AIBU to take 3 week old baby out for NYE dinner?

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My baby is due first week in December. My friend asked if I’d like to do something NYE and I said I’d like to but not sure what I will be able to do with baby. She has found a nice restaurant in the city that has private rooms if you have over a certain amount of people and spend enough. I think she’s already got enough numbers for that so it wouldn’t be the end of the world if I do have to cancel. Obviously I have no idea how my baby will be but if everything is good I wonder if I should take a baby so young out, especially in the evening on such a busy night. There is room for the pram and we can turn the speakers in there off or down so it’s not too loud. None of our friends cause trouble or drink much at all. Although 10+ people in a room might be quite loud anyway. And my main concern is going through the city with such a small baby in a pram when it’s so crowded and there might be a lot of drunk, crazy people around. What do you think?

Have you asked what your friend thinks?

I don’t think you can turn up however and turn the speakers off!

Honestly, I would advise against it. With a 3 week old and in the fog of early parenthood when day comes you will wish you hadn’t committed to this dinner.

NYE is complete shit anyway.

It's a big no. Your baby will still be a vulnerable newborn, you could very well still feel delicate.
In fact, even if baby was a few months old it would still be a big no.

You can’t turn the speakers off in a room when a bunch of adults are out for a new year’s eve party.

The rest of it depend on lots of stuff.

All of mine were born at 42 weeks so I was looking at a 1 week old at that point. I couldn’t have done it with DC1. Physically I could have with 2 and 3 although I wouldn’t have mentally coped (for lots of reasons) with DC3.

I think it’s a lot of pressure to put yourself under if I’m honest.

Absolutely ridiculous idea.

If there's any year to give NYE a miss it's the one when you had a baby only 3 weeks (or perhaps less if they're born late) before. Enjoy a quiet night in with your new baby

No definitely not

You also want to think about yourself as well. The birth might be straightforward, but sometimes it isn't. 3 weeks postpartum I still felt like I had been hit by a train, and together with sleep deprivation, being in a party with 10 people would have been the last thing I'd want to do.

Yes looks like lots of advice saying not to go. I was kind of leaning that way myself. My friend does want me to come she even rang them and asked about bringing a baby and noise levels and they told her about the speakers. Like I said, I’m pretty sure she’s got enough people anyway and under the circumstances wouldn’t be annoyed with me at all for canceling. I guess if baby is doing well and I get a breast pump I could leave him with my mum for two hours but tbh I don’t really want to deal with the crowds myself. A nice takeaway, a glass of wine and movie at home while cuddling my baby sounds like a pretty good night to me

You’ll likely be knackered and cursing yourself for committing to a night out at three weeks! I honestly wouldn’t make plans so early. What if you go over by two weeks? You might still have healing stitches or a baby attached to you 24/7. Enjoy a quiet night in.

I would completely do this. Newborns are very portable and in the early days you tend to be on a bit of a high and desperate to show off your baby!

The only caveat is you may not be healthy enough, and of course, you may not feel like it. In those circumstances I’d just suck up losing the money, you’re no worse off

Honestly, you could well have a fanny full of stitches and will just want your jammies, a pizza, and to be asleep by 9pm if at all possible.

It will be hell - don’t even think about it.

If it was any other night I would say yes but I’m not sure it wise on nye soz ☹️

I’m due end of Nov, currently debating joining my work Christmas do (without baby though), depends how birth goes and how both me and bub are doing or I might be sooo in love and so tired with my new bundle I won’t care about going out 😊

Oh that poor baby! It'll be freezing cold out, drunk people around, who may try to hold your baby when they're still very vulnerable, you wouldnt be able to relax and enjoy it... Definitely no.

I took my 3 week old to a big family party. There were about 100 people there. We only stayed about an hour.

Your baby may not come on expected due date. My first born was 10 days over due. Therefore you could have a baby around 1 week old.
When my dd was 10 days old we went out witb the Inlaws for Easter sunday dinner. It was horrific. The restuarant was busy it was warm. Baby was fine but it was me who couldn't handle it. I didn't feel at all myself and was extremely uncomfortable the entire dinner. I would advise you stay at home and let your body recover

You could be recovering from a c-section at the time. You could be sleep deprived. You could be feeling great. You could have a little angel who sleeps and feeds. You could have a little angel who doesn’t. The reporter isn’t right now, you don’t know how you will be come NYE so you can’t decide on that front. However going trough a city with a pram and lots of people out drinking in the night, would not be something I would do.

I'd go, we started going out with dd when she was about 2 weeks old to the pub, local restauarant etc.

Its easy at that age cause they just sleep or feed. We used to arrive, i'd spend 10mins breastfeeding, then she would sleep while we ate

3 weeks post partum I was a sleep deprived wreck with leaking boobs, still bleeding heavily, and struggling to walk far because my pelvis was so sore. You might only be 1 week post partum if your baby is late.

At 3 weeks:

I didn't fit in any nice clothes.
DD slept in 2-3 hour stretches despite feeding very well.
I still had issues with SPD and my stitches.
I just wanted to sit down and rest in the evening.

DD was nearly 6 months at NYE and it was the first one we were in bed at 10pm for her to wake us up just in time for midnight. NYE is overrated.

My third baby was 14 days overdue so your baby could only be about a week old.
I’ve had three (all overdue!) and I would say no to this. You just don’t know how you’re going to feel, and you’ll feel pressured to go if it’s booked.

Why not play it by ear? Tell her you'll see how it goes and make a decision nearer the time when you have had baby and know how your birth / recovery went.

I think you’d be crazy. My second was very portable during the day but from 3/4 weeks she had horrid colic at night. Really she was just overstimulated I think but she screamed and screamed if she wasn’t in a darkened room by 7. Aside from all of the issues already highlighted, with a newborn I also went into overprotection overdrive. Crowds and pissed people would have totally stressed me out.

If you are well and happy to I'd say yes....apart from the walking the baby through town but. No way. And turning the speakers off?! No!!