Christmas Dinner issue...

[katycb]

So I'm hosting Xmas for us (family of 5 all kids under 7) and my parents/ in laws this year. I have invited my sister who is a strict vegan so was obviously going to make sure she had a decent vegan option. I understand that she doesn't like seeing meat as a centre piece so I offered to plate up separately so this wasn't an issue to which she said she would still feel uncomfortable, I then offered to cook a veggie meal to avoid this so she would have lots of choice and even if some stuff has dairy in it she shouldn't be distressed looking at it .. Apparently this isn't enough and she will only come if everything is Vegan... A part of me thinks that I want to compromise so that all my family can be there the other part thinks that I have already been really fair and there are 9 others to think about...she had then offered to come but not for the meal and I really don't know what to do. So aibu to just cook what we would normally have with a vegan option and plate up separately and say that's the compromise or should I cook a vegan meal for 10..

Only read the OP but your DSis is being incredibly unreasonable. She can’t accept an invite to eat at someone’s house and then dictate the meal to that extent!

She is being unreasonable. I would prob be ok eating a vegan dinner but if there were no after dinner chocolates I would be very sad!

Does not eating meat or dairy impair people's cognitive processes? I can't imagine anyone whose mental function is normal thinking they get the right to decide what 10 other people eat on Christmas day (or any other day, come to that).

Inviting her to come after the meal is fine, but will she get narky if your guests fancy a turkey sandwich in the evening, or a sausage roll? Does she expect your cake and chocolates to be vegan, too?

And are you all expected to drink only vegan wine while in her presence?

"What do these folk do when they're out shopping or eating, for instance? Do they run screaming from Sainsburys, tremble in Tescos or gag in Greggs, or just get on with it when there's not the benefit of an audience?"

I'm surprised there isn't a campaign to compel butchers' shops to have blacked-out windows, like sex shops used to have, in case some delicate vegan gets a glimpse of a chop or something.

@clareykb great news!

If it were me cooking a vegan would have to bring their own food because even my veg has real butter in it, that how i always remember my xmas dinner and that’s the way I cook it now, no chance am I chaging a thing in my xmas dinner for anyone. Anyone who was vegan and wanted to come to my house for xmas dinner would have to take what I cooked them (obvs separately to everyone else’s delicious butter covered food) or would need to bring food with them. A lot of my family come over from N. Ireland to mine for xmas and wouldn’t be happy with a vegan dinner in fact I think my dad would go to find a takeaway that was open! You’ve offered her a few options she won’t accept any of them so guess she’s having dinner at her own house.