To ask how many hours your DP spends playing videos games

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Just what the title says really.

My partner spends maybe 15-20 hours a week on average (sometimes he can spend 12 full hours!) and I was wondering how many your partners spend. I mean he's playing the games with other people, so is this normal in other households too?

FYI, we don't have any children yet and we aren't married yet. I'm just very worried that if we do marry and have kids, the family would come second to gaming. Everyone says to look out for red flags and I'm wondering if this is one?

Long story short, how many hours do your partners spend gaming and has it reduced since marrying and having children?

TIA!

Zero. Never been into it. Prefers the pub!

DH is currently talking to his two closest friends via a headset while they all play online. One lives in the Middle East, the other on the opposite side of the UK to us. They would never think to have a chat on the phone but this way they stay in touch and provide important support for each other.

Offline, he is an equal parent and a head teacher, but I’ll let him know that Mumsnet says he’s a man child who shouldn’t be getting laid.

DP does play video games, but not frequently. It's more when the notion takes him.

Me on the other hand, probably around 15 hours a week.

0 - I wouldn't marry a man who played computer games, I find it very unattractive.
He does go out socialising with friends once or twice a month though and cycles or golfs occasionally (far less now than before ds)

Also everyone saying "none, he's an adult/grown up" can fuck off

I play world of Warcraft for 6-10 hours a week. My friend must clock up over 30 easily . I don’t think there is a acceptable limit it will depend on your circumstances

Zero

It doesn't really matter what any of us think about it though - the fact is, you're not happy with the status quo and he is prioritising his hobby above all else.
You don't feel like a priority and that's not a good feeling.

Hope you find a good way forward

None thankfully. Doesn't watch sport either #soblessed

Not creative? You've never tried to kill a horde while trapped in a cave then?

Or having to think on your toes when you get downed and lose all your perks along with your PAP'ed Ray Gun just as round 23 is fucking starting. Working out the best route round the map with a horde of zombies on your arse to get your shit back when you've only got your starting pistol is hard as fuck, it takes brain power!

Not creative? You've never tried to kill a horde while trapped in a cave then?

Or having to think on your toes when you get downed and lose all your perks along with your PAP'ed Ray Gun just as round 23 is fucking starting. Working out the best route round the map with a horde of zombies on your arse to get your shit back when you've only got your starting pistol is hard as fuck, it takes brain power!

They've also never tried to build a Sims house that in any way resembles a real life building.

Zero -because he’s over 16 years old-

Reading is very different to gaming. It nurtures creativity and enhances imagination, learning, knowledge and vocabulary. It also is very relaxing, doesn’t emit blue light or suppress melatonin and promotes sleep and reduces stress hormones.

What is your understanding of games?
Do you think it’s all FIFA and shooting?
There are a raft of amazing games out there that are creative and make you think. That relax you and teach you things.
Try Journey or Flower for a start.

And those who say ‘none, because he’s an adult’. I’m willing to bet he spends the weekend riding his bike or playing 5 a side.

OP I think I know what game you're talking about and why he's suddenly peaked again.

My ex was a gamer and though it's not the sole reason we split, it definitely had a massive impact in his behaviour but that was more about who he was playing with rather than the game/gaming itself.

And the fact he is a knobhead.

"Zero -because he’s over 16 years old-"

I know you think this is really witty but about 20 other people have beat you to it.

I really don't get where this snobbery towards computer games comes from. A lot of games require creative and critical thinking. Just to give an example 3 of my top favourite games:

Phoenix Write: it requires you to remember evidence from investigations, use logic to find wholes in a witness testimony as you act as a lawyer. You have to know when to question a witness further and remeber all the things that have been said to push them to tell the truth when you find a flaw in their testimony

Professor Layton: You work through a game solving mysteries while solving puzzels that challenge maths skills, visual puzzles, thinking outside the box, and thinking logically to solve them.

Fire Emblem: it is pretty much like a chess game but with a story line. You stragically move your army around the the map keeping your units safe, while remembering what unit is weak or strong against which unit etc. In the newest game you create your own army from scratch and having full control what type of units you have in your army and how you use them.

Games require a huge amount of creativity and brain work. Probably more brain work then certain movies or books I might add.

4-5 hours a day during week and 8 hours per day at weekend. We both play together it is our main hobby.

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Zero. Fuck all

That’s why we’re still married

It’s a good idea to marry a man and not a boy

Zero and he also doesn't follow football or grande prix - fabulous!

Oh dear, mine watches sports sometimes too. Am I going to have to return him? We've had a very happy 25 years together, but clearly I'm being dazzled by his many wonderful but obviously insignificant qualities into ignoring these insurmountable obstacles.

DW and I both work long hours, don't have kids (but time consuming pets).

We probably game for about 10-15 hours per week each, but a lot of that is together. We've emigrated so also sometimes game online with friends or family members from home.

The sneering attitude that some have to games is very sad. There's a whole range of games out there. I'm not one for shooting or racing games, but enjoy sociable party games, puzzle games and story-driven games. I often find games far more engrossing, engaging and sociable than just sitting watching TV.

Happy to say that my grandmother has become an avid gamer in her 80s. Has enriched her days no end.

As for gaming 'not being creative'; some games nurture and encourage creativity in a way that a reading a piece of fiction simply could not. The most blindingly obvious being Minecraft.

Try Journey or Flower for a start.
Journey in particular was just so beautiful. It's amazing how such a short game, with no speech or text, can provoke such strong emotions. May have had a little cry

About 1 hour every few months when Ds asks him to join. However he's getting his console bk when ds has his new one. But he will only play it when I'm out or if I'm doing something he'd never play it during family or our time

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