To think this person very lucky?

[PinkGlitter123]

1. Separated from a long marriage but met a new man three months on and now blissfully happy.
2. 50/50 childcare with ex so gets to socialise every other weekend with partner and go on lots of holidays and attend lots of fun events.
3. Made lots of friends through partner
4. Earns 125,000 a year but can choose when they work, no overnight travel or trips away and has every Friday off work.
5. Two very clever and sociable children who have not been impacted by the separation at all.
6. Close to sisters

Luck (to have to intellect for the training for a well-paid job, for health good enough to work and have children, etc) and I'm sure hard work too.

We all have different balances of luck, in every area of life.

However, it's naive to think anyone has a perfect life. Children might not show any sign of being affected by the divorce until much later on, when they are striking out into the world trying to form their own adult relationships. You have no idea. That's just an example.

Some people just happen to be in the right place at the right time. Although it does sound like she must have put some hard work in over the years to have a £125k salary and lovely kids.

Fuck off with your multiple posts @julietcooper

I don't think this sounds that lucky. Marriage breakdowns are extremely hard and taxing on anyone. The new partner may/may not last and he may/may not be amazing. Children not affected is nonsense. Only seeing your children 50% of the time is difficult. Friends through partner means they will be lost if partner is gone. The job is good but that is not luck. That is based on hard work and building up a niche skill base. Her life sounds fine but not particularly lucky. A new partner three months after the martial breakdown (especially if a shock)will be difficult for the children. This post strikes me as those people who boast about how amazing their life is only to announce later that actually they were deeply unhappy. Live your own life and don't be worrying about the tales of others.

Her life sounds great (I'd personally preferred to be happily married to the father of my DC and all living together).

But how is it helping you to dwell on it?

To start a thread on it?

To defend her situation and luckiness when others try to put it in context...?

Yes, she's reasonably lucky. Move on.

If this is your friend why aren't you happy for her?

Most of those sound nice, but 5 is not possible. I wouldn’t like to see my children only 50% of the time.

I wouldn't count myself lucky if I only saw my children 50% of the time.

I’m not sure you can tell whether someone’s been lucky until they have lived the whole of their life. All that can be taken away in an instant. I do know someone though who is blissfully happy having had some life experiences that would have knocked the stuffing out of me. So a lot of it is about how you deal with the bad parts of life. Maybe she just doesn’t dwell on hers.

*Missillusioned

Yeah, they're lucky. Hard work won't account for all of that, many people work hard but don't end up in such a good position. Good for them. It doesn't do yourself any favours to be envious.*

So agree.

I always known to be the hard working one but I feel I am always behind someone who just naturally have it, it's hard to achieve just by hard work alone.

Envy someone's luck just make me feel more depressed!

Sounds like someone who worked really hard, met relationship struggles to say the least, but stayed positive and managed to rebuild her life.

So yes, lucky to have healthy kids, and siblings - otherwise made the right choices and chose the right career pace. Sounds far from just luck to me, but good on her for staying positive. It pays off.

I’m sure she’s thrilled about you posting about her on here.

If I was your friend, I’d be livid.

@PinkGlitter123

You know an awful lot about this woman.

Why are you so invested in her life?

There are all sorts in the world Op. she sounds like she has a nice life, but she made it happen alongside the luck

She may be lucky or unlucky and it can depend on how you look at it!

Financially I think objectively most people would say that £125K a year makes her very well off so yes she is lucky financially.

Relationship-wise- she has been very unlucky and has perhaps now made a sound choice with her next partner.

In terms of whether she's lucky with parenting etc.- she has been fortunate that her kids are well adjusted but you cannot actually know exactly how things are going. Perhaps they are actually struggling but it is not obvious?

it sounds like she is able to roll with the punches that life give hers - when life gives her lemons she makes lemonade so to speak

The marriage before was very happy in her eyes for many years, it was a shock when it ended

so it was a shock to her but she still managed to find the strength to stay civil with her ex , put her kids first and share childcare 50/50 - when many others don't?
The more you read, the less "lucky" she is but she is making her new life work. Nothing stopping other people to do the same.

You sound very jealous I'll op.

You need to rethink your relationship with her. At the moment every ounce of her happiness seems to hurt you!

You can have no idea how much effort she put into keeping her kids on an even keel after marriage ended, no idea how she really sees the 50:50 arrangement.

Nor any of the other bots that you see with rose tinted glasses over those green eyes. Be honest, it is jealousy that is driving this post. And that isn't good for you... she has what she has. You have what you have. Life really is never, ever fair!

I'm also curious what you're wishing to achieve here op? She's a highly qualified well paid individual, which my your own admission worked hard to get there. Suffered a marriage breakdown but has tried to roll with it and move on, and do what's best for her kids with co parenting.

Who is she to you?

Why don't you just talk clearly about whatever it is you want to talk about - these vague posts/scenarios are a bit pointless.

Why are you encouraging people to judge someone on a superficial snapshot of their life instead of discussing what the actual issue is?

Yes, lucky. Good for her.

Yes but let's get down to what's important : is she beautiful?

It would be outing to say the job but it's IT based. I think it's one of those positions where they have worked hard for years and now get paid for what they know.

^

If this was a man would be you be as condescending?

Sounds like a combination of luck, hard work, resilience when things aren't going right - suddenly being presented with 'It's over' wouldn't have felt particularly lucky for her at the time, IMO, and (hopefully) being a kind person.

Good for her.