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Ds’s friend stayed for sleepover and no ones come to collect him

384 replies

YabaDabaBoo · 01/11/2019 13:16

Ds’s friend (both 10) stayed for a sleepover last night after they went trick or treating together. They’ve been friends since nursery so we know him very well and know the parents fairly well. We don’t socialise with them but the boys often have sleepovers at each other’s house. Sometimes we will do the school run for each other. We always chat in the playground.

Friends df works night shifts so we agreed to have him stay as his dm is away with work. He said he will be back to pick him up today between 10.30/11 as he needs to drop him off at his grandparents before lunch.

It’s after 1pm now and he’s not here. It’s very unlike him. They’ve never been this late before. If ever they were running late they’d always call and let us know.

I’ve tried the df’s mobile several times and left a message. I’ve also tried the dm but hers is just going to vml. I don’t what else to do, if anything.

Obviously, I’ve given the boys lunch and they’re very happy playing video games. Should I be doing something else?

OP posts:
noworklifebalance · 02/11/2019 07:38

A few months back dh and I were going to go for dinner for dh bday and they cancelled on us half an hour before they were due to come because dm had a headache

You need to get yourself a babysitter - yes, it will cost but if your nights out are rare then it won't be a regular extravagance and you will be able to actually look forward to it knowing that they will turn up.
Ask friends, fellow school parents for recommendations or if they have an au pair that wants to earn some extra cash.

MummyofTw0 · 02/11/2019 07:52

@YabaDabaBoo I don't think you over reacted.

One hour late maybe

4 hours late yes I'd have been very concerned

Vulpine · 02/11/2019 07:58

The dad shoulda least given you the contact details of the brother

Veterinari · 02/11/2019 08:13

Glad it all worked out and you had a greaser night Yaba

Veterinari · 02/11/2019 08:13

That should say great night! But as you had a Doner maybe my autocorrect knows more than I do! Grin

HolyChickpea · 02/11/2019 08:43

Do we know if the brother's ok?

Frazzled2207 · 02/11/2019 09:32

Just rtft.
I don't think you overreacted at all.
Am very pleased all is well and you had a good night out in the end.
I hope the poor boy wasn't too troubled by it all.

LolaDabestest · 02/11/2019 09:42

Right now you, dh, kids and boys dad get an Uber race round to the boys uncle and check he's ok...really this was a big drama over nothing wasn't it?...missing shows and 10 year olds that don't understand or know addresses etc mmmmmmmmmm

EBearhug · 02/11/2019 09:43

I've only had German doners in Germany, but there, it's actual layers of meat rather than a reconstituted elephant leg. It was a bit of a revelation when I had only previously had the British version. Don't particularly remember the bread, though.

(Glad the rest of it was sorted out.)

diddl · 02/11/2019 09:49

I live in Germany & have never had a döner here.

Might have to try it!

I guess the name surprised me as they are Turkish aren't they?

InvisibleWomenMustBeRead · 02/11/2019 09:57

Doner kebabs in Germany are lovely!

Motoko · 02/11/2019 10:14

I'm glad you posted the thread, because otherwise, I'd have never known about bubble waffles, and found a place not far from me that does them, and delivers. Can't wait to try one!

I'm very glad that everything ended well, and you got to have a great night out.

WidowTwonky · 02/11/2019 10:33

Did the DM ever get back to you OP?

bluebell34567 · 02/11/2019 10:47

i dont understand. didnt they go to school yesterday?

Peridot1 · 02/11/2019 10:56

It’s half term in lots of places bluebell.

YabaDabaBoo · 02/11/2019 10:56

WidowTwonky
She did get back to me. I had a missed call on my phone which I saw after the show and a text message apologising. Pretty much saying she’s so sorry to have inconvenienced us and she’s so embarrassed etc. I did reply saying not to worry and it’s done now and I understand it was a one-off. Not much more I can say to that.

bluebell34567
Not really sure what you don’t understand? Why would they be at school during half term?

OP posts:
SafetyAdvice0FeedWhenAgitated · 02/11/2019 11:25

I loooove how this thread went from "oh gosh, something might have happened to DF" through "DF is obvs cheating" to "German donner is awesome"😂

coconuttelegraph · 02/11/2019 12:04

bluebell clearly doesn't grasp the concept that not all schools have the same holidays as hers, tricky one to understand I know

isabellerossignol · 02/11/2019 12:30

i dont understand. didnt they go to school yesterday?

Judging by many years of mumsnet, someone would have reported me to social services for neglect if I'd sent my children to school yesterday. It being half term and all.

Squigean · 02/11/2019 12:51

So let's get the straight: the boy's father didn't pick him up because he's having an affair with the OP's DH, but it seems that the hide in the boy's uncle's car to eat German donners. The boy's uncle didn't pick up the boy because he was shocked the OP hadn't sent her children to school during half term. (Well, plus he didn't have his car due to clandestine German donor consumption. )

I'm still not sure where the grandparents fit in: were they on a secret holiday with the boy's mum?

SafetyAdvice0FeedWhenAgitated · 02/11/2019 13:02

@Squigean 😂
They probably own the German Donner franchise and were busy. Mum is lying too obvs. She isn't on holidays! She is lost in IKEA and no one in the family wants to admit it

ReanimatedSGB · 02/11/2019 18:23

I was wondering if the resolution was going to be that someone actually had exploded...

alig99 · 02/11/2019 18:34

Goodness wouldn’t like to be in that household when they all get together, bet there’ll be some words! Good to hear all was well and you had a great night out. I’m off to google “bubble waffle”!

MatildaTheCat · 02/11/2019 18:44

It’s perfectly obvious that the boys DM has run away with the DB. The DF of the boy is unaware of this to date.

That poor child.

Bouledeneige · 02/11/2019 18:45

One of those threads where you get quite surprised when you flip to the end of the thread and discover the delights of bubble waffles and german doner kebabs!