... to want to scream- husband thinks my hobby is “deeply unattractive”

[DimensionalShambler]

It’s cold and rainy and all day I was looking forward to starting a new knitting project. After dinner I settled down with my wool and needles and and my husband started with the sighing. After the usual rigmarole I dragged it out of him… seeing me knit is “deeply unattractive”, it’s for sexless, boring, tedious women and he hates seeing my projects laying around because it’s a “stringy depressing mess” and I should find something more interesting to do with my time.

I’m absolutely furious at the sexism and stupidity but also really sad because I love knitting- it’s cozy and peaceful and meditative. But now it’s ruined.

Jeez I have no words. What a dick!

Tell him that being judgemental is deeply unattractive, and carry on as you were.

It’s not ruined! Maybe you find his sexist stereotyping a complete turn off, eh? I would.

if he doesn't like seeing it, he can go out and you can sit in a warm cosy house & knit.

I do knitting, crochet & endless craft projects all over the house & DH has never once complained.

What a twat. Good thing you don't exist for his pleasure! You don't have to stop something you enjoy because he has a weird sexist problem with it. Tell him he's being a wanker, or better still, knit it into a scarf.

Fuck that shit. Knitting is therapeutic. What would be a more attractive hobby he would like?

No it's not. Knit yourself a jumper that says 'fuck off'.

Tell him to cast off

Be sure to knit him a hideous Christmas jumper for his present this year. Seriously though what a bellend.

What a moron. Such a nasty and pointless thing to say! I’d be fuming.
Knitting takes great skill and it’s way harder than it looks. He should admire you for it! DD is at university and lots of her 18/19/20 year old friends knit so it’s not an ‘old dear’ hobby.
Maybe he should try his hand at knitting and see how far he gets.

YANBU
Tell him you're knitting him a balaclava to wear at home

Knit him a jumper in the most scratchy, itchy wool that says 'MASSIVE SEXIST TWAT!' On it.

What a tool, honestly, does he have any hobbies? Do they all make you weak at the knees?

In my book loving someone is supporting them to be themselves and do the things they love.

Any pressing reasons you have to stay with him?

What an arsehole. So I imagine he has an extremely attractive hobby, water-skiing every weekend or something, is he?

What are you supposed to do- juggle chainsaws?

I bet if you had a traditionally masculine hobby, he would denigrate you as blokeish. He’s being very unkind. And unkind is not sexy.

“ After the usual rigmarole”

What’s the usual rigmarole OP?

Suggest he take up base-jumping.

Anything else would be a turn-off.

' Juggle Chainsaws ' 😄

It's not ruined, he's an arsehole!

What does he want you to do??

Apparently he’s telling me this for my own good because I’m too smart and talented to be making socks. I’m now in the guest room (lovely new double mattress and soft sheets, cozy armchair, no sexist dickheads taking up most of the bed, so not a hardship) and I think I’ll be sleeping here for the foreseeable).

Wow - please don't be put off your hobby because of that really dickish comment! Knitting sounds like a really nice therapeutic hobby to have.

What?? DH and I tease each other about our more boring hobbies (me: jigsaws and puzzles. Him: pushbikes and gas engineering!) But we don't get arsey about it! Surely your DH should be secure enough in his love for you that a little bit of wool won't put him off??!

I think you should ask him for suggestions of sexy hobbies. Or knit a banana hammock sexy knitting

So he thinks you should base every aspect of your life around appearing attractive to him? Tell him the 1950s wants him back. You could knit him a jumper so he doesn't get cold on the way.

Don’t let him ruin it!