FIL wants me to wear a certain jacket WWYD?

[Flyingfish2019]

FIL is a somewhat quirky individual. While he has his strong points he can also be bossy and say offensive things.
He told me that he wanted our children to wear wool sweaters. I told him no, because you cannot even put them in the tumble drier. Then he wanted me to wear a certain type of jacket (the type ladies from his generation wear). He wanted to buy me one. I told him: no. He bought one in my size nevertheless and gave it to me as a present. WWYD?

Why wear it just to please him? I'd tell Dh to give it back so he can get his money back. Fuck it if he's offended. He's offended you by telling you what to wear.

Um, Barbours are not just for old people. Maybe they are in towns, and admittedly they arent everyones cup of tea, but there are people of all ages wearing them where I live.

I'd sell it on Ebay and use the money to buy a coat i wanted.

Are you Kate Middleton?

None of his business what you wear, although he does seem to have better taste than you do

unless your FIL is Alexander McQueen, he can SOD OFF

Why can't you just say thank you and then not west it? If he's generally a nice guy then I'd just west it once or twice when I saw him. Why cause unnecessary drama?

Saying no and sticking to it isn't causing drama, it's having boundaries.

Barbours are ok for outdoor stuff but they smell weird. He's got no business telling you what to wear but it's a practical jacket.

I sold a posh one with a liberty print lining on ebay, it went for quite a bit so you could look at selling it.

With the wool jerseys, again none of his business. But I agree with him that they are far nicer to wear and don't get stinky like acrylic jumpers. You don't need to hand wash, most can go in a delicates cycle. Doesn't mean he's not overly opinionated and controlling though.

I paid £150 for my barbour jacket. They're a good wear for Spring (or cool summer evenings).

I love my Barbour jacket but that is just me, but I would see it as a very large red flag if you my FIL felt it was okay to tell me what to wear.

The jacket needs to go to charity where it belongs if you don't like it, and it might be wise to limit the contact you have with this controlling man. It seems now MIL has escaped you are the next 'little woman' in his reach.

If you and the kids don't visit, then he can't tell anyone what to wear. I would be putting alot of distance between my family and a man like him.

Well.. he's right about wool really. It'll keep your kids warmer as well. BUT you're their parent, it's your choice. He should back the hell off but unfortunately I suspect he won't. Best solution is as mentioned, charity shop the bits you don't want and laugh about it with DH.

I'm not old and I love my barbours! I have three

He's right about wool too - plus it's much better for the environment than acrylic.

BUT he has no right to try and dictate what you wear, that's odd. Stick to your guns and if you don't want the coat just ebay it.

I'd accept a Barbour! 😆 Send it to me please.

What do the other DILs say when he tries to force them to wear stuff they don't like?

He's right, wool sweaters and Barbours are lovely. Quite snobby though. I'd love someone to buy me a new Barbour. Perhaps he thinks you look chavvy?

I'm allergic to wool though.

Priority is to check your DH also thinks his dad is nuts/weird/inappropriate. Because if not you want to nip that in the bud right now.

Put it on ebay and buy yourself something nice

I was all prepared to say yanbu, but actually it's not that bad to think wool is a better fabric for children's clothing than artificial materials, or to buy his Dil a Barbour jacket.

Barbours are worn by every age group.

It's more if it's your style and if you need an outdoor practical coat.

I don't know why you'd accept it and not just say that you won't wear it.

It must have been at least £100, so a complete waste of money to just take it.

I suspect this is Kate Middleton posting.

Prince Charles - wind your neck in. She'll choose what they wear - ok?

I'm just trying to imagine that conversation with my FIL and can't.

at least £100,

Add another 50 at least to your most basic Barbour jacket.

Well MN has a ready set up solution - send it to Barbour jacket Troll's friend and everyone is happy

Actually - at that price I would imagine they are waterproof, windproof and warm I'd keep it - if we get a really cold winter you might be glad of it. I'd wear any coat whether I liked it or not as long as it kept me warm.

Alternatively give it to a homeless person - a warm coat would be very welcome I'm sure.

Buying a Barbour jacket itself isn't a bad thing, it's suggesting to the OP she should wear one and her saying 'no thanks' and him buying it anyway.

A Barbour jacket is a lovely gift, to someone who likes Barbour jackets. I personally love them but OP doesn't and her fil knew this before buying one.

I knew it would be a Barbour. As far as I know young women wear them too.

What sort of a jacket is it? I'm size 8 if there's a barbour jacket going free?

This thread does make me think of the young royal Mums now. How unusual it must be for them to be told everything to do.

Like Prince George still wears short trousers! He's about 8! Little Charlotte is in these 'frocks' all the time. Haven't seen much of Louis to be fair. But I'm sure he's in wool.