To be outraged that some people are so quick to judge?!

[sugarmatches]

Okay I know that there are some really strong opinions posted here and of course everyone has a right to their opinions...
But why post something that is so judgemental? Ultimately there are 7,000 responses and no one can be bothered to read through anyway. Seems pointless to me.
I would never judge the way someone chooses to raise their children because people (and children) are all different.
I in no way support abuse, and don't smack myself, but I have a friend who does...and I can ever so slightly see why. But I would never say anything because she has a right to do things her own way as a parent.

Far too long since this was trotted out:

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mind boggles at all that bad language by someone who beliefs in non violence approach so much and therefore never ever loses her rag...hm....

I was smacked as a child, I am not fucked up at all, we are all well adjusted people. My old neighbours allowed their children to do what they want, they all ended up in prison. I do smack my kids, just only as a last resort. I have 3 kids, 1 with Cerebral palsy, 1 with CP and ADHD and one 'normal' child. The girls are the hardest work, especially the one with ADHD, and she is very hard work. Judge me all you want, they love me, and I love them...

Wat is worse, a smack very occasionaly or me screaming at them all time, like I hear on the estate 'you little f*cker, I hate you etctetc'

Dabbles, I actually agree with what you are saying in that I believe that smacking is wrong. I believe that it generally happens because a parent has actually lost control. I have only smacked once, when my dd1 ran towards a road and ignored me, was actually laughing - I lost it and smacked her leg - mainly because I was so damned frightened. I deeply regret it and did almost as soon as it was done; it had an impact on our relationship for a while. I have had to struggle not to a few times, particularly with my 2 year old. I know that I am irrationaly angry with her on occasions, logically I know that she is 2 and that being 2 is all about pushing boundaries but sometimes she does get me so very riled that I have to control myself. Sometimes I shout instead (not constantly but enough to release some pent up frustration). I think that generally most parents don't see smacking as an ideal. Until I smacked my daughter I could say "don't smack, I never smack you" and suddenly I couldn't say that anymore. I do think it sets a bad example and I do think there are other methods that you can set in place instead.

However I really don't like the way that you are expressing your views - I find them really offensive, particularly your use of the term "retard" - I think it is particularly low and hurtful to speak in such a derogatory manner about someone elses children. Your aggressive manner really does not help your argument and you are alienating people that might possibly agree with you in principle.

The original postee is very on track - but this is the only place I can be judgemental. As women (and are there any men out there?) women are not permitted to have opinions, we are assigned to neutral jobs - at least her anonymously we can have opinions.