FIL wants me to wear a certain jacket WWYD?

[Flyingfish2019]

FIL is a somewhat quirky individual. While he has his strong points he can also be bossy and say offensive things.
He told me that he wanted our children to wear wool sweaters. I told him no, because you cannot even put them in the tumble drier. Then he wanted me to wear a certain type of jacket (the type ladies from his generation wear). He wanted to buy me one. I told him: no. He bought one in my size nevertheless and gave it to me as a present. WWYD?

Yep

Dunno, but there was a lengthy thread which I think ended in medias res to mass Mn frustration about a cheeky friend who, while staying longterm for free with the skint OP and her family, accused them of cutting/slashing her brand-new Barbour. Which went on into two threads, to mounting excitement, with the cheeky friend behaving more and more badly and postponing a face-to-face conversation with the OP, and then, after everyone had whipped themselves into a frenzy, the OP vanished, never to reappear.

I did wonder whether Barbour were having some kind of guerrilla marketing campaign, because I was reading Tatler in the hairdresser's the other day, and it had this giant ad campaign involving different styles of Barbour. (Who knew? I thought all there was was that standard smelly green waxed jacket favoured by gamekeepers...)

At least, I could be wrong about the OP vanishing from that other thread -- she hadn't reappeared, last I saw.

I really like the idea of buying him some inappropriate clothes, maybe some rubber fetish wear then ordering him to wear it.

Barbour troll

I have a barbour jacket! Probably not what your FIL bought, though. Mine's quite lovely. www.johnlewis.com/barbour-mast-waterproof-hooded-jacket-navy/p4265244

Buy him some grime for Christmas.

I just mentioned it was Barbour, because people were asking, didn’t I?

@pickachew
My DD has that same jacket, its lovely.

Customize it with safety pins and tartan. Refuse to take it off on Xmas Day, especially at dinner. Bonus points if you add an anarchy symbol, nose ring and synthetic joggers.

But really, he’s entitled to his opinion but not entitled to impose it. He asked you if you wanted one, you said no, he ignored you.

We have similar situation with my SIL. Went through spell of passive aggressive gift giving with her. Now everything from her goes straight to the charity shop unopened. I’m not involved in buying gifts for her and DIL and their kids- DH handles that. I send kids Easter Eggs/Halloween sweets/Christmas sweets, that’s all. So you could just let DH buy all his presents now and take along fairly non-descript stuff (biscuits/chocolates etc) when you feel a social need to give something. If he doesn’t respect your preferences don’t bother to learn his.

I'm with him on the wool. Love wool it is better for the skin then all this polyester shit. My toddler wears handknitted jumpers and cardies, they're lovely. Anyone over 50 always comment on them. Wool jumpers are not scratchy and horrible. 🙄No idea where you're getting your jumpers from!

But it is weird how your fil is so interested in what clothes you and your kids wear

@beelover it's such a flattering cut and, unlike the North face, not sized for women with arms longer than my legs!

Wool can be scratchy. Depends on the quality.
There are so many brilliantly hilarious posts on this thread.
volvemos has the best idea

Just tell him if it is a coat he is determined to buy that

"It has to be mink dahling"

If my fil told me my existing clothes didn't look good on me and then tell me what brands he thinks would look on me, My husband would support me and would be the first to say

"Not your body, not your choice"
"She's not dressing to look good for you"
"She's an adult and can choose her own clothes"

@Rubyroost I did not say wool jumpers are horrible. I just do not like the fact you cannot put them in the tumble drier. This house already has wet walls. I hate to line dry things in the house and you cannot always do it in the garden. I have no idea how people with children managed before tumble driers were invented.

So he's opinionated? So what? Is the first time you've ever met anyone who says things like 'i think ketchup has too much sugar" and "i much prefer wool jumpers to polyester fleece"? Doesn't mean you have to do anythjng differently!

@Flyingfish2019 no you didn't, but another poster did.

I have no idea how people with children managed before tumble driers were invented.

We washed and spun wool jumpers, squeezed them in a towel and dried them flat in the bathroom. We also washed nappies every day and dried them on a clothes house in the winter.

I love your coat @PickAChew, if I didn't already have something similar in my wardrobe from Fat Face, I'd be after that.

I love Barbour jackets, wind and waterproof and always look ‘classy’.

@Alsohuman: and houses weren’t full of mound and had wet walls those days? We used close diapers but the kind you can put in the tumble drier.

I don't understand the problem. In laws are always going to like different things and buy presents you don't like. Just say thanks and either sell it or give to charity. I think you need to chill out.

I do like my Barbour duffel coat (sidles off....). He sounds well-intentioned but it is NOT ok to tell you what to wear. I’d tell him you appreciate his generosity but it’s not your style, you won’t wear it and you don’t want him to have wasted his money...so receipt and you will exchange for something you do like and will wear. If he says no then he can’t complain when you follow through by not wearing. Wool sweaters are always better and not that hard to care for unless worn by lively and growing children who will muck them up on a daily basis - because real wool needs a cold/hand wash and a line dry. And children grow?! So it’s an expense you’ll basically waste.

The coat I already had is waterproof too... and i just decided I am not a classy dresser.

We have lots of wool jumpers! Mainly from m and s. They go in the machine then hang on an airer to dry. The airer is next to a radiator. They dry by the next day.

For FIL's Christmas present buy him 10 bottles of ketchup.

And if you are Kate middelton, buy your fil a hair piece 😇.