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Biscuits - WIBU?

190 replies

Notmytelescope · 09/11/2019 18:25

So for starters I accept this is a ridiculous, petty thing but I’d appreciate some outside perspective.

The backstory: On Thursday DH went shopping and bought a packet of biscuits ( nice ones with stem ginger in - the kind that come in a box...).

Friday AM before I went to work there was almost the whole packet left. DH was at home all day.

Saturday AM, I fancied a biscuit with my coffee and they were all gone. I called him a greedy piggy.

Sat PM I rumaged in the freezer for some cookie dough I had stashed away and there was enough for 6 small ‘biscuit muffins’. Come tea time I shared these with the DCs. I said DH couldn’t have one as he’d eaten all the biscuits yesterday. (DH has a habit of always eating anything if is opened)

He is now sulking and not talking to me. I think he is being ridculous and I am pissed off with him for his over reaction. Or am I being harsh?

Who is being unreasonable?

OP posts:
SandAndSeals · 09/11/2019 19:37

There’s a lot of double standard issues here. DP is entitled to eat all biscuits and not share with family.
OP is not entitled to share biscuits between her and DC without also sharing with DH.

How did we arrive at that logic exactly?

MsPotterPepper · 09/11/2019 19:38

You want something, you ask or you go yourself, how hard is it

Can people not expect some levels of thoughtfulness from their partners?

SandAndSeals · 09/11/2019 19:39

how was he supposed to guess he would be banned from eating the cookie dough that was in the freezer?....

How was OP supposed to guess that DH would eat an entire a pack of biscuits and only have 6 ’small’ freezer biscuits to share amongst her and DC (and be vilified for not also including DH)...?

Gileadisreal · 09/11/2019 19:40

Crikey. HE ate the biscuits that HE bought.

He is not an infant that needs reprimanding. That would really piss me off to be honest.

BarbaraofSeville · 09/11/2019 19:41

So DH had a whole packet of biscuits and you and DC shared six cookies, and you're the unreasonable one? Hmm

It was the Borders dark chocolate ones wasn't it? LTB

Don't you know you should have an unlimited food budget to buy enough biscuits to satisfy a greedy selfish bottomless DH and leave enough for everyone else to have one too?

Or take the advice in this thread.

Iloveacurry · 09/11/2019 19:42

Quite frankly I don’t blame you. Let him sulk.

ThatMuppetShow · 09/11/2019 19:42

Can people not expect some levels of thoughtfulness from their partners?

blimey, I must be a shit wife, never occurs to me to check the content of the cupboard and fridge to ensure there's enough to satisfy any craving the man of the house might have. If DH - or I - fancy something, we ask the other to get it or pick it up on the way home ourself.

Instead of arguing in front of the kids about a miserable biscuit. We are weird like that.

Frenchw1fe · 09/11/2019 19:43

My dd has this with her fiancé and fruit. They usually shop together and can easily spend £10. on fruit and yet if she doesn’t take some to hide at work she will not get a look in.
I would be annoyed if I thought we had nice biscuits and one person had eaten the whole pack. It’s pretty inconsiderate.

IAmcuriousyellow · 09/11/2019 19:44

I get it OP. If he hadn’t eaten all the biscuits, the kind of thing a child would do, then he wouldn’t have been treated like one. It’s just greed. How do you teach your kids not to scoff everything if it’s ok for him to do it?

ThatMuppetShow · 09/11/2019 19:45

In a minute, it's going to be about the posh biscuits or chocolate, and I still haven't figured out what 's that supposed to be after the last thread Grin

Squirrelplay · 09/11/2019 19:45

I get it OP! I hide my stash in the two places he'll never look: my handbag and the vegetable drawer in the fridge. Otherwise it's gone - no matter how much I buy if it's chocolate or biscuits it's gone.

saraclara · 09/11/2019 19:45

He bought biscuits for himself. He ate them (he was at home all day, so he wasn't guzzling them in front of you and not allowing you to have any). If you'd bought them for yourself, you'd have a point.

You brought your children into your beef with him. That's inexcusable. If a man posted that he'd be ripped to shreds on here.

MsPotterPepper · 09/11/2019 19:46

If DH - or I - fancy something, we ask the other to get it or pick it up on the way home ourself

So you really never expect anything to be in already? You just presume the items have been eaten?

Yes, that is very weird.

TheGoogleMum · 09/11/2019 19:46

I get annoyed when dh eats over his share of goodies and I miss out! So I sympathise. 2 wrongs don't make a right though so the better lesson for the kids would have been to share the ones you made (if I was feeling petty I might not have shared them either though to be fair!). Tell DH him eating all the biscuits is annoying you though

NotTonightJosepheen · 09/11/2019 19:46

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SandAndSeals · 09/11/2019 19:47

Crikey. HE ate the biscuits that HE bought

Crickets SHE (and the children) ate all the biscuits that SHE stashed.

If it’s fine for him, why isn’t it fine for her to do the same?

Lollypop701 · 09/11/2019 19:47

The dh behaves like a child, eating all the biscuits and still expecting to have a share of everyone else’s.. as pp have said greed isn’t attractive. I would have lost patience too op.

BoneyBackJefferson · 09/11/2019 19:48

SandAndSeals
There’s a lot of double standard issues here. DP is entitled to eat all biscuits and not share with family.
OP is not entitled to share biscuits between her and DC without also sharing with DH.

How did we arrive at that logic exactly?

by the same logic that it is ok for the OP to hold a grudge for 24 hrs and undermine her husband in front of the kids
but its not ok for him to "sulk".

Bananashake · 09/11/2019 19:50

How many biscuits are we talking family pack unreasonable packet of 6 totally understandable.

ThatMuppetShow · 09/11/2019 19:51

So you really never expect anything to be in already? You just presume the items have been eaten?

Yes, that is very weird.

After other people have been home and I haven't? Ahem yes, they have full access to the fridge and the house, they don't have to call me to ask if it's ok to eat something or to have a friend around, and could they please give a tea to the guest and use MY milk?

As long as there are plans to FEED the kids one way or another, why on earth would I care?!

I also raise my kids to not bicker about food and be petty. 🤷

ThatMuppetShow · 09/11/2019 19:52

Crickets SHE (and the children) ate all the biscuits that SHE stashed.

If it’s fine for him, why isn’t it fine for her to do the same?

Simple, he was home alone and had no one around so no need to share.
She was in front of him and being frankly ridiculous. A husband doing similar and sending her away forbidding her to eat her share would be called abusive. Is that even real?!

overnightangel · 09/11/2019 19:54

OP does he have a curfew on a school night as well?
I’d be turning to something stronger than biscuits

arethereanyleftatall · 09/11/2019 19:54

It's shit like this that make me so glad I'm single.

Croquembou · 09/11/2019 19:55

The language used around food on this site is really unhealthy.

If a woman came on here and said their partner had called them a 'greedy piggy', there'd be outrage.

There's worse things in life than enjoying a biscuit. There were still sweet treats available. Life is so short.

NotTonightJosepheen · 09/11/2019 19:55

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