Am I missing something here? Meghan Markle

[Whitehorseinthehill]

https://www.dailymail.co.uk/news/article-7679223/Prince-Harry-Meghan-Markle-not-spending-Christmas-Sandringham.html

Sorry for the Meghan Markle thread and DM link, but I have found this really amusing today.

Story out today saying Harry and Meghan apparently aren't spending Xmas with the Queen this year. Lots of comments below blaming Meghan, saying she's isolating Harry from his family, saying the Queen must be really upset. Everyone at work was chatting about it today saying similar.

Am I missing something? I mean we don't even know if it's true. But even if it is, aren't they entitled to spend Xmas as they please? She has her own mother she may want to see.

Ok I get that it's the Queen and it's the usual tradition but is it really a big deal?

[OlaEliza]

I'd expect a certain announcement and then for them fuck of wherever they are going, based on pictures from Sunday.

[PortiaCastis]

Imagine picking on someone else

[lyralalala]

Anyone interested in the press who Sophie and Edward are spending Christmas with?

It's interesting that the press haven't flagged up that since Sophie's father is on his own he is always invited to Sandringham the alternate years he's not with her brother.

Wonder if Doria got an invitation?

[LaurieMarlow]

Another classic example of "only we matter"

Hardly. It's shitty to expect those who marry in to never see their own family at Christmas. I'm glad Kate broke the mold.

[The80sweregreat]

The aibu threads will be full of the Christmas angst soon I bet.
Especially from folk who see their parents or relies every single day I just don't understand. It's one day ; get over it! it's just the fact they ' have' to see their families and the fuss made about these arrangements is huge.
Causes too much stress and rows esp with little ones! It's all too much just for one blooming day.
I feel sad for people whose partners have to work shifts and are never off ; that's sadder than this lot and who they are going to be with or not! They don't have to work over the holidays!

[Mulhollandmagoo]

@PicsInRed I thought the same, William and Kate spend every other Christmas with her family?

[Disfordarkchocolate]

I've always thought it sad that Beatrice and Eugene never spent Christmas Day with their mother after the divorce. I'm sure it made the Queen and Andrew happy but not Sarah.

[Puzzledandpissedoff]

That's what I meant, Laurie; the "only we matter" referred to the senior RF's views, as in "never mind your own families, we come first"

FWIW I wouldn't want to take a small baby to a formal event like that either, but somehow I doubt they have baby seats attached to the priceless table ... isn't it said the nannies take over whenever the adults are on parade?

[LaurieMarlow]

That's what I meant, Laurie; the "only we matter" referred to the senior RF's views, as in "never mind your own families, we come first"

Oh sorry I misunderstood you.

[Puzzledandpissedoff]

Nothing to apologise for, Laurie; the fault was mine for not making myself clear

[TellItLikeItReallyIs]

because they need some time away to recharge

Is fucking hilarious.

So let me get this straight

two people who don't work, live off the public purse, spend their time by ocassionally pitching up to charitable organisations for half an hour of glad handing, and one of whom has been on 'maternity leave' from a life that is basically a holiday need some time away to recharge. Time away from what exactly? They don't work in any meaningful way.

This time away means that they are refusing to go to basically a Christmas house party with the Queen. How is a Christmas house party something they need time away from to recharge? I'd be going if I was invited precisely to recharge over a stiff dubonnet and gin.

It's all so self indulgent, self pitying and embarassingly out of touch.

What about people who work from 5am to 10pm to avoid having to go to a food bank? These are people who need time to recharge.

[SunsetBoulevard3]

@tellit

Yes, totally agree. Nannies, staff, every whim catered for. Give me a break.

[dottiedodah]

I think that Harry and Meghan just want to have a quiet time at home getting to know their baby at Christmas time! I remember having our First Christmases, and cooking some beef to have cold on Christmas Day while EBF my Son ( Bliss) . We normally had Christmas day to ourselves and saw family Boxing day .

[Straycatstrut]

MM definitely started one of the thousand "AIBU not to want to spend xmas at the MIL's this year" threads

To be honest as long as they visit around Xmas it should be fine. Not to be morbid but she's 93...

[SirVixofVixHall]

I find them both pretty annoying. Meghan has an entirely different sensibility, being American, and that makes her a tricky fit . I think the same would have happened with Chelsea Davy if they had married, perhaps Chelsea had the foresight to see that, and didn’t want it.
I don’t see how it matters one jot though, where they spend their Christmas.

[Disfordarkchocolate]

Nannies and staff wouldn't balance that 'whim' I'd have of spending the day with my baby.

[Mollymoo01]

I can’t imagine anything worse than a full family Christmas with all the pomp and ceremony!

It would be so stressful spending day after day just tying to make sure you don’t fuck up in anyway, the horror of having a mouthful of food after the Queen has finished eating could get you sent to Coventry!
It would not be a fun Christmas and there would be so many people, some lovely I’m sure but quite a few with snide, snarky comments behind their hands.
You couldn’t introduce your own wants for Christmas, you’d be spending it exactly how the Queen has every fucking year, the monotony of it must be incredibly wearing.

But then what do I know with my lowly peasant Christmas.

[KurriKurri]

I think lots of people had this odd vision of Harry as the 'people's prince' - because of his mother, because of his tender age when he lost her and because of his generally cheerful and more approachable personality.
I've always thought there's an odd kind of possessiveness over him. Meghan is seen as an interloper (underpinned by an insidious racism and anti americanism). In a sense the poor woman has the whole country as her ghastly in laws - she can do no right, she is blamed for everything. And like all the threads on here about awful MILs, there's not going to be much she can do to change that.

Clearly they have vastly more than many people could even dream of, but they are still a young famiy and they don't seem all that happy. I hope they leave and go to live somewhere less obsessed by royalty, so people can forget about them and find someone else to pick on.

[Itstheprinciple]

I thought Megan's mum did get invited last year.

And I remember similar reports when William and Catherine spent Christmas with the Middletons.

[thenightsky]

Wasn't Doria invited last year, but turned it down? At least I think I read something like that.

[Justmuddlingalong]

Does the Queen make everyone watch her speech do you think? Tbh, that would be reason enough to make alternative arrangements.

[coconuttelegraph]

who fucking cares what a stranger is or isn't doing at christmas????

Way too many people as MN seems to be talen over by threads about who is spending Christmas where from about the middle of Sepetember and they never seems to be short of posts

[LinnetBird]

They have a duty to do as they are Royalty. They don't want to do their duty.
I'm no Royalist nor am I a basher, but it's that simple.
You do as you are told when living the life of a Royal. it isn't your own life whether you're born into it or you marry into it.

Totally agree, news to stop us finding out what is really going on in the world.

[LaurieMarlow]

They have a duty to do as they are Royalty. They don't want to do their duty.

Were you saying that about K&W when they skipped Sandringham?

[Itstheprinciple]

www.telegraph.co.uk/news/uknews/kate-middleton/9762659/William-and-Kate-miss-Queens-Christmas-choosing-to-spend-it-with-Middletons.html