Ds’s friend stayed for sleepover and no ones come to collect him

[YabaDabaBoo]

Ds’s friend (both 10) stayed for a sleepover last night after they went trick or treating together. They’ve been friends since nursery so we know him very well and know the parents fairly well. We don’t socialise with them but the boys often have sleepovers at each other’s house. Sometimes we will do the school run for each other. We always chat in the playground.

Friends df works night shifts so we agreed to have him stay as his dm is away with work. He said he will be back to pick him up today between 10.30/11 as he needs to drop him off at his grandparents before lunch.

It’s after 1pm now and he’s not here. It’s very unlike him. They’ve never been this late before. If ever they were running late they’d always call and let us know.

I’ve tried the df’s mobile several times and left a message. I’ve also tried the dm but hers is just going to vml. I don’t what else to do, if anything.

Obviously, I’ve given the boys lunch and they’re very happy playing video games. Should I be doing something else?

@YabaDabaBoo do the grandparents drive? Could they have visited the friends house and tried to find out where he is? If they do drive, ask DH to leave a note on the front door for the grandparents to call you.

The mum is abroad she has her phone turned off and will probably turn it on to Check when she is done with her day and back at the hotel. Calling her office if you even know where she works is OTT in my opinion. The child's grandparents now something has gone on too if they were worried they would be doing all the same things as suggested here...they may even have the mums hotel information. There is nothing you can do until dh goes to knock. Either that or load up the car and go and knock yourself

I’d be worried too! I work nights and often wake up several times in the day... fingers crossed everything is ok!? He’ll be mortified when he wakes up!

'Equally confused by how it would impact the night out, even he's still not surfaced at 5pm it's just another kid for your GP's to "babysit", it's not as if he's actually a huge inconvenience'.

Maybe the GP don't want to babysit some one else's child.

I'd be worried too but have a very over active imagination! Hope all ok.

Does he live far from you? I would just bang on the door.

Hope all is well. I've overslept after a night shift but never 4 hours late.

I would be worried too. I’m a worrier!
In all likelihood, there is a simple explanation of dad being sound asleep and mum working away so not able to get to her phone.
Try not to question the boys too much as he will start to worry too.

I'd be going round there ASAP and knocking on the door. What if something's happened to him?

Still nothing? How bizarre

Being 5 hours late is a big deal. Id be worried somethings wrong. Dose the child know his grandparents last name you could look them up with that if he knows the town

I find it a bit ridiculous and reckless for a 10 year old to not know either the phone number or the address of his GPs. My GM made me learn both by heart for her and the other GPs just before I started school (7 in my country). I will be following suit when the time comes.

I agree it's most likely a case of night shift lag. Don't leave them alone, even if your DS is super sensible, leaving someone else's kid in your care unsupervised is asking for trouble. Popping everyone in the car when your DH arrives is the most sensible pathway.

It's a long time extra to be asleep for, when you are expecting to wake up at 10.30 ish.

Hope everything turns out ok op

Hope you hear something soon, a hour late is understandable but 4 seems a lot.

Fingers crossed it's just a misubderstanding. I hate these threads- make me anxious even tho I'm not involved!

The grandparents will have contacted the Dad by now surely if they were expecting im for lunch? They will be worried too!

That's quite a long time to oversleep by, and i do night shifts as well.
Hope he's okay!

Have you got a friend who could pop round?

I'm really hoping this is a case of the dad sleeping merely and then freaking out when he sees the time.. Hope you hear soon OP.

I don't think it's unusual to not know phone numbers, I don't know any as they are all stored in my phone...not in my head

Right, dh is packing up and leaving in the next 5 mins and it’s another 15 mins drive to their house.

In all likelihood, he’s fast asleep and his phone is on silent.

To the poster who mentioned it, I don’t think it’s very fair to my parents to put another child on them. I have 3 dc, youngest is still a baby. It’s quite a lot for my parents as it is and actually took a lot of persuading for them to agree to babysit in the first place. As i said, it’s a very rare night out. They’re not massively helpful but that’s a whole other thread. They definitely wouldn’t be happy about having an extra child to look after.

Can you get a friend or someone to sit with the children so you can go and knock on his door.

I think you are doing the right thing by getting your DH to pop over.

You need to contact Mum asap to get contact info for grandparents - they must be worried by now. Then you can drop the lad off at his grandparents and still be back in time for the evening out - assuming nothing untoward has happened to the Dad.