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... to want to scream- husband thinks my hobby is “deeply unattractive”

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DimensionalShambler · 07/11/2019 22:52

It’s cold and rainy and all day I was looking forward to starting a new knitting project. After dinner I settled down with my wool and needles and and my husband started with the sighing. After the usual rigmarole I dragged it out of him… seeing me knit is “deeply unattractive”, it’s for sexless, boring, tedious women and he hates seeing my projects laying around because it’s a “stringy depressing mess” and I should find something more interesting to do with my time.

I’m absolutely furious at the sexism and stupidity but also really sad because I love knitting- it’s cozy and peaceful and meditative. But now it’s ruined.

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DowntonCrabby · 07/11/2019 23:00

What a knob. How does he spend his spare time, fucking lion taming?!

Sexist twat.

NameChangedNoImagination · 07/11/2019 23:00

Tell him his face is deeply unattractive and move briskly on.

Supersimkin2 · 07/11/2019 23:01

Jealous.

GreigLaidlawsbarofsoap · 07/11/2019 23:01

Do NOT let him ruin your joy in your hobby! Then the bastard wins you are just coming down to his level. He's being a selfish prick. His lack of imagination and very old fashioned stereotyping is also rather unattractive. Knitting is well on trend!

DimensionalShambler · 07/11/2019 23:01

Usual rigmarole:
Him: ‘Big sighs’
Me: ‘what’s wrong?’
Him:‘Nothing’
Me:‘just tell me’
Etc. Etc. Ad infinitum

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GettingABitDesperateNow · 07/11/2019 23:01

Your husband sounds deeply unattractive. Sorry

Jollitwiglet · 07/11/2019 23:02

Well his attitude is deeply unattractive and is that of boring, tedious men

TowelNumber42 · 07/11/2019 23:02

He thinks you are sexless, boring and tedious. Nice. I think he is a cock.

Is your marriage sexless, boring and tedious by any chance?

AutumnRose1 · 07/11/2019 23:04

Oh dear

If you’re staying with him, then ignore the big sighs in future!

DimensionalShambler · 07/11/2019 23:04

You are all making me laugh and feel much better!

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Majorcollywobble · 07/11/2019 23:04

Hopefully he will come knocking on your door ready to help you with the cats cradle hands to wind up a skein into a ball . Sounds like that’s as close to you as he will get for some time .
When he does come crawling back remind him that many sailors and indeed lighthousemen are adept in the art of sock making . If you are skilled in making socks make a pair for someone appreciative of you skill .

GreigLaidlawsbarofsoap · 07/11/2019 23:05

I know it's cross stitch rather than knitting OP but it reminded me of this lovely, gentle little pattern ...

... to want to scream- husband thinks my hobby is “deeply unattractive”
NeverTwerkNaked · 07/11/2019 23:05

What does he do that's so incredibly impressive then? Because it sounds like he just sits next to you and judges furiously.

goodness when I clicked on this thread I don't know what I was expecting but definitely not knitting. I have no idea how to knit but I totally admire people who can!

BitOfFun · 07/11/2019 23:06

Yes! And you were considered pretty fucking useful as a prisoner of war if you could knit.

WhereforeArtThouManatee · 07/11/2019 23:06

Oh god, he's a tedious idiot.

I love knitting and craft stuff, DH is happy if I'm happy, and equally I am totally fine with his video gaming interests even if I don't share them.

GunpowderGelatine · 07/11/2019 23:06

What a prick!' does he actually think that your go about your day ensuring everything you do must be "attractive" 🙄 how will he cope when you're elderly?

don't let him ruin it for you knitting is awesome!!

kieronsmum · 07/11/2019 23:07

i know women with PHDs or studying for the degree at oxbridge who knit
also socks are not easy to to knit

Kanga83 · 07/11/2019 23:08

Knit him a willy warmer for being such a bell-end.

NorthEndGal · 07/11/2019 23:08

Fuck him
Knit hard
Find a good man

PickAChew · 07/11/2019 23:08

I'm sure you can fashion this in the image of your husband then use it to store your blocking pins

www.lovecrafts.com/en-gb/p/voodoo-doll-knitting-pattern-by-amanda-berry

MrsEricBana · 07/11/2019 23:09

Tell him to cast off
🤣🤣

Tesbel · 07/11/2019 23:09

Tell him you'll take up pole dancing instead as a hobby and he won't get to see any of the fruits of that hobby.. ass hole!

MrsEricBana · 07/11/2019 23:10

But in all seriousness he has been extremely unkind as well as being sexist and I would be doubting my feelings for him.

GreySheep · 07/11/2019 23:11

Knit him a life size sex doll because if he was my husband that’s all he’d be snuggling up to for the foreseeable.

What a knob.

Ellie56 · 07/11/2019 23:11

He sounds a deeply unattractive sexist twat.