To not put Christmas tree up yet?

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My DP really wants to put the tree up early this year. His reasoning is that we have just moved into our own place and it would be nice to have as long as possible for our DS who is one. He wants to do it tomorrow if he gets enough people to agree with him.

The reason I dont want to is we havent finished unpacking and it's all down to me. He isnt helping as he brought all the stuff to the new flat, without my help. We think this is a fair trade.

I cant however finish unpacking yet as there is storage issues. Tools still left behind by people who helped get the flat ready to live in and some drawers not yet been brought over.

So AIBU in not wanting to put it up until the flat is completely finished?

It is too early. Plus it was a nightmare keeping my (then 10mo) DD away from the christmas tree last year, so I'd suggest leaving it as long as possible anyway!

Ours goes up the first weekend after bonfire night and comes down around 7/01.

We do festive activities like writing cards, baking, carols and so on every week now until Christmas.

I do have a at you pre December Christmas people. I wonder why. Did you have miserable Christmases as a child? Why the need to celebrate it early?

We do festive activities like writing cards, baking, carols and so on every week now until Christmas.

That's 6 or 7 weeks long! Hey, if it makes you happy, but isn't it getting very boring by the end of December?

We are in the middle of Autumn here, doing all the autumny things with the kids. I know some areas already have snow, but I can't think of anything worst than talking about snowy things and wasting this time of year (which I do not like, but I am making an effort for the kids)

I don't know what's worse- the pre December decorators or those who take it all down on boxing Day!! All bonkers to me. Christmas day is the first day of actual christmas so mine stays up the full 12 days after. Someone near me has a tree up in the bay window already.🤨

I don't know what's worse- the pre December decorators or those who take it all down on boxing Day!! All bonkers to me. Christmas day is the first day of actual christmas so mine stays up the full 12 days after. Someone near me has a tree up in the bay window already.

I agree. I'm still lying around eating crap on the 4th January. Why people want to start tidying away on Boxing Day bemuses me. And don't all the needles fall off if you put a tree up now? Or are people using fake trees?

1st Dec at the earliest!
Ps - my son loved pulling all the baubles and lights off at that age...

I agree. I'm still lying around eating crap on the 4th January. Why people want to start tidying away on Boxing Day bemuses me

Yes to this - I love the lazy week between Christmas and New Year - visiting relatives, eating nice food and not feeling as if I have to do anything. We often have a day trip/overnight trip to a city on 2nd/3rd Jan when there are still lights up and Christmas activities like outdoor ice rinks but without the crowded streets you get in the run up to Christmas.

November is madness... Just drags it out. I mean if you're going to put it up at beginning of bloody November...why not the end if October? Why not in half term??

It's not even the middle of November!!

Ours goes up Christmas Eve.

Ours goes up the evening school breaks up!

I did all the packing and I am doing the unpacking as he has done the manual labour as I am 28 weeks pregnant and have to look after DS.

Does he sit and watch while you do it all?

Just because he moved everything in?

It's your family home ffs!

Did you have miserable Christmases as a child? Why the need to celebrate it early?

Because we like it

Hey, if it makes you happy, but isn't it getting very boring by the end of December?
Nope, it’s always hugely disappointing to take it all down but we then have birthdays etc to look forward to. And even I would object to decorations up in spring.

Just drags it out.

‘Dragging out’ something that makes you happy can only a good thing though surely?You wouldn’t call extending a holiday abroad that you enjoy ‘dragging it out’.

I mean if you're going to put it up at beginning of bloody November...why not the end if October? Why not in half term??

Half term is the build up to Halloween, which we also love. End of October is bonfire night build up, which we enjoy just as much.

Soz you hate Christmas.

Do you all have plastic trees?

If we put our tree up even 1. Dec. it wouldn't have one needle left by Christmas .

@ThatMuppetShow I don't know why people take their decorations down before New Year. I do because once Christmas is gone, so 26th here really, I can't see the point of a Christmas tree anymore. Can't be celebrating the new year with last year decoration still on  I am not trying to say what people should do, just why I do it that way! We do live the outside lights until the kids go back to school at leat because it's so dark and miserable outside, they feel quite pretty and welcoming. I wouldn't leave a flashing Santa though.

