AIBU to want to not meet him due to my weight?

[misunderstoodjustice]

Hey lovelies,

So I'm a lurker, first time posting as I feel like I'm in a bit of a mental pickle.

Basically, I met this wonderful guy, there's a long distance issue but we text daily and FaceTime when life doesn't get in the way. I was meant to be in Manchester for work but the conference was cancelled and we decided I should still come through and he'd drive up and we would meet for the first time. It's almost halfway for both of us.

Now, I'm panicking. It's next Friday, the 22nd. I have recently lost 50lbs and still see myself as the size 22 unlovable woman. I mean I'm a size 16, still have a mum tum and although I do generally feel better about my self image- this has my head spinning as I really like him.

We enjoy the same things and get on well. I've sent photos of myself, but they are all those kinda I'm posed and good angles and brilliant light type... I'm worried what he will think of me when he sees me properly.

There's an age gap and I understand that I'm just being incredibly insecure - just need opinions- should I go? Should I cancel? How can I fake the confidence of one of those effortless women?! 😂

We've gone to the pub now, he's lovely, we've kissed (I know I know but he instigated - it was nice though). Going really well for now - I think haha

Custardbear... it's not me, it's the other poster who's going on a date. I'm trying to keep off her thread so that I don't fill it up with over-excited nonsense!

Sorry, misunderstoodjustice, really happy to hear that this is going well. I'm delighted for you in fact! Sorry for the hijack, there's another poster who is going on a date soon.

Omg fabulous update. Keep us posted

So glad to hear this 🥰🥰

@LyingWitchInTheWardrobe sorry OP used to come up as the first in the lost - must be an update 😳

... that doesn't work well!

No worries, custardbear, I'm vicariously caught up in Queenfatface's upcoming date. I used to love dating, I'd do it now if I could but, it would be frowned on.

So, we went for some food and are still on our date... he's really lovely. Having a great time 😊

So whilst he's gone to get (yay) another drink... I can say this man is great, it's nice and thanks for encouraging me to go

Good for you - enjoy.

You're bloody brilliant OP!!

Love this thread and soaking up the positive mindset advice for myself...a major work in progress.

I like the thinking style which reminds us that they need to be attractive to us, not just the other way round.

Have a ball OP

Aw op that's great 😀

Still going! Haha 😂 it's so much fun, he's great and we having a laugh xx

I can't help but follow this thread, it makes you smile :)

Holy shitballs 50lbs?! Incredible you’re amazing !

Woo-hoo! Well done you. I bet he can't take his eyes off you.

Lovely thread! Enjoy OP

Fanbloodytastic! Way to go op, great updates!

This is so nice to read. Kissing drinking eating maybe dancing. I how he's a keeper. Time will tell.

This is fabulous Im glad you are having a great night.

Watch Ashley Graham on YouTube...shes amazing.
I love her and love the way she embraces her body with confidence.

Are you still on your date? 😋
Only Just caught up with this. I'm so glad it's gone well for you. And fwiw, you look insane! You have such a lovely shape and clothes look great on you. Embrace it and be confident, you're beautiful

What?! You're still out?!

I was still on my date 😂 head hurts a little but it was lovely. Really lovely and such a change 😊

How did you leave it OP!? Any talk of another date? Kiss at the end?