To not put Christmas tree up yet?

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My DP really wants to put the tree up early this year. His reasoning is that we have just moved into our own place and it would be nice to have as long as possible for our DS who is one. He wants to do it tomorrow if he gets enough people to agree with him.

The reason I dont want to is we havent finished unpacking and it's all down to me. He isnt helping as he brought all the stuff to the new flat, without my help. We think this is a fair trade.

I cant however finish unpacking yet as there is storage issues. Tools still left behind by people who helped get the flat ready to live in and some drawers not yet been brought over.

So AIBU in not wanting to put it up until the flat is completely finished?

yes, exactly. Hence the decoration coming up "early", that was point

Ok. But this diversion only started because you said celebrating Christmas with decorations was Advent tradition. Which it isnt!

Surely the people leaving their tree up until Jan 6th are in a very small minority these days!

Really?

Ours stays up til a day or so before term starts. Then we have time to enjoy it. Too busy to get it up much before Christmas.

Mine goes up 15th Dec and down 3rd Jan. That's 10 days before, Xmas Day itself, then 10 days after. 21 days/3 weeks total. Long enough to make it worth all the trouble.

You will be sick of it by December.

Always go and pick out the tree the first weekend after we break up from school...which this year means Saturday 21st for me. Gets taken down on 6th Jan...as it should 👍

Tree goes up a week before xmas and down 12th nightish but then I like a real tree. People who have trees up for months either have huge houses or tiny trees.

Advent was the fasting period before the Christmas celebration. The twelve days of Christmas was decreed by the Christian church hundreds of years ago and is observed everywhere in the world that has Christianity, not just England.

All of this is probably irrelevant to most people now, even many observant Christians, but them’s the facts.

I think the "tree stays up to 6th January" people are in the minority too. Yes, traditionally the Christmas celebrations started on Christmas Day and went on for 12 days. But that's not the way we live any more, Most people are back to work 2nd or 3rd January and Christmas Day is a distant memory. For most people nowadays the 25th December is the culmination of the season, not the start of it.

Most people aren't practising Christians either and traditions are changing.

I do not have an issue with all of that and Christmas being over by Boxing Day. When the build up starts in early October, it's a blessed relief! But there is no excuse for having a tree up at any point in November.

YWBU to put it up in November, sorry DP!

We don’t put ours up until the 2nd weekend of December, it comes down on the 27th December mainly because we have a tiny living room & even the most slim tree gets in the way of the tv, curtain shutting (can only put in front of the window) & basically just getting my GD buggy in the house!

Of course ybu, it's November and you put your post on here before remembrance day so that should tell you something. Despite what the tradition is or should be Christmas is in the 12th month, the last week of December not the 11th month, and it's tacky putting it up early imo. It's bad enough having christmas music blasted out in every shop at the beginning of November never mind passing houses with the christmas decorations up way to early, but it's your choice and I guarantee that people will be talking about you if you do.

Noooooo, at least wait until December. We do 12 days before, 12 days after.

Each to their own I guess.........but we never put our decorations up until a week before Christmas and always take them down on the 2nd January.

Oh please, just stop, it's not even December

Advent Sunday - this year it's conveniently 1st December.

YANBU given the circumstances, but the date has nothing to do with it. My tree is going up this week as the build up is the best part. I would t do it until the house was ready though.

Tell him to help you get the house organised then you will put it up after, that’ll get him moving!

Absolutely ridiculous to put a Christmas tree up in November, it should be up not earlier than December 1st

I would be serious pissed off with it all after the first few weeks and want it all down

Tell him

1. No

2 Grow up

mine's up

Our tree is up already we put it up last week but it's our 1st Christmas in our new house and dp is in the army and has gone away until a few days before Christmas and we all wanted him to be involved with putting it up, made it more special for the dc. However normally it's up on December 1st

I like to do mine really early and get teased by family - I would draw the line at anything before Dec 1st.

I think December 1st is too early... so putting it up now is a definite no-no.

In our house it's decorations up on 1st December and down on New year's Day. For our first year in our flat with our son who was also 1, we did it early and I got so annoyed! I was firstly bored of it being in the room before Christmas arrived and secondly bored of constantly picking up all the decorations that DS had pulled off of it and flung around. In fact the Christmas vtree we had when he was 4 and I also had DD who was only a few months old I actually took the tree down before Christmas because I was sick of explaining to DS not to pull all the decorations off it.

2 people on my block have their trees up. 3 in my neighborhood have their outside lights up. People can do what they like of course but I personally think it takes away from the magic for everyone.

I get tucking away shopping in advance but it's not like there's insufficient build up and a time pressure if you start decorating the beginning of December - you still have a whole month

Waaaay too early! Like the shops that start Christmas in September, that really annoys the hell out of me. I think it just spoils it by starting too early, by the time Christmas comes round you’re absolutely sick of it.

Ours goes up mid December and not before!