FIL wants me to wear a certain jacket WWYD?

[Flyingfish2019]

FIL is a somewhat quirky individual. While he has his strong points he can also be bossy and say offensive things.
He told me that he wanted our children to wear wool sweaters. I told him no, because you cannot even put them in the tumble drier. Then he wanted me to wear a certain type of jacket (the type ladies from his generation wear). He wanted to buy me one. I told him: no. He bought one in my size nevertheless and gave it to me as a present. WWYD?

Put it in a bag and take to the charity shop so someone who will use it can have it.

Say thank you and leave it hanging in the wardrobe. Unless it actually suited me and I liked it in which case I would obviously wear it.

Sounds just like mine tbh. I graciously accept all presents however weird and put them in the cupboard and laugh about them with DH. He took it badly when he said he was going to buy me x,y,z and I pointed out it wasn't appropriate so it causes less arguments just to accept the presents and then find it's not a suitable occasion to wear them when I see them

Just take it to a charity shop and forget about it.

I'd tell him I hope he kept the receipt because you won't be wearing it, so he'll probably want to take it back.

Why does he care what you wear? I don’t think my fil would know if I was wearing a Bin liner

WWID?

Er, not do as I'm told

How weird, just tell him no surely!

Why would you even entertain the idea of letting your fil dictate what you or your children wear? Tell him no.

@Witchinaditch He is pretty bossy and likes to meddle into other people’s affairs. I guess that’s why. He was pretty offended when I didn’t want to buy our kids wool sweaters.

@kitk Well, who knows? He has several daughters in law. lol
Your advice sounds good. My dh had the same but I wanted to see what other people say.

Why does your FIL give a shit what you wear? I find that really strange tbh.

Buy him something totally innappropriate, wrap it up and give it to him and say 'you must wear this'. If he declines, hand him back the jacket and say 'best we just choose our own clothes from now on then'

Hang on, OP -- more details needed. Why does your FIL have so many opinions about what people who are not him wear? Why does he want your children to wear woollen sweaters? And what kind of jacket do 'ladies of his generation' wear???? I'm now fascinated.

I like @KurriKurri's idea. Buy him some low slung jeans, or ripped denim, and tell him this is what you want him to wear.

Curious what type of jacket it is! A blazer or something? I’d probably wear it doing the gardening or something lucky while he was around.

Buy him a mankini for Christmas.

@Otavis Not sure if it really matters. It’s basically a Barbour jacket. He is not only opinionated about clothes but about EVERYTHING on this earth. He is ex mil. I think he is like that because people shouted “Sir, yes, sir“ and did what he told them and he grew used to it. He likes wool sweaters because he thinks they are more healthy for the skin than polyester and look better.

Why can't you just say thank you and then not west it? If he's generally a nice guy then I'd just west it once or twice when I saw him. Why cause unnecessary drama?

What do his other DILs do about this?

Tweed jacket maybe?

No way would I wear it. Pointless to argue. He has decided he’s the boss. I wonder if your mil likes her clothes.

Was it a barbour by any chance?
My ex was very into only wool and cotton, and leather shoes.
He was horrified by modern fabrics esp polycotton!!!
Very annoying.
It's a snob thing from the so called upper classes. Sod the lot of them!

Cross post. Barbour. That was my other thought. But some younger generation wear them too. He sounds like a bore.

Sorry - my post crossed by the time I had typed it!
I guessed right though! 😁

You’re not the Barbour jacket troll, are you, OP?

If it’s a Barbour jacket then give it to me please

I thought that all grandparents / parents in law gave you presents you don’t really like that much. My MIL is absolutely amazing and buys me little gifts she loves so she thinks I will - glitzy earrings and little beaded bags, they aren’t to my taste at all but id never be so rude to do anything else but say “oh thank you very much”.