To be outraged that some people are so quick to judge?!

[sugarmatches]

Okay I know that there are some really strong opinions posted here and of course everyone has a right to their opinions...
But why post something that is so judgemental? Ultimately there are 7,000 responses and no one can be bothered to read through anyway. Seems pointless to me.
I would never judge the way someone chooses to raise their children because people (and children) are all different.
I in no way support abuse, and don't smack myself, but I have a friend who does...and I can ever so slightly see why. But I would never say anything because she has a right to do things her own way as a parent.

without indepth research i am gonna go with having an absent parent is preferable to being smacked about... i might be wrong...

okay i'll give you time to look it up

LOL Dabbles you haven't got a bloody clue.

ofcourse the child may not appreciate that untill they are an adult and have children themselves...

No, you lot are soo right... I can so see how a pyshologisy would argue the case for lettign a child stay with an abusinve parent, that being preferable...

*psychologist

As I said, I was smacked as a child, and I also had an absent parent from the age of 12. I know which effected me more.

My children are also occasionally smacked, and they also have an absent parent, and I get to see every minute if every day that having an absent parent effects them 10000000 times more than an ocasional smack.

nutcracker and iuseantiageingstuff u both have degrees in child psychology i assume?

There is a world of difference between an occasional smack and being "smacked about".

Wicked, I never said that!!!
And a business (?!), nice attitude really. I think forums like these are important for people that need help and advice.
And I am sure that your strong views about smacking is influencing your post. Now if it was another topic, maybe things would be different.

Oh you are so fucking up yourself Dabbles.

nutcracker, you personal experience does not give u the right to advocate violence against innocent children...

So being an occasional smacker makes me a child abuser then does it Dabbles ???

Do you actually read anyone else posts properly.

well, lets see nutcracker.. do u leave marks or bruises?

No

personally i am more concerned about parents who make out how perfect they are ,i have seen parents smack their children in public and it does make me feel uncomfortable.But i have worked in playgroups and one mother made a big fuss every time things werent just right,she was to all a perfect mum until one of my staff members caught her pinching her child hard on the arm when she would not put her coat on,this was done when the mum thought no one was looking

well, then no nutcracker, you aren't - officially.

iuseantiageingstuff - erm, duno what u r implying i can assure u i do not pinch my children...

am just wondering how the fuck i have been villified for saying hitting/smackign a small child is wrong?

What a strange thread this is. It just seems to be an argument between a couple of posters.

Get on with it, girls. Go for it

But in your opinion I am , is that what the 'offically' meant ??

You are being villified for your attitude Dabbles.

nutcracker - to reiterate, I just think it is wrong to smack children. Thats all.

I was smacked as a child, and I smacked my children. They didn't hit other children at school and neither did I. What I think is worse than smacking is the constant fishwife screaming at children a lot of the mums around here do. My mum also had a great line in snide criticism which I can testify is 100,000 times worse than being smacked.

Note smacked not "smacked about"- there is a world of difference.

It was relatively normal to smack when I had DD1 (21) but I doubt we'll smack DD2 because things have changed and TV programmes now show us alternatives. That just didn't exist 20 years ago so I just brought my children up the way I was brought up (minus the snide comments).

It's interesting that Dabbles has 2 DDs. Does anyone with 3 DSs (including 1 with ADHD) have the same smug attitude?

Oh well thats great, good job I don't care what you think then really isn't it.

May god strike me down please if i ever become as patronising as you.

Thats wasn't to you evenhope.