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To ask how people 'accidentally' get pregnant?

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Butterflyone12e · 31/10/2019 16:15

I honestly do wonder how people say they fell pregnant by accident. Of course I can understand the horrific situation if sexual abuse/rape was involved but do people honestly fall accidentally pregnant?

I'm 33 years of age and have never fallen pregnant because I've not wanted to fall pregnant.

I wondered what peoples stories are. I really disagree with terminations (again unless medial or abuse).

OP posts:
QueenOfIce · 31/10/2019 17:53

Why do we need to know your views on termination?! Weird thread.

PortiaCastis · 31/10/2019 17:54

I still think OP is a journo gathering info

Countryescape · 31/10/2019 17:55

Usually because they aren’t using two forms of contraception eg the pill and condoms. Or because they’re deluding themselves into thinking they’re using contraception effectively.

53rdWay · 31/10/2019 17:55

Perfect use rate for condoms is 98% effective. That’s perfect use if you get everything right (typical use is lower).

Effectiveness rates are measured per year, not over a lifetime.

So for every 50 couples who are using condoms exactly as intended, you can expect one accidental pregnancy per year. That’s a lot of pregnancies.

JustMe9 · 31/10/2019 17:56

I got pregnant while on the pill. Never forgot to take one or womitted or anything during that month. Its just happend. By accident. Im more surprised at how can poeple NOT get pregnant if they are in sexually active relationship (or married) etc :)

Shayisgreat · 31/10/2019 18:00

I got pregnant because we were drunk when we had sex and must have not used the condom properly. It was definitely an accident and I didn't notice that there was anything amiss the following day or indeed until I missed a period.

I was lucky that I was in a committed relationship and actually up until a month before I got pregnant I had been in the pill since the start if our relationship. I only came off it because I noticed it had a detrimental effect on my libido.

I was so terrified of the same thing hapoening again that very shortly after birth I got the implant to be extra sure. It also has a detrimental effect on my libido but at least there's very little chance I'll get pregnant until I want to!

Cloverbeauty · 31/10/2019 18:10

You've just been lucky. I've been lucky so far, but I do panic most months if my period is late. To be honest I panic most months regardless just incase. Grin

Cornettoninja · 31/10/2019 18:15

Why do we need to know your views on termination?!

Well how else would we know that the OP doesn’t have an issue with terminations as long as their just for the babies of ‘bad’ people. Sluts are mercifully allowed into the good people club so long as they give birth.

Sins of the father and all that.

CmdrCressidaDuck · 31/10/2019 18:17

I got pregnant a) with a coil in situ (and yes, it was still there and in the right place; clearly visible on ultrasound) b) two days before my period. The percentage chance of that happening must be like 0.01. Shock of my fucking life.

But it happened. Unplanned pregnancies happen. Even when the odds are enormously against it. Yes, many people are sloppy with contraception and/or don't fully understand "perfect" use, and this might come as a surprise to you, but people as a whole are thoroughly imperfect. But humans are fundamentally programmed to knock each other and themselves up, and when billions of adults are having sex, lots and lots and lots of pregnancies are going to happen even when there are overwhelming odds against.

annienone · 31/10/2019 18:17

What a dickhead question 😂

Bunnyfuller · 31/10/2019 18:23

I think mostly all you’ll get are answers around contraception fails (because it does sometimes). I think your question was more aimed at people having unprotected sex then wondering why they’re pregnant.

The latter annoys me too, but wording your post as you have and bunging in the entirely unnecessary add on of your personal views on abortion have set you up for a bumpy ride!

Better wording would have been ‘why do people get upset when unprotected sex results in a pregnancy?’

OooErMissus · 31/10/2019 18:37

In my case, the 'contraceptive failure' was because I risked not using any.

I was young and stupid. Way too young and stupid to be a responsible parent clearly, so I had an abortion.

BarrenFieldofFucks · 31/10/2019 18:41

Oh and #2 child was some sort of miracle too, conceived after sex 2 days after end of period.

Northernsoullover · 31/10/2019 18:44

You never think contraception will let you down until it does!
The only safe sex is no sex.

HigherFurtherFasterBaby · 31/10/2019 18:46

Even when taken perfectly, there is a failure rate. When you add in human error - which we are all capable of, a larger failure rate.

Failing to understand what’s difficult to grasp about that.

Rezie · 31/10/2019 18:47

I got pregnant on IUD. According to 2 different doctors it was perfectly in place "just one of those things that happen". I had an early miscarriage. With IUD you cannot really personally affect the failure rate. I could have avoided pregnancy by not having sex or using double contraception, but I would still consider it an "accident".

Andahelterskelterroundmylittle · 31/10/2019 18:54

Sperm that camped .. and waited Halloween Wink

BeanTownNancy · 31/10/2019 18:57

Had sex with husband. Took pill. Had stomach pain a few hours later. Emergency appendectomy. Horribly sick. Baby.

june2007 · 31/10/2019 18:59

So condom split, so take morningafterpill ang that too failed.

virginpinkmartini · 31/10/2019 18:59

People on here are so touchy 🤣 You can tell the ones who are lazy with contraception, because they get defensive as fuck and get angry when someone has something to say about people not being careful. Yes, contraception fails, but a lot of the time people are apathetic or too horny to care. And that's all it is. People can virtue signal and pretend that everyone at all times are slathered from head to toe in spermicide, have had their tubes tied like balloon animals and they only ever have Skype sex, but the reality is that humans are lazy and don't do everything it takes to avoid having children, despite the consequences. Biscuit me all you want.

Sparklesocks · 31/10/2019 19:02

Life happens. Contraception goes wrong, people get stomach bugs on the pill so it doesn’t work, condoms tear, people get drunk and have unprotected sex, and occasionally it just happens despite doing everything right as no contraception is 100% effective.

Sometimes pregnancies are just accidents.

JacquesHammer · 31/10/2019 19:03

but the reality is that humans are lazy and don't do everything it takes to avoid having children, despite the consequences

What about when you do everything it takes but the GP doesn’t...?

OwlBeThere · 31/10/2019 19:03

3 times I got pregnant unplanned. Once on the pill - was told that it must have been user error despite never missing one and no sickness etc , so I decided to get the depo after I had my daughter...8 months after she was born I was pregnant again. Not my fault that time, but maybe I’m highly fertile so try a coil...
3 months after I end up in a&e with an ectopic pregnancy and a coil embedded in my left ovary.

That’s how.

Talcott2007 · 31/10/2019 19:03

Dd was conceived after taking the MAP within 3hrs of a condom splitting. People fall pregnant 'accidentally' for all sorts of reasons. Just because your contraception has worked as you expected so far doesn't make you superior in anyway to others where it doesn't.

which1 · 31/10/2019 19:04

Not read whole thread but I think using two forms makes things much safer.

So if you were to have tummy upset or there was a tiny rip not noticed then you can rest assured you're still ok and no need to rush for MAP which doesn't seem to always work.

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