To not put Christmas tree up yet?

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My DP really wants to put the tree up early this year. His reasoning is that we have just moved into our own place and it would be nice to have as long as possible for our DS who is one. He wants to do it tomorrow if he gets enough people to agree with him.

The reason I dont want to is we havent finished unpacking and it's all down to me. He isnt helping as he brought all the stuff to the new flat, without my help. We think this is a fair trade.

I cant however finish unpacking yet as there is storage issues. Tools still left behind by people who helped get the flat ready to live in and some drawers not yet been brought over.

So AIBU in not wanting to put it up until the flat is completely finished?

Trees in November and anything before December completely ruin Christmas - everybody gets so bored of it. How many threads and posts about early-decoration-team who kick the tree out by the 26th!

01st December is a perfect time.

The reason I dont want to is we havent finished unpacking and it's all down to me.

This is where you're being unreasonable. The reason not to want to is that it's NOVEMBER 10TH.

Tree goes up weekend before Christmas and comes down January 6th (twelfth night).

25th November is really early..... How much stuff are you doing that it's so much effort? Ours takes 30 mins once we've got the tree in the house (we get a real one).

He’s being ridiculous

Your pregnant and looking after a toddler. Doing all the packing a small unpacking vs the manual labor is not a fair trade. Not even close. Hand him a box and tell
Him to get cracking.

@DappledThings - for us Christmas is over after Christmas Day as all the Christmas events have finished then. we take the tree down the morning of NYE’s so that everything is cleared away for that nights party and ready for going back to work.

Far too early! Your ds will be bored of it ages before Christmas.
Other than that you are NBU for all the other reasons you have given.

I think it's awful actually that he's not helping you unpack just because he moved the things. It's a much harder job sorting the stuff and putting it away.
You should be doing it together and being a team!

Ours usually goes up the week before Christmas and comes down at New Year.
It takes me a week to faff with as I am quite particular. Then I like to leave it for anyone visiting to admire!

If I had my way I'd be waiting till the flat is all sorted so probably wouldn't be till December anyway.

Christmas Eve is when Christmas starts here. I put the tree up overnight. At a push the night before.

It goes away again as soon as possible after New Year.

If you store it in a slightly larger box than it needs and you can fold the branches, leave everything on it, fold it carefully into the box and put it away. Saves a lot of time the following year and you can always change it round a bit. Take batteries out of lights first though.

FFS. No!! Mid December at the earliest ....

..... and tell him to get his finger out and help you get the place sorted.

I've got mine up I love it

for us Christmas is over after Christmas Day as all the Christmas events have finished then

It's still only the 7th of the 12 days regardless of how you feel about it! I'd find it really odd going to someone house for NYE and seeing their decorations already down.

Definitely get the flat sorted first.

Also 1 year olds and Christmas trees are fucking nightmares. He'll be tugging at it and going to knock it over all the time. I'd put that misery off until at least December.

Your DS is going to trash it, he will rip off the baubles and then try to climb it 😂

Too early

Really early. Mine don’t go up until at least mid-December but they stay up until Epiphany on 6th January. Someone I know who is a very traditional Catholic leaves theirs up until candlemas at the start of February.

for us Christmas is over after Christmas Day as all the Christmas events have finished then

same here
which is why I started putting the tree on the 01st of December, it seemed a bit mean for my kids to only have a tree for a few days

i've never kept a tree after the 26 or the 27th!

That is in no way whatsoever a fair trade, get dh helping with the unpacking for goodness sake.
Also far, far too early for a Christmas tree, Christmas starts in December, never in November.

You’d be bored of it by the 1st December

YANBU.

In my opinion, you can privately do Christmas stuff whenever you like (so I am currently listening to my Christmas Playlist, which I complied a few years ago in July), but public Christmas things (of which decorating your home counts as one, because it is public to other people in your home, and any visitors you might have) should not occur until either the day after Thanksgiving (if you are American/live in America/celebrate Thanksgiving), or the 1st of December/first Sunday of Advent (whichever comes earlier - they're one and the same this year) at the earliest.

Ours will probably go up on the weekend of the 7th/8th this year, as we have grandparents coming for "fake Christmas" the weekend after. The tree in my classroom will probably go up after school on the 29th, so it's ready for the kids when they come in on the 2nd. But school decorations are allowed up earlier anyway, because we break up a week or so before Christmas.

Way too early

Dappled - we don’t bother with the 12 days but like the trees down on NYE to make as much room as possible for the party - there’s usually about 50 guests so space can be a premium.

I'm ok with him not helping with the unpacking, as I will do it properly even though it will take longer.
He got our flat to a livable standard he painted and replaced all the flooring, I couldn't help at with bringing the stuff up and he mostly did it on his own.

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Yeah the 20th of December is too late IMO.

We've put our Christmas decorations up that late a couple of times, and they seemed to come down almost as soon as we put them up!

We do the house (and garden) up a lot, and have lots of lights on the trees and bushes, and lots of decorations around the house, as well as a 7 foot high Christmas tree in the lounge, and a small (3 foot high) one in the hall, and a small (3 foot high) one in the kitchen. It takes about 10 to 12 'man hours' to do it all. (Over 2-3 days.)

So we don't want it all up for only 10 or 11 days.

If it was just a small tree and a small handful of decorations that took us an hour to do, we wouldn't mind, but having quite a lot means we want them up at least a month. (So like 1st to 3rd of December til 2nd to 4th of January.)

I can't fathom the idea of not putting anything up til Christmas Eve, and then hoiking them down within a few days. It hardly seems worth it. I'd rather have them up for 6 weeks (so from Mid November to the end of December,) than for just 6 days!

Some people come out with the old Chestnut 'what a lot of fuss for just a DAY!' It's not JUST A DAY! it's a SEASON! Christmas is a SEASON..........