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AIBU?

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Biscuits - WIBU?

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Notmytelescope · 09/11/2019 18:25

So for starters I accept this is a ridiculous, petty thing but I’d appreciate some outside perspective.

The backstory: On Thursday DH went shopping and bought a packet of biscuits ( nice ones with stem ginger in - the kind that come in a box...).

Friday AM before I went to work there was almost the whole packet left. DH was at home all day.

Saturday AM, I fancied a biscuit with my coffee and they were all gone. I called him a greedy piggy.

Sat PM I rumaged in the freezer for some cookie dough I had stashed away and there was enough for 6 small ‘biscuit muffins’. Come tea time I shared these with the DCs. I said DH couldn’t have one as he’d eaten all the biscuits yesterday. (DH has a habit of always eating anything if is opened)

He is now sulking and not talking to me. I think he is being ridculous and I am pissed off with him for his over reaction. Or am I being harsh?

Who is being unreasonable?

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CAG12 · 10/11/2019 09:53

@SandAndSeals are you monitering everytime I post and just replying to me?! 😂

ThatMuppetShow · 10/11/2019 09:56

Again, it's not the same at all when the relationship is child/ parents and 2 adults.

RhiWrites · 10/11/2019 09:56

No ones saying he can’t have biscuits. But it’s ridiculous that he can eat an entire packet of biscuits, leaving none for anyone else and posters think it’s fine because the food belongs to everyone.

It doesn’t bloody belong to everyone if he pigs it all!

Also, this is why people are fat. Because eating an entire packet of biscuits in a day has been normalised.

ThatMuppetShow · 10/11/2019 10:00

APerkyPumpkin

I am a woman, a wife and a mother, so definitively female, and I am behaving like an adult - if I feel like having lunch when I am working from home, I am making myself lunch, and I need to use a steak or some eggs I will.

The others will have something else that night or the following day.

If you can't see the difference between a meal taken in common, or just having the others in the house with you, and being on your own at home, it's a bit disturbing.

I don't have to tip toe in my own house, and neither would DH. It's not a life. That thread sounds hilarious until you realise that people are genuinely getting that worked up about it!

APerkyPumpkin · 10/11/2019 10:12

If you can't see the difference between a meal taken in common, or just having the others in the house with you, and being on your own at home, it's a bit disturbing.

If you eat all the biscuits when you are home alone, leaving none for anyone else, then it's you that has a disturbing habit, not me.

SandAndSeals · 10/11/2019 10:15

I think this thread makes it very clear which posters are the greedy pigs in their households and which posters live with greedy pigs.

ThatMuppetShow · 10/11/2019 10:21

If you eat all the biscuits when you are home alone, leaving none for anyone else, then it's you that has a disturbing habit, not me.

yes, all the 53 packs of family-size biscuits, the 44 packs of family bags of crisps, the 12 LARGE bottles of soda and the 25 pots of Ben & Jerry.
That's what I do when I work from home, that's exactly what the thread is about, spot on

because MN cannot picture a miserable pack of biscuits without jumping to obesity and calling people pigs.

m0therofdragons · 10/11/2019 10:33

I'd be a bit at Dh but humiliating him in front of dc? No way. I have a bad thing for tiger bread and have consumed an entire loaf in the past. I expect to be able to eat what the fuck I like as an adult without a guilt trip though! (I'm a healthy weight FYI but even if I wasn't, I don't need another adult's judgement). Why didn't you just say "oh I liked those biscuits, please can you pop out and pick some more up?"

northernknickers · 10/11/2019 10:45

I'd be pissed off that I didn't get a look in on the biscuit front...BUT...ffs what's with the 'greedy piggy' nonsense??? Is that seriously what you said?? If anyone over the age of 3 said that to me I'd be 😱

Use adult language (if you feel the need to call him out!) Jesus!

AlexaAmbidextra · 10/11/2019 13:25

HE bought the biscuits and HE ate them all. Thats really as far as this issue should got. If the OP wanted some, she should have bought some.

Posters on here are always droning on about ‘family money’, ie. if you’re in a partnership, no money is an individual’s, it’s there for the benefit of the whole family. Surely then, the same applies to food? Just because he actually plucked the biscuits from the supermarket shelf and handed over money for them, this shouldn’t mean they are his biscuits but family biscuits.

CAG12 · 10/11/2019 13:52

"If you’re in a partnership, no money is an individual’s, it’s there for the benefit of the whole family"

Entirely dependant on how your organise your family finances surely? In my family, we pay a certain amount into the joint account that covers bills etc, then the rest is the induviduals

AlexaAmbidextra · 10/11/2019 15:17

Entirely dependant on how your organise your family finances surely? In my family, we pay a certain amount into the joint account that covers bills etc, then the rest is the

Quite. It’s not my thinking. I was just quoting so many others on here.

nethunsinthatway · 10/11/2019 15:43

For hose going on about “an entire Packet of biscuits, the post ones usually have a grand total of 6 biscuits.

TinklyLittleLaugh · 10/11/2019 15:53

In our house we do actually do sharing and “rationing” if you like. When my kids were small they knew that a pack of four critters corners meant one each. Even now, if some of us are cracking a chocolate orange in front of the telly, someone will nip upstairs with the share belonging to the person who is lurking in their bedroom.

Maybe it’s just a big family budgeting thing.

Certainly scoffing a steak or some chicken at lunchtime would never happen.

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Notmytelescope · 10/11/2019 18:46

wow! Seems I touched a nerve.

perhaps the ‘greedy piggy’ seems off. But this is a family joke to which one of us normally laughs and responds with an ‘oink,oink’ - forget you now have to put ‘light-hearted’ on mumsnet.

As many posters have mentioned upthread DH is a constant hoover of snacks and treats. I was fed up with having to explain to DS (4) that once again there wern’t any biscuits.

I don’t police DH but I would like there sometimes to be some left for the rest of us. I was petty over not sharing the biscuits I made but I was proving a point.

I have frequently spoken to DH about this in an adult way but it falls on deaf ears.

To those who feel that as he bought these biscuits, then me and the kids should have no claim on them - should this also apply to the rest of the weekly shop which DH bought at the same time? (I feel that there is an assumption on here that a DH is only going to be popping tonthr corner shop for himself - not going to Lidl for bog roll and onions? - which is presumably my job as a DW?) That I should have to buy seperate milk and bananas so that DH can binge on the lot if he wants?

DH was definitely huffing over not having any of my cookies rather than anything else. He is now over it and all is back to normal Chez Telescope!

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