To ask my MIL to stay in an AirBnB when she visits?

[LoverNotOfChicken]

We have 3 kids and a 3 bedroom house. Lots of kids, toys and stuff! Rejig of rooms when she stays, blow up beds etc.

About 4 houses down is an AirBnB, £26 per night. Really nice lady runs / owns it. Is it unreasonable to suggest she stops there in future? MIL doesn't visit often, only 3 times a year for a 4 days, no FIL on the scene.

Thanks all for your comments and suggestions!

Get her a proper hotel room. Seriously, why do people think it is ok to stay in a stranger’s house with them present. It’s creepy and dangerous.

I know I have no right to ask. But honestly, I am a nosy fucker and I am way too invested in this. But please let us know how she reacts.

Hotel rooms can also be dangerous.
Not all hallways have CCTV.
Anyone can push you into a room once you open the door.

I think the mil will be much safer with a neighbour four doors away personally.

ffswhatnext you sound gleeful at the thought of MIL being made to stay in an Airbnb

Hotel rooms can also be dangerous
Not all hallways have CCTV.
Anyone can push you into a room once you open the door

Are you always this hysterical?

And if, by any chance the MIL is reading this then you will have successfully scared her off from visiting ever again!

Where are these dark and dangerous hotel and creepy Air BNB owners???

When I visit my parents I generally have to pay to stop out, when family visit me they do the same. Pay for ourselves.

Hotel rooms can also be dangerous
Not all hallways have CCTV.
Anyone can push you into a room once you open the door

Good grief, how do you manage to exist in the real world?

Hang on- hotels dangerous?

How do Mumanetters survive?

@saraclara Oh, I totally get that. I was just questioning Lovepoppy, whose post seemed to imply that MILs should know their place, which is well below that of a woman's mother.

That’s not what I said. I said it was apples to oranges as not all relationships are equal.

I was merely pointing out that hotels can be dangerous in response to another person saying they would be safer staying there, than in the airbnb.

Pointing out the obvious that both can pose dangers doesn't make me hysterical.

To save confusion I should have linked the post.

MIL isnt old, early 60's. Works full time. Wouldn't find a hotel scary. 🤔 I dont see the problem with sharing a bathroom in an AirBnB personally, especially with a single female occupant.

I don't know why DILs get such a poor image. I would gladly have her company more often, she is made welcome, I cook for her etc, organise trips out with the children. She just isn't that interested.

Not many women would feel a hotel room was scary. That isn’t the point.

What do you think she will say about it? Be glad of the peace and quiet or feel put out?

Just because you don’t have a problem staying in a stranger’s home doesn’t mean it’s a normal thing to do. Sure there are people who do it, but my anecdotal observations say most people would never consider it.

It is normal though for people to stay in strangers homes.
It's been happening for centuries.

If she is early 60's and works full time with no dependants then she will want to book something a bit more 'treat like' than a patronising skimpy spare bedroom at 26 pounds a night.

You want her with you or you don't. Let her have a nice breakfast, luxury bed and privacy in a decent hotel and rock up when she pleases.

Just my view.

Basically don't treat her like a teenaged uni student back for the holidays who has bought a friend and there is no room.

RESPECT.

@purpleartichoke Millions of people stay in strangers' homes either as B&B or airbnb every night. The OP knows the airbnb woman and it's 4 doors away from her own home so MIL can be walked there if she wants.

And it's not as if MIL can't say - as a capable woman, still working, in her early sixties, - no, that won't suit, or sounds great (esp if OP is paying). For heaven's sake, she can just call or prearrange when to be expected. At her age and in her position most of my friends would be glad to be out of the fray from time to time and have a sanctuary to go back to - especially one 2 minutes away.

And as for @Purpleartichoke - are you being ironic? How do you think B&Bs ever existed? this is just an airbnb 2 minutes away from OP's home.

I think a lot of posters are saying the Airbnb is fine because this is a MIL. That does muddy the water.

The majority of MN can’t stand their MILs let’s face it.

I would hate to stay in air bnb with the owner there

ask her what she would rather do, crammed in with you or her own space at the abnb. State she's welcome for all meals and you pay for it.

But wouldn’t you feel a bit worried about suggesting future visits if you were going to cost your son and DIL anything between £50-£150? Also, air bnb have a cleaning charge, it will be more like £30.

She has no car so the hotel option would mean picking up and dropping off which I know would make her feel like we were running around after her alot more. Nearest hotel is also 5 miles away. Plus it would literally be for sleeping, she is welcome here for breakfast etc obviously.