Help please guys re family court

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Sorry to post here I just want as much help as possible

Have other threads on here re leaving an abusive man with my 7 week old daughter after he tried to kill me

Now live with my family in N Ireland

He has gone to family court and filed for me to attend a sitting in London in a few weeks

My daughter and I live away from there as we had to flee the abuse

Police investigation is on going can some one please help me with this

My solicitor was under the impression if he wanted to do anything he would have to apply to the family court in N Ireland
I do not want this evil man having unsupervised acesss as he has hurt me many times in front of her and put us both in hospital

What may happen next guys
Please please help
Please

Thanks all

This was all advised from F4J

Very soon

Seems very odd to wait 22 months before saying you have abducted his child! Surely if he truly believed this he would have done it immediately?He is absolutely fucking with you.

When is the hearing scheduled? And are you able to pay to instruct an English solicitor?

I will get it from somewhere

I have two weeks
Don't qualify for legal aid

And yes he is 100 per cent fcking with me

Went to the police earlier to check if I travel with my child soon I won't be arrested at airport

I have done nothing wrong I feel DV victims do not get a fair chance
So many things going against me

This is to get me back for going to police and telling them what he did to me

He does not care about his child
He really doesn't

Many times he almost caused a miscarriage
Who raises a knife to a woman 38 weeks pregnant then claims he had to

Thanks you all have been amazing
Just wish I could know what will happen

You don't necessarily need an English solicitor but you do need a competent N. Irish solicitor who has extensive experience of domestic abuse cases to make the necessary application to the relevant English family court to dismiss the case as it does not have jurisdiction.

How did you find your current solicitor? Was she recommended to you?

Are you living with other family members or are are you living alone with your dd?

I live with my entire family he yreathened to kill them all
This solicitor has helped me previously
I think she just needs to be 100 per cent clear re next steps as she never encountered this before

So if the Met police traced you to N.Ireland they would report back to the court that you are living at the address to which the court documents were served?

A complete waste of police time.

I know !!!!!!

I had no where else to go so of course I am with a loving family

He has been here and tried to take her

Police came

If only I left the minute he battered me in my first trimester
Why did I allow this to happen

Please, please, please get this thread moved. It's Friday night - a prime time for hunters.

Look at my dm and see where to ask mumsnet to move it to. As I've said, anyone on here will know where you are and won't have any problem finding you.

Yes
Thanks

Can't even have a thread on here!!

There's no point in blaming yourself. You were stupid and compounded your stupidity by naming him on your dd's birth certificate. Did you also give her his surname?

In any event, you need to get over that and concentrate on what needs to be done now to keep you and your dd safe. I'm relieved to hear you're living with family as there's safety in numbers and, as you've seen him off once, there's no reason to suppose you won't be able to see him off again with or without the help of the police.

She does not have his surname.
I'm not that stupid
Yes he is on Birth cert
After multiple threats to kill himself and name me in his suicide note I gave in
😡

Your thread is not safe on AIBU because it will show up in any google search. I've told you where to move it as that place can't be found by any search engine.

Yes and thanks

There's no need to be harsh though
Got plenty of that elsewhere

Thanks all
Last post on here

I'm immensely relieved to know that your dd doesn't have his surname. Have you kept the suicide note?

What you need to know is that there's nothing special about him. He's a common and garden abuser who is reading from the script and is currently aided and abetted by a bunch of sad losers. Their usual mistake is to overegg the cake and, as your case demonstrates, they don't seem to learn from their mistakes.

True

Very true

Thanks

OP under no circumstances should you take your child to England

You need to explain the position to the court, and ask for either a telephone attendance, or a video link.

Yes the court should dismiss his case but it needs to hear from you both so it can decide the jurisdiction issue.

Ok

I thought it could be dismissed without having to do this

Really quite clueless

I am hoping it will be brief then so??

Finger crossed