To ask what things you'd do, if you weren't worried about being judged...

[stilltiredinthemorning]

I worry way too much about what other people (often strangers) think of me...

I am trying to work on this, but I think in reality it's probably a pretty fundamental part of my personality that I am unlikely to change.

There are probably quite a few things I would do/not do (mainly related to my children) if it wasn't for fear of being judged.

My top 3 are:

• Let my eldest (nearly 4) watch telly on a tablet in restaurants once she's finished her food, so I can enjoy mine.
• Potty trained later.
• Drive my daughter the 15 minute walk home from pre-school (to avoid the 25 million mini tantrums that mean it takes us at least 30 minutes)

What are yours?

Let my eldest (nearly 4) watch telly on a tablet in restaurants once she's finished her food, so I can enjoy mine. oh yes I do this already. I don’t give a crap. Although using headphones. Why wouldn’t you? Unless you want to really engage your kids all mealtimes and never have an adult conversation.

Have a threesome (with two men) whilst high on champagne,

I’d leave the house without make up on

Hahahaha Winky, love the growling 😂

Leave my job and do something totally different

I'd have an extra half hour in bed and go to work having showered, brushed teeth and hair, rather than spending time on make up and styling hair.

Park my car in a tight space after about 40 attempts instead of driving on looking for another space.

Not bother with mealtimes and just graze on vast quantities of mostly junk food.

Play the same song on repeat eight or ten times if I was in the mood for it.

Just go home from work whenever I was tired and didn't feel like working any more that day.

If I thought somebody was wrong about some minor fact in conversation, stop and get my phone out in front of them and google it then and there. Not to shove it in their face but just to know straight away.

Make really loud grunty noises when I exercise.

Tell people how much I earn

Leave a conversation when the small talk bored me, or if i was struggling to keep it going.

Eat as much as i want when in a cafe/restaurant. I have a huge appetite and usually under order. I'm a size 8-10 so it's not about fat shaming, i'm not sure where it comes from but I'd love to just ignore it.

I honestly can't remember the last time I gave a fuck about being judged for anything by anyone. Why would you care? Own your own life and live it as you want, not by what you think you may be judged on by other people.

Take my inflatable dolphin to outdoor swimming pools. I've always wanted to do that. (I bought her when we rented a villa in Italy. I thought, "God, I've always wanted one of those ... ")

Wear pajamas or a kaftan all the time. Never ever wear a bra of any description.
Sit down for a little while whenever and wherever I happened to feel like it.
Tell people exactly what I think of them.

Shave my head.

I'd do it if I lived on a desert island.

Tell sil1 she's a selfish cow who has only ever put herself first. And actually love as you told me not to marry dh 29 years ago because he was a capitalist bastard, don't you ever, ever ask him for money again. But DH would judge me for being a cow if I did that.

I'd leave me (very bright, very sensible and self-sufficient) youngest at home alone for short periods while collecting siblings from school.

OP re the walk home. A micro scooter saved my sanity when my youngest was that age.

Does she have a name time40 ?

I would also refer to lots more objects by their ‘given by me name’ but I fear that I would be exposed as utterly mental.

Only talk and make an effort with people I want to and to just tell others i literally don’t care what you’re talking about !

Give my political opinion in real life in my very mixed political work place!

100% wear my jammies outside of the house (clean ones of course)

I would go braless
Wear socks and crocs in winter

The affair one in interesting!!

I have quite a few pairs of Mary Janes, a piercing and I don’t mind a good swearing session. I wish I’d been a lot more sexually adventurous! No fear of being judged holds me back, just lack of opportunity.

Apart from the affair, pjs outside, and farting/burping in public, I think everyone should do their things!

I'd let my hair go grey, or maybe dye it blond. I'd wear bright red lipstick and outlandish, colourful, handmade clothing.

I'd let my 7 year old stay home with his very responsible 12 year old brother when I needed to go to the shops.

I'd get rid of the grass in my back garden and plant loads of trees randomly instead.

I would lose all the guilt of being a sahm to school age children.

I would turn down social invitations all the time without feeling rude ( I've gotten better at this).

I'd never host another play date. My DC see their friends all day at school and quite often at other activities. I don't need more children in my house.

Wear pyjamas out of the house. They’re what I wear in the house and if I only need to pop out for a little while to buy some milk or similar I hate having to get dressed when I know once I come back I’ll be straight back into my PJs, but I’m not brave enough to rock the pyjamas-in-the-supermarket look.

Same, this thread has made me realise how little I care about what people think of me. I already knew that of course but this confirms it more.

I already do a lot of these things, like tell people to fuck off if they’re rude, say “I’m off now” if I’m not enjoying the convo, put my massive headphones on when I can’t be bothered to talk even if I can see someone making eye contact, wear what I like, swear when I want, leave my car a mess, not go in for things like conventional beauty standards, still listen to grunge and on and on.

I would never judge you for any of those things. If you farted next to me I would just laugh