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To think this person very lucky?

149 replies

PinkGlitter123 · 06/11/2019 16:15

  1. Separated from a long marriage but met a new man three months on and now blissfully happy.
  2. 50/50 childcare with ex so gets to socialise every other weekend with partner and go on lots of holidays and attend lots of fun events.
  3. Made lots of friends through partner
  4. Earns 125,000 a year but can choose when they work, no overnight travel or trips away and has every Friday off work.
  5. Two very clever and sociable children who have not been impacted by the separation at all.
  6. Close to sisters
OP posts:
Velveteenfruitbowl · 06/11/2019 16:17

They might just deserve it due to hard work and a good attitude? Luck implies that the rewards were unearned.

TheReluctantCountess · 06/11/2019 16:18

Yes they are lucky. Good for them.

I’ll go and sob quietly in the corner about how my life is the opposite.

CloudsCanLookLikeSheep · 06/11/2019 16:19

Yes. And?

formerbabe · 06/11/2019 16:19

Oh just wait op...you'll get flamed and told that you don't know what's actually going on in her life!

Missillusioned · 06/11/2019 16:20

Yeah, they're lucky. Hard work won't account for all of that, many people work hard but don't end up in such a good position. Good for them. It doesn't do yourself any favours to be envious.

Yeahyeahyeahyeeeeah · 06/11/2019 16:20

Not quite sure what you’re trying to get at though? It does all sound good, luck always has a bit to do with life.

Waxonwaxoff0 · 06/11/2019 16:23

Yes, sounds lucky for the most part to me although personally I wouldn't want to spend 50% of my time away from my DC.

Original poster
PinkGlitter123 · 06/11/2019 16:24

I agree that just because you work hard you don't get good luck.
She says herself she doesn't have to work that hard.
Just wish I could have her life.

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ZaZathecat · 06/11/2019 16:25

Is this person complaining?

JustHereWithPopcorn · 06/11/2019 16:26

What job does she do to earn that salary and not have to work hard? Asking for a friend....

00100001 · 06/11/2019 16:26

"5. Two very clever and sociable children who have not been impacted by the separation at all."

I call bollocks on that one.

MargotLovedTom1 · 06/11/2019 16:27

I would say there's more than luck involved in being in a position to earn £125,000 pa p/t!

Vulpine · 06/11/2019 16:31

So she endured an unhappy marriage for years - not so lucky. Dont know how old the kids are but they will be affected - again not so lucky. The job sounds ace though! Love to know what it is

BeanBag7 · 06/11/2019 16:35

The only thing I would be particularly envious of is the salary she earns. I wouldnt want to see my children only 50% of the time

GertiMJN · 06/11/2019 16:38

Thete are lots of people who have lives others would be envious of Hmm

And because of the nature of life, those doing the envying will in reality have lives that others less fortunate would envy ...and so on.

As they say - comparison is the thief of joy

7salmonswimming · 06/11/2019 16:43

You must be in a pretty bad place to think this way OP.

Just like you have with this person, focus on the good things in your own life, not just the bad.

(Also no I don’t think she’s lucky. At all. You’re entire OP is really objectionable but I do think that’s because you’re unhappy)

Happyspud · 06/11/2019 16:43

The person you choose is not luck
Being a good partner so a good person chooses you is not luck
Being good at making friends is her personality and then liking her is also to her credit (not luck)
Earnings probably a mixture of privilege first, hard work second but the privilege would be good luck
Lucky to have two Healthy children. Clever and sociable is probably down to her personality and parenting so not luck.
Close to sisters is to her credit too.

She sounds like a nice (personality) and grounded (making good choices) person from your info. I guess you could argue that her personality is lucky?

Stacerini · 06/11/2019 16:45

No, I wouldn’t want to only see my DC 50% of the time or have to share them at Christmas and special times.

MonChatEstMagnifique · 06/11/2019 16:55

I wouldn't feel very lucky to only see my children half of the time. I also don't believe there are any children that are not affected at all by their parents separating.

If this person is happy then that's good though. Comparing our lives to others isn't usually helpful. If you're not happy, you need to look at your own life and see what you can change. Hope you're ok OP.

morningdread · 06/11/2019 17:00

Intelligence, good personality & luck have all contributed.

Bluntness100 · 06/11/2019 17:03

I'm not sure I'd classify it as luck if I'm honest. I'm sure she earns that salary for a reason. Irrelevant of how hard she works. It's great she's met someone new, and has a good social life good for her.

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PinkGlitter123 · 06/11/2019 17:08

It would be outing to say the job but it's IT based. I think it's one of those positions where they have worked hard for years and now get paid for what they know.
The marriage before was very happy in her eyes for many years, it was a shock when it ended but now it seems they have met someone even better.
The kids genuinely are not affected by the separation. Love meeting all the new people in their lives and doing amazingly at school where they are in the gifted and talented area.

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Yeahyeahyeahyeeeeah · 06/11/2019 17:11

Why does it matter though. It is lucky to some extent, but it won’t change your life.

Also who tells someone they earn that. I’d never tell anyone my income in RL.

WorraLiberty · 06/11/2019 17:13

What are you looking for from this thread, OP?

Are you very unhappy?

julietcooper · 06/11/2019 17:17

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