To not put Christmas tree up yet?

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My DP really wants to put the tree up early this year. His reasoning is that we have just moved into our own place and it would be nice to have as long as possible for our DS who is one. He wants to do it tomorrow if he gets enough people to agree with him.

The reason I dont want to is we havent finished unpacking and it's all down to me. He isnt helping as he brought all the stuff to the new flat, without my help. We think this is a fair trade.

I cant however finish unpacking yet as there is storage issues. Tools still left behind by people who helped get the flat ready to live in and some drawers not yet been brought over.

So AIBU in not wanting to put it up until the flat is completely finished?

There are twelve days of Christmas - none of them are in November.

I'm a weekend before Christmas day to 6th Jan person. I'm fairly each to their own about most things but please get yourself unpacked properly first and don't subject yourself to six weeks of trying to keep a toddler away from the tree.

Far too early, why not keep it up all year?!

Surely the people leaving their tree up until Jan 6th are in a very small minority these days!

I’d say the majority of decorations round my area stay up til the 6th. I thoughts that was the norm? I think schools go back on the 6th this time.

As much as I'm for the camp of 'do whatever you want' team, I can't get my head around bringing Christmas to mid November

It 'cheapens' it for me - and no matter how many posters have said that it's the multi-millionaire people who put their tree up mid November that is absolutely not my experience living in an average northern city - as much as it may offend and I really don't mean to, the only homes that have Christmas decorations up now are low income families in social housing - I'm sure I'll be slated for posting this but this is the reality where I live.

Personally I put up my tree mid December, don't observe epiphany and take it down 2nd January - I go back to work 3rd so want a fresh start

He is insane.

The tree will be dead by Christmas. Or covered in dust if its fake.

It’s early November ffs. No tree goes up at ours til 8th December and doesn’t come down til 8th Jan.

I’m going against the grain but ours goes up late November

I hate to be the bearer of bad tidings, but toy don't have a Christmas tree problem, you have a DP problem...

No earlier than the 1st dec here.
We love Christmas but I always take it down on New Year’s Eve or day so we start the new year with a clean ,clutter free house

Your son won’t care how long it’s up and if he’s moving around already it’s going to get really boring retrieving baubles and putting them back constantly. YANBU

Since Xmas has been reduced to an annual pigfest, Xmas eve is soon enough if it has to go up at all.

I think it's sweet that he is excited about it all and wants to put the tree up early.
But...... this is too early!
I used to hate it with my ExH as his birthday is middle of December and he wouldn't entertain any kind of Christmas stuff until after his birthday.
So now my tree goes up 1st weekend of December.
As I'll be away it will probably go up a bit later this year.
I hope you can fully unpack soon OP.
Enjoy your new home!!!!

Had mine up since 3rd November. Just trying to cheer myself up a bit and honestly its helped. You don't needs people's approval put it up whenever you want to

Thinking about it .. putting up early doesn’t bother me anywhere near as much as people who leave them up well past Christmas.
We’ve got some right lazy sods round here who can’t be arsed to take them down

Who gives a shit when someone else put their tree up? The constant fucking moaning about how it's too early for Christmas really saps the excitement out of it for me every year now. I start to look forward to it around late November when the lights are switched on in town and I'm a Celebrity starts. But I feel like I'm not allowed to enjoy it properly then when it gets time to feel properly Christmassy I've spent that long listening to the Scrooges that I just can't get into it.

I'm going to destroy Easter for everyone next year by constantly complaining about it from 1st Jan. If I see someone eating a creme egg I'll inform them it's far too early and no one should eat them until Holy Thursday.

YANBU A one year old who would understand anything about Christmas to warrant a tree up just now, is your DP real. A week before is early enough.

Who gives a shit when someone else put their tree up? The constant fucking moaning about how it's too early for Christmas really saps the excitement out of it for me every year now.

because they push the shops to start the Christmas circus earlier and earlier! If no one wanted to ear about Christmas before December, there wouldn't be Christmas cards and decorations for sale from August!
By the time it's finally December, we are getting sick and tired of the whole thing, it's ruining it for everybody and making it so much less special.

I cannot live my life wishing for tomorrow, there are plenty to do and celebrate between August and December, this fixation on that one or 2 days a year is unhealthy. I have a full December of related activities because I have kids, but 3 weeks is way more than enough!

I'm going to destroy Easter for everyone next year by constantly complaining about it from 1st Jan. I honestly don't think anyone will care

@satanstoenailsandwich I agree, it’s everywhere about how we shouldn’t spend money or eat lots of food or god forbid buy our kids stuff they’d like .
We love Christmas and every year the critics get worse

It’s November.... no.

It looks as if having Xmas tree in Nov is not an issue.
Unpacking and sorting the house is an issue.
My reply would be - you can have it even tonight IF you help me/do the unpacking after work/on the weekend/day off/whatever(even middle of the night).
Sounds fair - you get the house sorted, he gets the tree nice and early.
I don’t know why people debate when it’s a good time to put it up/take it down. It’s irrelevant- even if it was middle of July, it’s non of your business.
As for 1 year old wrecking the tree - I used to keep my tree in the playpen during the day - out of reach of my kids. I would take it out if someone was visiting etc.
Good luck op - let the man have his tree but on your terms x

Tree goes up on the 24th and then taken down on the 26th.............at least that’s what I’d do if my DW didn’t insist on it being up from 1st Dec to 6th Jan!