Oh god, I'm so embarrassed.

[Bellesboo2]

Okay, help me, I'm such a tit.
Basically, I assumed there was some back and forth subtle flirting between me and a colleague (same office but not part of the same dept)
He would smile at me, would catch him looking at me while I was working, whenever I walked by him he would stare at me, and follow me with his eyes until I sat back down. We've been trying to strike up chat here and there in passing, but I get so flustered I end up making excuses and going back to my desk.

Anyway, after months of this, and I mean months! I decided to add him in Facebook, I'd been toying with the idea for a while but put it off for some reason or another. However, it took about 2 week for him to accept, no big deal I thought, must not use his account regularly... the day after, I decided to send him a PM, basically just saying hi etc.. hes read it and not replied. I'm so mortified, I feel I've misjudged everything and I'm dreading work tomorrow now.

Please can someone find me a black hole I can jump into.

Did he text "I hope you enjoyed your trip, send me a postcard next time"

Sorry to keep you all hanging! He text and waved back, followed by a message to say that he was sorry that he didnt reply, he simply hadn't received the message.
We're now just having a very casual back and forth chat. Not reading too much into it and keeping it very friendly.

Good luck @Bellesboo2

I thought he had read the message though? Just decided not to reply? I thought that was why you were so embarrassed? Anyway, no harm done by the sounds of it. Does he seem to be interested in you?

You had an interaction with someone. It's not embarrassing.

Friendly is good. I'm glad it went well.

That sounds encouraging OP....

(Im still laughing about the Michael Jackson thing on the last page!)

Pooh. Good luck.

That was supposed to read Oooh good luck. Stupid autocorrect

Ooo sounds promising

Phew glad it wasn’t ignored!

@Boopsy this made me laugh so much ! 😂

cute

I've experienced somerhing similar and i feel your cringe but its ok. , it will pass.
I sent a friends request back in the summer to some guy at work who like your guy had been smiling at me, lots if Helios how are you, could feel him watching me sometimes. Felt really flattered. Once he accepted my friends request I look on his profile to find he's gay and married!! In my case I'm thanking FB for the heads up there because just imagine if I'd asked him for a coffe/drink sometime

Please keep us updated!

Oh God @Bellesboo2, your casual message & wave is NOTHING!

I, on the other hand once temped somewhere for a day. Got chatting to a guy I felt a major connection with.. God I couldn't stop thinking about him. I almost never meet anyone I like, so after obsessing all evening, stalking his FB and falling in love even more with his amazing dry wit and apparent singledom, I messaged. It was veeerrry late on a school night to boot, and I may have had a wine.

This was no casual wave and a hi.

Jesus I've probably still got the message somewhere. To sum up- I "joked" about me being a stalker, gushed about how incredible (yes I used that word) I thought he was, said I never meet anyone I like etc etc and basically asked him if he fancied a drink.

To be fair to him, he was extremely kind in is response. But in such a way that it came crashing down on me how embarrassed he was for me. He was 'flattered'! 😱 He swerved the question of meeting up, but didn't give a direct answer. He was just vague to be kind, I think.

However, further fb stalks revealed he appeared he did in fact have a gf. I'd rather he'd just have said! I'd have felt less of a twat!

Glad he's text you OP!. Rest assured, you have nothing to be embarrassed about (I should know..)

The Michael Jackson thing is hilarious 🤣
I've often thought how easy it would be, and how dreadful, to accidentally 'Google' something on FB!

Could've been even worse though, count your lucky stars it was only MJ!

Nc to tell you about my OLD fail....

I worked as a temp for a bank in their head office for about a year. During this time I made friends with 2 guys who were my age. We would lunch together and I played a mixed sport with one of them.

I fancied the other guy but never got the nerve to ask him out but in my opinion we flirted, had meaninginful eye contact etc.

Well fast forward a few years and after a horrible relationship signed up to online dating and low and behold there he was.... the guy I worked with.... well I sent him a message, asked if he wanted to meet up as I always really liked him etc etc (hoping he was truthfully single as he was on old).... he read my message but never replied
.. i was so embarrassed I had to come off the site for a while.

When i signed back up again he was still there. I secretly hoped he had forgotten he had a profile

Anyway it didn't matter in the end because on my refresh I met my now husband so worked out in the end.

@Aliceinunderland puffer fish 🤣

@Boopsy I'm over thinking this I know, but imagine if you'd 'googled' something like 'how to see ex's friends list' or similar on his wall 😬!

Euro I once meant to type in the name of my ex's new gf in the search bar on Facebook but made it as a status instead.

@Sagradafamiliar i did that 😂😂🙈 the shame

I was once Facebook stalking a neighbour and saw that he'd recently made a post describing me as "Miss Piggy" (context: he'd had a midweek party that went on until 3am and I banged on his door before I went to work and told him I wasn't impressed). Anyway I seemingly hit "add friend" and only realised when I received the notification that he'd accepted!!! 😳

Good GOD @Sagradafamiliar and @dailygrind22!! That's what I'm talking about!! So easy to do. So mortifying 🤣

@Lobsterquadrille2 what an arse!!

I'm really loving all these stories!!
Also, as other have pointed out, it wasnt the message or my actions as such that was embarrassing... was more that I'd misread the signs!

Also, fit office guy messaged and said it was his last day next week!