... to want to scream- husband thinks my hobby is “deeply unattractive”

[DimensionalShambler]

It’s cold and rainy and all day I was looking forward to starting a new knitting project. After dinner I settled down with my wool and needles and and my husband started with the sighing. After the usual rigmarole I dragged it out of him… seeing me knit is “deeply unattractive”, it’s for sexless, boring, tedious women and he hates seeing my projects laying around because it’s a “stringy depressing mess” and I should find something more interesting to do with my time.

I’m absolutely furious at the sexism and stupidity but also really sad because I love knitting- it’s cozy and peaceful and meditative. But now it’s ruined.

Next time he sighs, don't ask him what's wrong, sigh back even louder.

Engage him in a sigh off.

His hobbies sound boring and deeply unattractive. The poor man is projecting.

TorySucks... Have a look at sock knitting using circular needles. I cant do the 4 needle thing either

Julia Roberts knits, I believe. Quite a few big stars do.
I’d be stabbing him with my needles if I was you.

I would find his whinging deeply unattractive and unsexy 🤷‍♀️

historically the best knitters were fisherman (think nets & than jumpers)

Knit him a jumper that says CUNT across the front

Do you have any knitting friends? Can you install them all in your house tomorrow night for a knit-off.
Really piss the sexist fucker off.

According to knitting lore (I'm not a knitter myself but party to some inside info), if you knit your OH a jumper you will split up. Unfortunately I gather this only works pre-marriage.

(off subject) that's why some Dr Who's have big scarfs etc - hey they have all that extra time to use up

Does he like crochet? Is it any trendier?

I would change hobby to karaoke. Order a karaoke set up using the joint account and set it up in the lounge. Then tell him which songs he will be singing.

Oh god, so knitting a jumper is so unattractive he will leave you ?! Get started OP, pronto,

I really can't handle all the stsbby ends on dpns. Love a bit of magic loop, though.

I haven't even read the replies, sorry, just the OP.
Tell him being a knobhead isn't an attractive look either from your point of view.
You like knitting? So fucking what?!
Do it!
Don't let his attitude drag you down.
Do you for you

What's wrong with him? Is he always such an idiot?

@BitOfFun

What are you supposed to do- juggle chainsaws?

Ba ha ha ha ha!!!!!! 😂😂😂

There are some corkers on here, but that made me LOL!!!

Brilliant thread.

@DimensionalShambler I am really sorry you appear to have such a twat for an hubby. Is he OK in other ways......... ??? please say he is, because you sound like you deserve happiness!

And yes, mining heritage, rather than fishing, but MIL was taught to knit by her granda.

You knitting furiously in the spare room is EXACtly what I would be doing.

Jerk. If I were given to violence, I'd be shoving a 6 mm crochet hook up his pisshole 🤬

I love knitting. If it wasn't done almost exclusively by women it would be recognised as what it is: engineering.

I knit and crochet, almost always using my own patterns, that I have a tendency to make up as I go along. I also code simple video games. I feel like I use the exact same part of my brain doing both. Knitting and coding both require an ability to plot out actions in advance, seeing and understanding the outcome that will ultimately emerge from a simple change, either an extra stitch or a new command. Knitting is highly mathematical. It's art. And it's damn practical.

I also have 'sexier' hobbies but I don't practice those in order to be sexy. In fact when I get to do my hobby, the very last thing on my mind as I set out to do an activity I love is how sexy I appear to anyone. That would actually be a pretty weird fucking way to approach a hobby.

I’d love to be able to knit, my mum taught me simple knitting when I was a kid, i remember knitting leg warmers for my dog (Jack Russell) in the early 80’s - he really wasn’t impressed 😂

How is it ruined though? For me it would make it even more fun, I'd be doing it twice the amount just to annoy him.

"a depressing stringy mess" I lol'd at this, what an unintentionally funny way to put it.

OP DH - Who cares what your partners hobby is, if it doesn't effect you. My DH hobby is looking at photos of the types of planes that flew in WWII. Now that's depressing and tedious but you don't see me complaining.

It was traditional for men to knit in some places.I think it might be in Scotland or islands off of the coast somewhere anyway there are men that like knitting and i know men that knit,

and the main point is that you enjoy it.
That should be all that matters.
he is such an idiot.

Is this his way of saying you're not putting out enough? I can sort of understand people not liking a partner's hobby if the hobby means the partner won't interact with anyone else while pursuing the hobby, and it's messy and time-consuming I suppose.
But knitting isn't like that AFAIK. I don't do it myself, but quite a lot of my friends do, and they can all carry on a conversation while click-clicking away. So you're not ignoring him in favour of a ball of wool (though I can see why you might.) It just occurred to me that him moaning about it being a 'sexless' hobby might be his way of wanting you to put that half-finished blanket down and grab his willy instead. And I'm not endorsing him trying to pester for sex, either, just wondering if that's the motivation.

Your husband is a twat.