Ds’s friend stayed for sleepover and no ones come to collect him

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Ds’s friend (both 10) stayed for a sleepover last night after they went trick or treating together. They’ve been friends since nursery so we know him very well and know the parents fairly well. We don’t socialise with them but the boys often have sleepovers at each other’s house. Sometimes we will do the school run for each other. We always chat in the playground.

Friends df works night shifts so we agreed to have him stay as his dm is away with work. He said he will be back to pick him up today between 10.30/11 as he needs to drop him off at his grandparents before lunch.

It’s after 1pm now and he’s not here. It’s very unlike him. They’ve never been this late before. If ever they were running late they’d always call and let us know.

I’ve tried the df’s mobile several times and left a message. I’ve also tried the dm but hers is just going to vml. I don’t what else to do, if anything.

Obviously, I’ve given the boys lunch and they’re very happy playing video games. Should I be doing something else?

I'd be worried because he had to drop the kid to the grandparents before 1pm - that mean he has to go back to work/somewhere else or that they were going out after that?

I worked nights and once slept through 3 loud alarm clocks,including one I put on a ,teal tray! It made a horrendous noise,but it didn’t wake me.My bet he is asleep.

metal!!!

Hope it's sorted soon. At 10 they can keep themselves amused if you've gone out by then but it is a pain isn't it. I'm sure he's fallen asleep x

Another vote that hes likely falled asleep. My husband works nights and I know how exhausted he gets. I'm really baffled why you havent contacted the mothers work place though. He has two parents.

A bit worrying, but hopefully he is still asleep and will feel like a right wally when he wakes up!

Really hope all is ok OP.

I would echo what everyone else was saying, but this length of time is definitely worrying.

Sorry if you've already said, but can't you all his DMs office now?

Yes I’d bet he’s is asleep, when I worked night it could take a bomb going off to wake me at times.

4 hours is quite an extreme amount to oversleep!

4 hrs is a long time to over sleep by but it's not a long time to sleep my nights finish at 8am home by 9 in bed by 9.30 so that would be 5 nearly 6hrs sleep the dad has had obviously I have no idea what his finish time or commute is if he has been on a run of nights or if this was a one of so that might be all the sleep he has had in 24 hrs.

I get it's worrying but you have to think logically the first step is some one knocking on the door if there is no answer the. You can decide the next step

GeneHuntLover
I’m sorry to say, I’m like this. Don’t know anyone’s number by heart, it’s all my phone. It took me months to remember my own.

My ds is also 10 and doesn’t know my grandmothers address or phone number by heart. We visit her almost every Friday and she live about 1/2hr away. I don’t think he’d be able to tell you how to get there. I should probably get him to memorise some numbers

I’d go and knock on their door, and then take steps from there

Crikey OP, this is beginning to sound worrying. I do hope the poor boy's father is OK.

If you do end up having to keep him for the evening, is your show something your parents might like at least? At least the tickets aren't going to waste then.

I would agree with contacting Mum's work now. Oversleeping is one thing, but 5 hours late to pick up your child is deeply concerning. I know there's not much she'll be able to do if she's not in the country, but she will at least have contact details for the grandparents.

Having said that, if they were expecting their GS by now, I would imagine they would have tried to call her too.

Such a worry.

Maybe "they" aren't usually CFs because the mum is there and responsible, but with her and her influence out of the country, perhaps the dad has decided to be a CF and have a big lie in?

So nervous reading this thread and don’t know why !
Hope everything is ok and he really has just zonked out

I've just been reading this and it's made my tummy drop. I hope the dad is still just asleep and wakes and realises when your dh gets there. I hope the boys have had a nice extended play today

Hopefully the Dad is just asleep. He is going to be so embarrassed! Lol

I find it a bit ridiculous and reckless for a 10 year old to not know either the phone number or the address of his GPs.

Goodness, my children never knew their grandparents' phone number off by heart, and that was in the days before universal mobile phones. I can't see any reason why that should be the norm.

If he is still there, I would take the child home, and say you were getting worried. It is possible there has been a misunderstanding, and they thought you were having him for the following day as well (??) Clutching at straws. I would be driving him home or walking him there.

Sorry - 4 hours, not 5. Had 10am stuck in my head for some reason. Point still stands though!

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Also the little boy must be getting worried now too surely.

Another one agreeing he's probably asleep but I would try calling his work or the DM's work anyway. Breezy and light but just to say you're trying to contact as you have the DS and they're not answering blah blah.

I suspect at some point you're going to get a very sheepish dad on your doorstep!

Hope it works out.

As a previous poster said, I also work night shifts and get home about 8:30am. Bed by 9am. So I’d have to drag myself out of bed for 10:30... whereas I’d normally sleep through till the afternoon (6-7 hours) That’s why it isn’t worrying if his alarm hasn’t gone off.

I find it a bit ridiculous and reckless for a 10 year old to not know either the phone number or the address of his GPs.

I think it's pretty normal. I know loads of adults who could take you to someone's house but couldn't actually tell you the address.