To ask how people 'accidentally' get pregnant?

[Butterflyone12e]

I honestly do wonder how people say they fell pregnant by accident. Of course I can understand the horrific situation if sexual abuse/rape was involved but do people honestly fall accidentally pregnant?

I'm 33 years of age and have never fallen pregnant because I've not wanted to fall pregnant.

I wondered what peoples stories are. I really disagree with terminations (again unless medial or abuse).

Is anyone really that fucking stupid that they think contraception is 100%effective? The mind boggles.

Plus my understanding is ovulation is really only a few days per month so again it just seems unlucky if you were to have failed contraception whilst ovulating.

Not sure if this has been mentioned already; please forgive me for NFTFT (17pages!!!)

But in response to the above, ovulation time is biologically the time a woman’s sex drive increases. So it is no surprise to me that it is exactly then when a woman might throw caution to the wind.

Number 2 was an accident, I was on the pill and still breastfeeding my one year old yet I still got pregnant.

Up until then I had never gotten pregnant unplanned before...

You've been lucky OP so please don't be a judgemental gf.

I knew when I was likely to ovulate (having charted for literally years*) but one month DH produced some immortal sperm. Seriously, according to the dates and the stats on sperm survival over time, that baby should not have been conceived. Didn't even cross my mind that I might be preg until my clockwork period was a few days late.

*Why take the risk and chart rather than anything else? DH hated condoms, I hated the pill, and I wasn't prepared to use a coil when still planning another child. At that point in our lives, an accidental pregnancy wasn't a major problem. But that child was still 'unplanned'.

With DS we'd been trying to conceive for about a year, no luck, thanks to PCOS it was all starting to look a bit unlikely. Eventually I decided it was too emotionally draining thinking every irregular period was a pregnancy, so went back on the pill. After a few months on it I found out I was pregnant, and no, I wasn't pregnant from before starting the pill back up. It happens, and luckily for us it worked out nicely.

Pill failed for me twice. Both of those pregnancies ended in miscarriage. No contraception is 100%.

Twice I’ve got pregnant by ‘accident’
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1st time was 3rd child. After fertility issues and lengthy attempts and fertility treatments to get children 1 & 2, we never bothered using contraception assuming given the years it had taken us conceive the other two that chance was minimal to none.
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Currently pregnant with baby no4 after a split condom, not much else to explain there! Took the morning after pill but it didn’t work, and I could never have an abortion.

I got drunk and had unprotected sex. Oops!

Dm got pregnant whilst taking the pill with my youngest dsis. She was very angry and shocked to be pregnant at 40 something, with teenage children. She lost trust in contraception then and advices everyone age appropriate to use double protection. Unless they are happy with the small but very real risk of contraception failure.

Contraceptive failure (pill)

Depends on who the couple having sex were !
If they lived together or had been together for years, then no doubt they would only using one form of contraception and as no contraception is 100% effective the chances are it will happen. If they are a new couple it should never ever happen, as both should be using contraception/protection.
In this day and age every woman must know that if you have been sick, had diarrhea or taken antibiotics the contraceptive pill wont be effective.

I fell accidentally pregnant with my twins.
Dont know about anyone else but I'm pretty sure the cause was shagging....
Please take your thinly disguised pro life nonsense and fuck off

I have had more than one situation where I had to use MAP because a condom split. I react badly to hormonal contraception, so can’t use it. One memorable time in my twenties when I had an 8-month old baby, after a condom accident I went to a family planning clinic to get emergency coil as it was later into the cycle. After I was quizzed by a Consultant (!) on my last period dates and last unprotected sex, I was told that they can’t fit a coil as they don’t ‘fit abortive devices’ or perform abortion. I would have to wait for my period, after which I would have to either abstain or use condoms to get a coil fitted. No matter how I pleaded, that was the end of the matter. They flat out refused to fit it, although I had unprotected sex once, less than 24 hrs prior.

