To be angry with MIL's demand

[Arabiannights01]

My DH has told me that his Mother wants our DS once a month for the whole weekend. I was really startled when my DH decided to whimsically make this statement on putting our DS to bed.

Aibu to be annoyed that: A) she didn't ask me, b) she makes no effort to see DS apart from the odd invitation to a family gathering twice a year, c) sick of hearing the odd snide comment about DS spending more time with my DM, d) think that as An ex social worker she should know better than to place a demand like this.

My DS has just turned two, he is a sensitive little soul and he hates being anywhere without me - it has taken two years for him to settle at nursery.

Another point to make is that they live 60 miles away from us and my DH often works weekends and long weeks so his time with DS is precious and I have told her this before.

AIBU? What would you say to her? Thank you.

Maybe when he is older and she has more of a relationship with him. It would be like going to stay with a virtual stranger. Perhaps say that when he is 5 you may re consider depending upon how well he knows them.

I have DGS to stay with us for the we at least once a month, sometimes with one or both parents sometimes alone. The difference here is that we seek him regu and he asks his mum if he can come to Granny's house. My daughter has ME and sometimes is just too wiped out to deal with a mega energetic 2 year old.

In theory I don't think it's a major issue but it's up to you to decide if you want to do this.