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AIBU?

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to not want my husband to share a hotel room with MIL?

396 replies

UnderHisEyeBall · 17/11/2019 10:25

Husband is away attending to family business next week. It is just over an hour away from where we live.

It was agreed he would stay overnight the first night as it involves an early start and a late finish. Now I have learned that MIL has booked him and her into a twin hotel room for TWO nights.

She has always been overbearing, has no boundaries and has caused significant problems (along with FIL) over the course of our relationship.

I think this sharing a room business is grim and have told him I don't want him sharing a room with her. He thinks I am being horrible.

AIBU?

OP posts:
SheChoseDown · 17/11/2019 12:30

Your poor husband

SheChoseDown · 17/11/2019 12:33

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iklboo · 17/11/2019 12:35

You realise he used to live inside of her right?

GrinGrin

Tartyflette · 17/11/2019 12:35

I wouldn't have a problem with this at all although I suspect my DH would probably rather have a room to himself than share with his DM, but that's because he'd be able to fart freely.

MarieIVanArkleStinks · 17/11/2019 12:38

I often share a twin room with my brother - primarily because we attend festivals together, it's expensive to start with, and I have no intention of sleeping in the grim camping conditions available there; they are hideous.

Nothing creepy or inappropriate to see here - he's my brother!

MsRomanoff · 17/11/2019 12:39

Not everyone has the same feelings about sharing personal space. I can remember having to share a room with my parents when visiting relatives. It made me cringe a bit then as a child. It would be even worse now.

If the OP is funny about personal space, that's still no reason the DH has have the same feelings about it.

To be fair, that was something someone else made up.

Yes i know. I was replying to the poster that made it up. That sharing a hotel room wasnt more or less likely to mean mil will interfere. So the pps, made up, situation doesnt make sense either.

koshkat · 17/11/2019 12:42

Well at least this has given me a laugh on a grim day OP!

CalmDownConan · 17/11/2019 12:42

I saw half the title in a thumbnail, expecting the rest to be colleague/ex DP/Prince Andrew etc. Was most surprised to see that it refers to his DM.

YABU

Instagrump · 17/11/2019 12:44

It's his mum.

His. Mum.

SchadenfreudePersonified · 17/11/2019 12:44

Have to admit - I think it's a bit creepy.

sweeneytoddsrazor · 17/11/2019 12:45

Oh thats the first time I have had a message deleted. Not sure why but hey ho

SomewhereInbetween1 · 17/11/2019 12:45

Going to need a bit more detail, OP.

84claire84 · 17/11/2019 12:46

This is absolutely hilarious 😂😂😂😂😂😂😂

I suggest you get help to deal with your issues and move on

WorraLiberty · 17/11/2019 12:47

Have to admit - I think it's a bit creepy.

The only 'creepy' thing here is the way some people's minds work

AloeVeraLynn · 17/11/2019 12:49

Erm...what are you worried will happen??

FizzyGreenWater · 17/11/2019 12:50

Oh this is the way this one's gone - bail out, OP, leave the professionally shocked and confused to compete with one another to post THE most 'I'm so down to earth and you're clearly NUTS' comment Grin

SchadenfreudePersonified · 17/11/2019 12:54

My mind's not working the way people seem to think.

I wouldn't want to share a room with my adult sone because I'd be embarrassed if I accidentally saw him undressed (or vice versa).

And I wouldn't want to put up with him farting all night (he is his father's son!).

And I think, personally, and I am entitled to my opinion, that anyone who wants to sleep in the same room as their adult, opposite sex child when they can afford more private accommodation is a bit creepy. Why would you not want privacy?

Of course, other people have different opinions - that's to them, but I wouldn't want to do it.

Sashkin · 17/11/2019 12:56

Yep, I am sure the only thing preventing your DH and his mother having torrid sex every way till Sunday has been the fact they have not been sharing a hotel room. Hmm

Notanargosfan · 17/11/2019 12:56

Genuinely, can the OP or someone please explain what is wrong with sharing a hotel room for a couple of nights.

WorraLiberty · 17/11/2019 12:59

And I think, personally, and I am entitled to my opinion, that anyone who wants to sleep in the same room as their adult, opposite sex child when they can afford more private accommodation is a bit creepy.

And yet you say your mind's not working the way some people think?

In what way do you think this adult mother and son are 'a bit creepy'?

SunshineCake · 17/11/2019 12:59

I don't think the OP needs to give her head a wobble Hmm but the posters insinuating she thinks they will have sex do. Grow up.

ilovetofu · 17/11/2019 13:00

BiscuitBiscuitBiscuit

WorraLiberty · 17/11/2019 13:01

The perhaps Sunshine, the OP might like to clarify why she thinks it's 'grim'?

grim
/ɡrɪm/

  1. very serious or gloomy.
"his grim expression"
  1. (especially of a place) unattractive or forbidding.
"rows of grim, dark housing developments"
Bogoffrain · 17/11/2019 13:02

He shared her body for 9 months!!

abouttime2 · 17/11/2019 13:05

It's not like anyone is expecting you to share a room with her. Get over it. None of your business to be honest