To not put Christmas tree up yet?

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My DP really wants to put the tree up early this year. His reasoning is that we have just moved into our own place and it would be nice to have as long as possible for our DS who is one. He wants to do it tomorrow if he gets enough people to agree with him.

The reason I dont want to is we havent finished unpacking and it's all down to me. He isnt helping as he brought all the stuff to the new flat, without my help. We think this is a fair trade.

I cant however finish unpacking yet as there is storage issues. Tools still left behind by people who helped get the flat ready to live in and some drawers not yet been brought over.

So AIBU in not wanting to put it up until the flat is completely finished?

1st of December? Seriously? Ours doesn't go up til the last weekend before Christmas. And if DP had his way it would come down the day after boxing day.

Sunday before Christmas. Down jan 5th. Then I start planning redecorating as the room looks so bare!

12 days both ways.
12th Dec to 6th Jan

A tree and a 1 year old is a nightmare combination.

He will pull off the decs, which are not safety compliant for children, he could pull the whole thing down etc.

It is nice that your DH is excited and wants to get going though.

But a tree in the first half of November is embarrassing.

November is way too early plus it will be hell with a one year ... the cinstant playing if baubles and having to put them back on....
if I were you I’d shove the tree up your dhs arse.

I'd rather someone was excited about christmas than couldn't care less.

But - by putting things up so early it will probably end up not being so special, you'll be sick to death of it gathering dust and being in the way while you still have other stuff to sort out. The rule in this house is that everywhere is clean and tidy and put to rights otherwise it would drive me mad!
I can always remember how special putting the tree up was when I was a child, at most a week before Christmas, and it seemed such a long time until the 'big day' and Santa's visit, that I sometimes feel the magic is lost if it is done too early.

Mine goes up 2 sundays before christmas which was after the Christingle service and down on 12th night.

Mine is up already! Went up last night. I normally put it up at the end of November but we're moving house, looking like completion before Christmas so it's all going to have to come down early and if I only have it up for a short time, DH and the kids will be upset. I love Christmas but because of the moving stuff, I've not felt really in the spirit so I'm hoping having it all up will help me chill a bit and not be worrying about the solicitors and packing etc.
Just say you'll put it up once the boxes are all unpacked etc, maybe he'll help get them unpacked quicker so it's a win win.

I will add, mine normally comes down on 28th December as as far as I'm concerned Christmas is over once Boxing Day finishes, but DH won't let me take it down on 26th or 27th.

Oh nooooo! It isn't Christmas 🎄

I also find the 'Christmas is over on Boxing day' mantra very odd too (as well as tedious.) It's really NOT over on Boxing day.

It might not be for you, but Christmas is definitively over for me when the 25th is gone.

It leaves place to preparing and celebrating New Year's Eve and the new year in general. I usually buy a Kings Cake for Epiphany, but the tree is long gone.

The reason I wouldn't put my tree any earlier than the 01st is because life is too short, and I don't want to waste November focusing on the one day that will happen at the end of December instead of enjoying it.
We spend around 3 weeks? doing all the Christmassey things with the kids, that is way more than enough if you ask me!

We tend to put ours up the 2nd weekend of December, around 10th. Its comes down 27th-30th ready for a deep clean before NYs. 2-3 weeks is more than enough time for the decorations to be up.

Your ds is 1. All he’ll do for the next 6 weeks is dismantle the tree and hide the decorations. It’ll be stressful!

Why would you want that for longer than is necessary? Leave it until mid December.

@PrincessHoneysuckle that's beautiful! I love the colour scheme. We are aiming for the weekend but it could be before that.
We love Christmas and it's never been spoilt or boring by being early in our house.
Ho Ho Ho

1st here. I lovvvvveeee Christmas but it comes down on twelfth night, that’s plenty long enough over a month! Everything is happier when the decs are up

Lol @ the low income comment, what a load of absolute shit. Do tell that to the £5million + houses in London who already have their houses (professionally) done by the time the lights are turned on in 2 weeks. Tamara Ecclestone did hers yesterday, I hear she’s hard up for a few bob.

If you put it up now there will be nothing special about Christmas. We decorate about 20th December and take it all down on twelfth night

Point out that it will spoil Christmas for DS if the tree is up too long, as it won't hold any magic for him when it's been part of the general décor for 6 weeks.

Leaving it until well into December,let you oh buy an advent calendar.If you're using a fake tree then find a way to fix it to a wall so your 1 yr old can't pull it over.

He should help you unpack ,and then you both put the tree up

LTB.

Christmas is a 12 day festival, preceded by Advent which this year actually begins on December 1st because it's the first of the four Sundays preceding Christmas Day.

I think it's so sad when decorations and festivities stop after St Stephen's day (aka Boxing Day) or at New Year's Day. I think many people have tired of it all by then because they begin too soon.

Of course the shops and TV advertising kicks in early, but why would we let commercial timetables for profit drive what we do at home?

Having a real tree and choosing it in the field means we never rush, or it wouldn't last. Our children had an Advent wreath with candles in the run up which made it special.

This thread has shown how we all do things differently to fit in with our lifestyles and family traditions. I don’t like Christmas starting too early - seems to get earlier each year but by Boxing Day the present giving, parties and eating and drinking too much are over and we then move onto going back to work, the NYE party and then on 1 January time to start the next year.

Sorry for your loss @Hellofromtheotherside2020. If it cheers you up to have it up now, that's great. When I had PND after having my eldest, I put the tree up at the end of October because Christmas makes me happy and it did make me feel a bit more cheerful.
My husband was a complete Bah Humbug when we got together, hated Christmas, he lost his brother a few days before Christmas one year and his mum a couple of days after another year so it's not surprising that time of year became a dreaded time for him. Then since our eldest arrived, he has got more and more Christmassy each year and now I think he's actually worse than me (and that's a difficult feat!). I just love seeing how happy Christmas makes him now. He gave me a big hug and a kiss when I finished the tree last night night and his face lights up when he looks at it.

Seconded on 12 days both ways / 12th Dec to 6th Jan and sentiments about Advent and people being bored by it all because it starts to early. Hold your ground!

Way too early! Our tree always goes up the first week of December and I take it down on 2nd January as DS birthday on 3rd.

I have always tried to keep it separate so his birthday feels special, especially because people always seemed to get him joint birthday and Christmas presents. He'll be 21 in January and probably wouldn't notice either way any more, but I'll keep doing it that way anyway.

With a 1 year old I definitely wouldn't put it up for a while yet.