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Work drama, please help!!

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Nameqhanger · 04/11/2019 19:41

So I work in a relatively large office, some would say quite cliquey, I've worked there for 3 years. Anyway, the 'queen bee', let's call her A. She's very popular even among the managers. She complains a lot and makes everything into a bigger issue than it is. Quite often she falls out with people in the office over minor things, she sometimes ends up crying and everyone goes to console her.

Anyway, A is part of our 'group' that usually meets up every few months or so outside work. I was in charge of organising it this time, and I arranged to meet at a local bar for drinks and a catch up out of work.

She wasn't at work the day when I told people my suggestion as she was off sick. I said I'd text her to let her know, which I did, but I never got a reply.

Well the drinks were supposed to be today, someone casually mentions it over lunch, she immediately starts creating a massive drama, saying nobody told her, we excluded her, and so on. Another colleague (B) was like well nameqhanger was organising it, she said she was going to text you. A is practically crying at this point, saying I obviously hate her and that's why I didn't text her, I've excluded her, none of us like her or we would have checked she knew.

The reason she didn't get the text was because she changed phone numbers, I found that out later. I actually had to get my phone out to prove to everyone that I did actually text her because everyone was trying to console A as she was crying. I did point out that she could still come with us as it hadn't happened yet. Apparently no, she had something already booked.

B texted me tonight (after we all went out without her because she couldn't make it) to say A had posted a cryptic facebook status about it all. B thinks I need to text A an apology. I actually already apologised to A multiple times at work. I feel bad that I didn't get the message to her, but I feel like I've been made to look like the bad guy here.

AIBU to not send another apology to A?

OP posts:
browneyes77 · 06/11/2019 11:51

@LittleMissMe99

Actually the OP said this:
”A is practically crying at this point, saying I obviously hate her and that's why I didn't text her, I've excluded her, none of us like her or we would have checked she knew”.

So yes, that sounds like a melodramatic, attention seeking, drama llama to me.

GreenFingersWouldBeHandy · 06/11/2019 11:53

Christ on a bike; a grown woman crying at work about this?

Unbelievable behaviour.

Can't believe everyone else enables this too.

Youmakemewannashout · 06/11/2019 12:47

You say that this diva is popular but I have worked with several people like her over the years and I have noticed that others pander to the whims of people like her in order to keep her sweet- they don’t want to be the victim of her wrath. Best to get on with your job and totally ignore any drama.

QueenoftheFarts · 06/11/2019 14:56

She is a total thunderbollock.

Wr have one in our office. Regular histrionics about minor things like lunch arrangements.

Rest assured she probably.isnt actually popular with management... they probably think she's a total arse but want to avoid fanning the flames of drama.

Either there is one in every office or you and I work in the same place!

shadypines · 06/11/2019 19:42

How old is A, cos she sounds about 7 yrs and a spoilt little bugger.

People need to stop consoling her every time she cries over nothing, it's just fanning the flames.

I'm not understanding why you should apologise because she changed her phone number.

Ferret27 · 06/11/2019 19:53

Crazy ..... do not enable this poor behaviour by apologising... You have done nothing wrong and everyone needs to help her grow up...

TimeForDinnerDinnerDinner · 06/11/2019 22:11

My husband had a v similar situation at his work once...
Turned out the lady having the meltdown about a minor issue had MH problems.

Nindaelita · 11/11/2019 10:25

No. Don't apologize anymore. Simply keep your stance that you didn't know the phone number had changed you still sent a message and included her on the meeting. Its hard to believe that everyone is on her side and not seeing yours... she must have some strong grip on someone high up in the company or she much be very attractive to have everyone giving her reason and glued to her ass... its always one of the 2. And the crying can be a way for people to feel sorry for her fairly quickly or she needs to sort out her emotions better, usually people like her need the attention while having underlying problems that haven't been addressed.

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