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Biscuits - WIBU?

190 replies

Notmytelescope · 09/11/2019 18:25

So for starters I accept this is a ridiculous, petty thing but I’d appreciate some outside perspective.

The backstory: On Thursday DH went shopping and bought a packet of biscuits ( nice ones with stem ginger in - the kind that come in a box...).

Friday AM before I went to work there was almost the whole packet left. DH was at home all day.

Saturday AM, I fancied a biscuit with my coffee and they were all gone. I called him a greedy piggy.

Sat PM I rumaged in the freezer for some cookie dough I had stashed away and there was enough for 6 small ‘biscuit muffins’. Come tea time I shared these with the DCs. I said DH couldn’t have one as he’d eaten all the biscuits yesterday. (DH has a habit of always eating anything if is opened)

He is now sulking and not talking to me. I think he is being ridculous and I am pissed off with him for his over reaction. Or am I being harsh?

Who is being unreasonable?

OP posts:
GreyHare · 09/11/2019 19:12

I'm astounded that people think that eating all the biscuits is reasonable and that they hide food, it is selfish to eat an entire packet of something in one day, if you open the biscuits then you always save some for the other members of the house. I with you OP and I would have done the same.

ErrolTheDragon · 09/11/2019 19:13

YANBU.

The OPs DH is effectively controlling what the OP and their kids eat, by pigging all the biscuits and not letting them have a fair share.

notso · 09/11/2019 19:14

They were ginger biscuits YABU

MsPotterPepper · 09/11/2019 19:14

Who are you to police what he eats? Not letting him have a biscuit is ridiculous

She's the person having to explain to her dc for the umpteenth time that no, they cant have a biscuit because daddy ate them all, again.

MrsTommyShelby · 09/11/2019 19:15

I'm with you OP. My partner will do the same and have no consideration for anyone else, then he complains he's putting on weight that he can't shift. I made 8 chocolate buns yesterday.... 2 were left this morning and he was the only one to eat any.

Cryalot2 · 09/11/2019 19:16

Like Parkhead we have a sweetie/ biscuit cupboard.

We never restricted foods with the children as long as they ate their main meals.
They are grown up and dh uses the cupboard most , its also useful for the unexpected.

Kids never indulged or had any issues, they just accepted it was there.
We all are glad of it at times .
If you always like a biscuit with your tea then your dh would have known and not eaten them all or bought enough.

But life is too short to row over a biscuit.

Rainbowqueeen · 09/11/2019 19:17

Agree with the Op
Adults should share the treats and if they really can’t then they should replace them or accept that they miss out on the next lot because they’ve already had their share.

It’s not only biscuits. It’s the effort of going shopping, buying them, the anticipation of looking forward to having one and the letdown when there’s none there because someone else thinks they are so important that they should have them all.

FrustratedTeddyLamp · 09/11/2019 19:18

I also dont get why the DH cant have biscuits but OP can hide away cookie dough...

RubbingHimSourly · 09/11/2019 19:19

He is. For being a greedy pig.

He's an adult, you shouldn't have to hide away packs of food Hmm and as 6 biscuits is only 2 each between yourself and the DC like hell would I be parting with one so el piggo could stuff his face yet again. !

Raspberrytruffle · 09/11/2019 19:21

Tell the greedy sod if he wants one of your delicious cookies he needs to get his arse to the shop and replace the scrumptious biscuits he guffed

bookishtartlet · 09/11/2019 19:22

This isn't about the OP fretting over biscuits and judging what her husband eats.

This is looking forward to a treat and there being nothing left, every single time.

My husband is terrible for this. He can eat all he wants, but at least consider I wanted some at some point.

When this happens all the time, I can lose my shit over his lack of consideration, not that he's greedy.

Cherrysoup · 09/11/2019 19:24

Just buy more, bloody hell, fancy controlling his biscuit consumption and in front of the kids, too! Bloody hell, no wonder he’s pissed off.

Lifeisabeach09 · 09/11/2019 19:25

I'd be annoyed if partner dictated what I could/couldn't eat, however, he does remind me of a child who eats all the goodies leaving, selfishly leaving none for anyone else so you are both unreasonable.

MsPotterPepper · 09/11/2019 19:25

fancy controlling his biscuit consumption and in front of the kids, too

Fancy being so greedy and selfish that you eat all the treats and leave non for the rest of your family.

Caplin · 09/11/2019 19:27

Hang on, so he went out and bought the biscuits, probably because he fancied them. Then he ate the biscuits he bought.

Now you are annoyed, called him a pig in front of your kids and banned him from sharing more biscuits.

I’d sulk too!

ThatMuppetShow · 09/11/2019 19:27

It's ridiculous, do people really expect a cupboard and fridge full when they are away but the other is staying home?

So your partner is not allowed to have a friend around, eat whatever biscuits there are - and would tell the friend they are not ALLOWED to eat that pack?

I'd think my husband has gone absolutely mad if he was starting to police what I use. When you are both around, you offer to share with the other one, when you are, food is fair game. Am I supposed to bring half of my breakfast and lunch at home to share too?

ThatMuppetShow · 09/11/2019 19:29

Fancy being so greedy and selfish that you eat all the treats and leave non for the rest of your family.
if you were sitting at the same table, you'd have a point, but we are talking about different DAYS.

You want a biscuit on Saturday, you go or you send him buying you a pack. No need to start WW3.

Disfordarkchocolate · 09/11/2019 19:30

I couldn't live with a man who ate the last of the biscuits!!

AlexaAmbidextra · 09/11/2019 19:30

I’d be really pissed off if the same person always ate all the goodies. Different if it’s a one off but tedious if it happens all the time. I used to work with someone like this. We’d take it in turns to bring in biscuits. She worked two days a week but you could guarantee if you went to the biscuit tin the day after she’d been in it would be empty, even if I’d brought in two packets a couple of days before. It’s selfish to work your way through all the biscuits without considering anyone else. I can understand why OP’s pissed off with him. Greed is a very unattractive trait.

MsPotterPepper · 09/11/2019 19:31

if you were sitting at the same table, you'd have a point, but we are talking about different DAYS.

People shouldn't have to buy biscuits everyday if they want one. It's outrageous to suggest that.

CAG12 · 09/11/2019 19:32

THEN ASK HIM TO BUY MORE BISCUITS.

ThatMuppetShow · 09/11/2019 19:34

People shouldn't have to buy biscuits everyday if they want one. It's outrageous to suggest that.

Hmm People should be able to eat whatever they want in their own home, especially when they are on their own!

You want something, you ask or you go yourself, how hard is it.

If a man was putting such rules, he would be called an abusive arsehole and rightly so!

Curlyhair40 · 09/11/2019 19:35

This poor guy did the shopping, fancied biscuits and then ate them.
Where's the issue? Put more on the list if you know he eats a lot!
Tell him "get me xxxx and don't eat those"
Denying him a mini muffin is outrageous.
No need to blow it out of proportion good Lord. Hmm

SandAndSeals · 09/11/2019 19:35

THEN ASK HIM TO BUY MORE BISCUITS.

Or, as the DH bought the biscuits (and ate them all) in the first place, DH COULD USE HIS OWN INITIATIVE TO BUY MORE BISCUITS TO SHARE WITH HIS FAMILY NEXT TIME.

ThatMuppetShow · 09/11/2019 19:37

DH COULD USE HIS OWN INITIATIVE TO BUY MORE BISCUITS TO SHARE WITH HIS FAMILY NEXT TIME.

how was he supposed to guess he would be banned from eating the cookie dough that was in the freezer?....