Do you buy new decorations every year?

No I don't, but on the 01st of January 2020, Christmas 2019 decoration will be "last year" - and I like a fresh new clean start! I do buy a new tree every year though.

For me, it would be a bit like putting your holiday on a credit card, you come back and have to do the boring bit (pay for it). New year's day is not about cleaning the house from all the old Christmas bits.

I look forward TO Christmas in December, I don't need to look back at it, photos are more than enough.

But Christmas is the first day of the 12 days of Christmas. It isn’t over yet at New Year.

Should be “Christmas Day is the first..”

I am not familiar with the "12 days of Christmas" any further than the song, not something we have ever celebrated.

Mine has been up since June.

November is far too early, and I'm another one that doesn't understand the take it down boxing day nonsense. This year it will go up on the 14th and will come down around 3rd January 🎄

Shudder, yes, ours is fake, looks fabulous, doesn't drop needles and doesn't cost £50 a year for a tree!!

@Hellofromtheotherside2020

Mine is up already!!! 😂

Had a shitty year, mum passed away a few months ago and I've lost some close friends this year too through suicide and cancer. Wanted to put the tree up to cheer myself and my children up, figured life's too short so just did it. No regrets!

Awww, that's lovely. Sorry you have had some losses this year.

@Hellofromtheotherside2020

Mine is up already!!! 😂

Had a shitty year, mum passed away a few months ago and I've lost some close friends this year too through suicide and cancer. Wanted to put the tree up to cheer myself and my children up, figured life's too short so just did it. No regrets!

Awww, that's lovely. Sorry you have had some losses this year.

Don't know why that posted twice!

@Redspider1

I do have a at you pre December Christmas people.
Did you have miserable Christmases as a child?

What a breathtakingly ridiculous thing to say. Not to mention rude.

We don't put the Christmas tree and decorations and lights up til the first weekend of December, but of the people I know who start mid to late November, all of them (AND me and DH - who start in early December and have them all up 4-5 weeks,) had WONDERFUL Christmases as a child.

Indeed, people who had miserable Christmases as a child, are LESS likely to want to celebrate Christmas, not more! So your comment makes no sense.

I do think putting Christmas decorations/lights/tree up in mid November is a BIT early, but if someone wants to put them up then, then good luck to them. Better that, than not putting them up til 22nd-23rd December, then taking them all down on Bloody Boxing Day morning, because 'Christmas is over now.'

Like a few others on here, I don't know a soul in real life who classes Christmas as over by Boxing day, and takes the Christmas tree and decorations down. (Especially if they only went up on the 23rd of December!)

I can't imagine classing Christmas as over at midnight on Christmas Day, and I can't believe anyone in real life thinks it is. Christmas is NOT over by Boxing Day. Many people don't finish celebrating Christmas til 2nd or 3rd of January.

We don't! We have our Boxing Day family buffet on Boxing day afternoon, where we have 12 to 15 family members around, eating and drinking, and playing games. Then 27th December, we go for a long walk with some people in the village, and have a few beers at the local pub, then on the 28th we go to the city (half hour on the train,) for the sales.

Then 29th and 30th is spent chilling, watching TV, and visiting people, (neighbours and extended family,) and then the 31st of December is the Village pub New Year's Eve Party - fancy dress, big buffet, and LOADS of drink. And not home til 2am! New year's day morning is spent recovering from the booze, (with plenty of coffee and a big cooked breakfast,) and in the afternoon, we have a lovely New Year's Day meal at the pub.

How anyone can say Christmas is over by Christmas night/Boxing day morning just baffles me. I'd could never be with/live with someone who thinks that.

@TheMasterBaker

My husband was a complete Bah Humbug when we got together, hated Christmas, he lost his brother a few days before Christmas one year and his mum a couple of days after another year so it's not surprising that time of year became a dreaded time for him.

Then since our eldest arrived, he has got more and more Christmassy each year and now I think he's actually worse than me (and that's a difficult feat!). I just love seeing how happy Christmas makes him now. He gave me a big hug and a kiss when I finished the tree last night night and his face lights up when he looks at it.

Awww, that's a heartwarming and moving story with a happy ending.