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Biscuits - WIBU?

190 replies

Notmytelescope · 09/11/2019 18:25

So for starters I accept this is a ridiculous, petty thing but I’d appreciate some outside perspective.

The backstory: On Thursday DH went shopping and bought a packet of biscuits ( nice ones with stem ginger in - the kind that come in a box...).

Friday AM before I went to work there was almost the whole packet left. DH was at home all day.

Saturday AM, I fancied a biscuit with my coffee and they were all gone. I called him a greedy piggy.

Sat PM I rumaged in the freezer for some cookie dough I had stashed away and there was enough for 6 small ‘biscuit muffins’. Come tea time I shared these with the DCs. I said DH couldn’t have one as he’d eaten all the biscuits yesterday. (DH has a habit of always eating anything if is opened)

He is now sulking and not talking to me. I think he is being ridculous and I am pissed off with him for his over reaction. Or am I being harsh?

Who is being unreasonable?

OP posts:
mrsmuddlepies · 09/11/2019 18:57

There was a thread from a woman about virtually the same thing but it was her who had eaten the sweet stuff and her husband reprimanding her. The cries of LTB and the vitriolic comments about him were in the hundreds.
YABVU

Hefzi · 09/11/2019 18:57

Quite spiteful of you, OP, and a weird narrative around food "greedy piggy" FFS Hmm

EvaHarknessRose · 09/11/2019 19:01

We kind of work on a 'your fair share' system here, so everyone knows it's one each if it's a pack of four, two if a pack of eight, adults cede spares to kids if it's a pack of six, and then if anyone doesn't have/like that thing then you can ask to have it. But I wouldn't call someone I cared about greedy. Yabu and so is he.

Megsmcgoo · 09/11/2019 19:01

The solution is just buy more biscuits and no one would be without Grin

I would be fucked off if my husband ate them all, did he view them as ‘his’ because he bought them?

ThatMuppetShow · 09/11/2019 19:01

You are - since when can't an adult eat the food that is available at home!

Just buy yourself some kind of biscuit storage box, ask your DH to buy 2 packs of every treat next time, put yours in the box and ask him NOT to take them.

Slappadabass · 09/11/2019 19:01

YABU, I'd be annoyed that he ate all the biscuits too, but you're treating him like a bloody child.

BoomBoomsCousin · 09/11/2019 19:03

I don’t think the refusing him a cookie was very nice though if this is common, as it sounds, I can understand your frustration. It sounds like he either has a bit of an eating disorder or is really inconsiderate when shopping.

Binging a packet of biscuits isn’t necessarily a sign of disordered eating but if he’s only bought the one packet because he thinks this ought to be enough for the family for the weekend then eats them all (while everyone else is out) within 24 hours and this is a somewhat common thing, then that might be the start of an eating disorder.

The alternative is that he bought the biscuits knowing he would eat them all the next day but didn’t think anyone else in the house was worth buying biscuits for. Which is pretty bad.

A chat about how it really isn’t on And ask him what the solution he suggests is probably in order.

Goingbacktokansascity · 09/11/2019 19:03

I completely understand. We can’t have nice things in our house or my husband eats them. We can’t have multipacks or he eats them all. I’ll go to bed at 9pm, he will stay up till 11 and demolish 6 packs of crisps, a pack of biscuits and a family chocolate bar. I get irrationally angry now that I have to hide food in my own house. I call him greedy all the time but now I’m starting to think it’s an actual problem he has some sort of binge eating disorder...

chilimartini · 09/11/2019 19:03

How old are you OP? Ffs!!! It's only biscuits!!

MsPotterPepper · 09/11/2019 19:04

YANBU. If he doesn't want to be called a greedy pig then he shouldn't behave like one.

SandAndSeals · 09/11/2019 19:04

You are definitely not being unreasonable. I’m not even sure why others are presuming you are!

He ate an entire packet of biscuits - in the same day, you shared 6 (so presumably 2 each) from the freezer amongst you and the DC. That’s completely fair. One or more of you would have lost out to share with DH, which is crappy considering he didn’t share with you.

YANBU

WorraLiberty · 09/11/2019 19:05

He sounds like a greedy, selfish bloke.

But on the other hand, you sound more like his mum than his wife.

BrendasUmbrella · 09/11/2019 19:06

YANBU. It's never too late for a full grown adult man to learn that it's nice to share.

And he's seriously sulking?

He could just run out and buy some cookie dough...

marmitedreams · 09/11/2019 19:06

You are controlling and odd. He is your husband not your child.

MsChatterbox · 09/11/2019 19:08

Yabu. I hide my treats from my husband. He has his own. I would never call him a greedy pig! Or control whether he got something the next day!

BrendasUmbrella · 09/11/2019 19:09

How old are you OP? Ffs!!! It's only biscuits!!

And it's only cookies, so why the FFS?

CAG12 · 09/11/2019 19:09

Who are you to police what he eats? Not letting him have a biscuit is ridiculous.

WorraLiberty · 09/11/2019 19:09

Yabu. I hide my treats from my husband. He has his own. I would never call him a greedy pig! Or control whether he got something the next day!

Why do you have to hide your food from your husband?

be47 · 09/11/2019 19:10

I'd be fucking sulking too if someone I loved called me a pig for eating biscuits I'd paid for. How controlling.

If you know he has a sweet tooth, buy extra biscuits. It's not the end of the world, stop making it into a bigger deal that it is and being unpleasant to boot.

YABVU

KatherineJaneway · 09/11/2019 19:11

He is being unreasonable. Greedy pig eating all the biscuits.

DotBall · 09/11/2019 19:11

I’m with you OP, this really pisses me off. It can be like survival of the fittest in this house too regarding nice unnecessaries to eat. DH isn’t as bad as in the past, but having to hoard food so that others don’t eat it all in a household is pathetic, been there and bought the t-shirt 😬

ConkerGame · 09/11/2019 19:11

OP I’d be annoyed too. I have actually eaten a whole packet of biscuits before by accident and not left any for DP. He called me greedy for it and I agreed with him and felt guilty I’d done it - I’d honestly not noticed, I was just eating them while working and somehow they disappeared!

But my reaction was to be sorry and buy another pack, not to try to take DC’s portion from them too!

MikeUniformMike · 09/11/2019 19:11

Don't buy or cook biscuits, or only buy ones he doesn't like.

SandAndSeals · 09/11/2019 19:12

Who are you to police what he eats? Not letting him have a biscuit is ridiculous.

But by eating the entire pack of biscuits on Friday, he didn’t let the rest of the family have any biscuits. Why is that okay, but it’s not okay for OP to share 6 biscuits just between her and the DCs? That’s significantly more biscuits than a standard pack.

SandAndSeals · 09/11/2019 19:12

Less* biscuits