WIBU to get a cat even though DH doesn't like them?

[christmastreewithhairyfairy]

DH and I have been married 15 years. Growingup, I always had cats and other animals in the house, DH never did - his family just don't see the point of them.

When we met I accepted that I'd have to give up the idea of ever having pets but recently and increasingly I've realised how much I feel like I'm missing out. I'm quite low at the moment, on my own in the house a lot, and having a cat around would really help. We have 2 school age DDs who adore animals and would really love to have a pet (every year, a cat is top of the Christmas list), so DH is the only dissenter.

His arguments are the expense, the smell (I don't think cats smell personally - but do accept that could be because I grew up with them so am immune to it) and the general hassle of feeding, vets, catteries.

I feel like it doesn't have to impact his life too much - I will do the feeding, litter tray, vets trips etc. Though I get there will be an occasional time I am out and he will have to let it in, or deal with a bird or mouse in the house.

Of course if he puts his foot down and says no full stop, I am not exactly going to just turn up with one. But he is on the verge of being persuaded by the rest of us. AIBU even considering it, if he says yes but clearly is still not too keen?

I’d been married to my dh 15 years when he finally caved and agreed to a cat. Like you I grew up with many animals including cats. He used to say that cats were disgusting creatures, he did not like them.
Then the cat arrived. He’s been caught telling the cat that he loves him.
We now have two cats.

I would still like to add I haven't been able to vote... I don't have the option? Think it it might be because I'm on an iPhone? And I'm pretty sure all iPhone users are mainly cat lovers so I think the poll is bias

My DH is allergic to cats and doesn't really like pets.

However, he has had to have cats in his life. Only one was too allergen ridden, that we had to pass on to my brother. The others (3) have been better, and the most recent absolutely fine. I think after the first few years, he has gradually got less allergic. Our current cat he adores, oh, and he cried when the last one had to be put down.

Also, cats don't smell. Litter trays smell. Have a cat flap, and your cat will just smell of fresh air. I have never had a destructive cat either. I just love cats .

@christmastreewithhairyfairy I suggested no and am glad you are npt getting a cat against your husband's wishes. I adore cats and have two of my own but I know first hand what it is like for a cat if not everyone in the house is onboard. It will cause arguments, every tiny little thing the cat does will annoy husband and cause another fight. There is no guarantee that he will love or at least tolerate the cat. What would happen to the cat should it be a constant source of conflict.