their parents seeing them in their underwear.

TBF I would be ok with both of those things. We all have pretty normal healthy relationships too.

Look, we're all different. Just because some people are comfortable with different things does not make them creepy/grim/weird/prudish/etc./etc. Let's all just be a bit more understanding of each other, shall we?

Yes, it's other posters who are the problem.

I wonder if some of the posters were also the type to walk around their fathers in their underwear which I most definitely think is grim. It’s not a bikini, it's underwear for those who would throw that card out there.

What the actual fuck does that have to do with sharing a room with twin beds and a bathroom?

I wouldn't want to share a room with my adult sone because I'd be embarrassed if I accidentally saw him undressed (or vice versa).

I recently shared a room with my DM out of necessity. Luckily, there was a bathroom with a door, I packed pyjamas and she took a nightie, so there was no nudity-related embarrassment. Or incest.

OP I can’t even begin to tell you how unreasonable I think you are, and anyone who thinks this is creepy really needs to take a long, cool look at themselves.

There's absolutely nothing wrong with this. I would sooner die than share a hotel room with my dad, but my husband would quite happily share a (twin) hotel room with his mother because they're adorably close and would probably stay up all night chatting.

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Getting ahead of yourself there, Skippy. OP hasn’t even returned to the thread.

I think it's sweet actually.

I thought you were going to say you didn’t want him to share a room with a female friend or colleague. I was ready to say YNBU. It’s his mum! What wrong with you? Your line of thinking is disturbing to say the least!

Err, I think the people suggesting I'm the one being overbearing while harassing me across different threads need to take a bit of a look in the mirror tbh.

Nice to see you back OP

Can you clarify why you think it's 'grim' please?

Sharing a double bed, maybe, but it’s a twin room. You’re being ridiculous.

YABU, he's with her anyway and I don't see any issue with them sharing a room. However if it were me I like my own space so wouldn't share with either my Dad or Mum.

She's his mother, you sound like the overbearing one.

I was recently away with my brother and the only reason we didn't get a twin room is because he snores

I shared a room with my son last year for a sporting event.

Do I need to apologize to my DiL for 'overstepping'?

it is a bit odd that with both my MIL and DM we'd both book separate rooms to give us a bit of space. However, each to their own.

Are you concerned that they will have sex or be tempted to?
If not YABU, if this is your concern then I have no idea why you are still married

Like @MarieIVanArkleStinks I often share a twin room with my brother. Why waste money on two rooms when we are paying a small fortune for tickets?

What is grim is thinking that sharing with family is worthy of suspicion and indeed comment.

That said, I wouldn’t share with my folks as they would wake the dead with their snoring.

You are disgusting op and this says way way more about you than them. Who on earth do you think you are to be so controlling? Get over yourself before you lose your husband for good.

Oh and incidentally I shared a twin room with my adult son recently when we went on a city break. It was much cheaper to do this and he is my SON. It's not weird or creepy to share with your family when the situation demands it

I didn't hit YABU straightaway because I was waiting for a drip feed which might justify your position. I am now voting YABU. Obviously.

If money is no issue, I’d prefer separate rooms if I were either of them.

However, it is ABSOLUTELY ZERO to to do with you, so keep your bloody nose out.

If my DP was telling me who I could or couldn’t share a room with, I’d be seriously wondering whether the relationship was worth the hassle

She's his Mum!!
I'd have no problem sharing a room with my son, no matter what his age ( he's 21 at the mo) and he wouldn't bat an eyelid! In fact, it would be nice to catch up with him and spend some time together!

Got news for you OP. Wait until MIL needs a care home. You'll need to be kind or he might just well dump you.
Sons always love their mother MORE than any wife, get used to it!