Oh god, I'm so embarrassed.

[Bellesboo2]

Okay, help me, I'm such a tit.
Basically, I assumed there was some back and forth subtle flirting between me and a colleague (same office but not part of the same dept)
He would smile at me, would catch him looking at me while I was working, whenever I walked by him he would stare at me, and follow me with his eyes until I sat back down. We've been trying to strike up chat here and there in passing, but I get so flustered I end up making excuses and going back to my desk.

Anyway, after months of this, and I mean months! I decided to add him in Facebook, I'd been toying with the idea for a while but put it off for some reason or another. However, it took about 2 week for him to accept, no big deal I thought, must not use his account regularly... the day after, I decided to send him a PM, basically just saying hi etc.. hes read it and not replied. I'm so mortified, I feel I've misjudged everything and I'm dreading work tomorrow now.

Please can someone find me a black hole I can jump into.

I've lost track, is 'fit office guy' the one you've been speaking about all through the thread?

if so, I'd send a sad-face emoji but follow up with a "Perhaps we can meet for coffee?" on the basis of (1) he's told you and (2) maybe he's not into having relationships at work but after next week it's fair game?

???

Fit office guy is infact that same guy :)

I think I've done alot if chasing with him, so I'm going to wait for him to make a move. As many of you have said, if he wants to take it there he will.

I think I've done alot if chasing with him, so I'm going to wait for him to make a move. As many of you have said, if he wants to take it there he will.

Good plan, lined of communication are now open so he has an easy way to suggest meeting up if he wants to.

I don’t have anything to add but I want to see where this goes. Hopefully things go well and it’s a lovely start to something.

Ahh! Came to check for the update and it's been left on a bigger cliffhanger!

Whoops, app didn't refresh properly, glad to see you have been messaging OP

Just have to say I'm loving this thread keep us all updated op please and good luck

Crush at work a long time ago, chased me down the road to tell me My skirt was tucked into my tights! I did wonder all the way into work about all the stares and thought, I must look good today We are friends now.

Update- hes got a girlfriend. He didnt tell me, someone else did. Apparently they've been off an on for a very long time. I wish he would have said from the beginning. So.im backing off now and wont msg him again

Oh bugger. I'm gutted for you OP.

Why didn’t he tell you? Was he keeping his options open?

I really dont know. I heard for a colleague who's also a really good friend that hes just really friendly and I've probably misjudged it.

*from a

I predicted he had a GF. Guys like this get a kick out of the attention they get by flirting with women. It’s an ego boost.

He’s really not worth your time or energy thinking about and the only person who embarrassed themselves is him. Don’t feel bad about it for a second.

Ah gutted, I really hoped for a happy ending to the thread.. 😩

Shame he has a gf!

Bummer!

Good on you for taking a chance though! So many people sit back and hope a partner will fall into their laps!

@BlackCatSleeping was he being flirty or just friendly? And it's been misjudged?

I dont know why he should have to declare he had a gf before making eye contact or talking to another woman. It's not his fault its been misjudged..

tryingtobebold I agree, maybe looking back, I perhaps saw too much into it and desected things that wasnt really there.
However, I'm glad I took a chance regardless of the outcome.

Well that’s true. If you didn’t try you’d never know. You’d never get anywhere in life.

I'd ignore it, if he ever mentions it look confused for 3 secs and say "yeah thanks for accepting, slowly getting round to adding the work ones"

@Bellesboo2 of course, 100%! If you don't try you don't get. (Literally )