That was the NHS, government-funded clinic. It still boils my piss when I think of it. Fortunately, I didn’t fall pregnant that time. But just saying it is not that easy to get an emergency coil as the BBC article suggests.

Incidentally, I had a coil fitted at a later point, but it got dislodged within a 6-week period which I knew nothing about and had a lovely “surprise” at the check-up appointment. Of course, I had been having sex during those 6 weeks, so it was incredibly lucky I didn’t get pregnant. I have little faith in contraception now and use Natural Cycles. At least you know what’s going on and have some control over it, rather than relying on a pill which can fail (without your knowledge), a coil which can get dislodged (unbeknownst to you), or a condom which can split. The most “reliable” is probably an implant if you don’t mind bleeding for months, losing your sex-drive and feeling depressed, oh, and piling on a truckload of weight.

It is not easy to circumvent Mother-Nature. And any posters who suggest women should keep their legs closed if they don’t want the risk of pregnancy, can go do one. If you have no sex drive, good for you! How virtuous!

I (and many other women) don’t want to forgo the beautiful and fulfilling part of life that is physical intimacy.

This is a derail from the OP's question but I'm more interested when I see people say they accidentally got pregnant "because I didn't think I could conceive" especially when they are young and/or have no apparent health issues. You see it on threads here all the time.

I would never ask (of course since it is absolutely none of my business) but I do have a private wonder what makes an otherwise healthy woman think they were infertile. Irregular periods? PCOS? Do they hear a doctor say "this could make it harder to conceive" and just hear "you won't get pregnant".

I remember being told at school that I could get pregnant even if I had unprotected sex just once (which is of course true). So it does make me wonder if someone has unprotected sex a few times and doesn't get pregnant, do they jump straight to the conclusion they are infertile...and then "accidentally" get pregnant.

Xiaoxiong
I thought I was infertile because my doctor had told me I would "need medical intervention to conceive" (PCOS). I didn't really understand what it was and my 18 year old self didn't realise they meant if I wanted to get pregnant I would probably need help not that becoming pregnant without intervention wasn't possible. Just simple phrasing and I'm lucky I didn't get pregnant but God I did feel stupid when I realised I had got it wrong for over a year.

I was using a condom and flo to track ovulation. I wouldn't have sex on the days it said I was fertile, and when I did have sex it always with a condom. The condom split, but it wasnt on a fertile day. I didn't get the morning after pill because I didn't have time. They were only available on prescription in Korea and I had a flight to the uk to catch. Also I wasnt too worried because I had stupidly thought the flo app was accurate.

My friend was on the contraception injection , it failed , she then just had the pull, it failed , then had the implant ...it failed. They said lots of people fail to respond to hormone based contraception. She's now on a coil. Fingers crossed

Anyone else here get accused of trying to get pregnant after a contraceptive failure? I was like, yes that known fertility aid the condom, please do continue to victim blame. I was clearly asking for it.

Xiaoxiong
The people I know with medical issues, only one was told they couldn't conceive and that was due to early menopause. Everyone else was told it's highly unlikely but their trusts won't say you can't get pregnant because there's still a chance.

Even on infertility boards, people seem to be very rarely told they cannot conceive.

1Micem0use
Depends on whether it's actually contraception failure or if it is "contraception failure".
One of my former friends (drifted due her approach with men) seemed to be really bloody unfortunate to have contraception failures within 6 months of getting into a new relationship. Between relationships she was fine, after having the new relationship baby she had no issues with contraception, but there must have been something in the air around 4-6 months with the new Mr perfect.

Xiaoxiong

A GP told me I didn’t need to bother with contraception due to my infertility. Fortunately I was less thick than him!

It was a condom that split open. And the father is not at all someone I would've chosen to reproduce with.

Anyone else here get accused of trying to get pregnant after a contraceptive failure? I was like, yes that known fertility aid the condom, please do continue to victim blame. I was clearly asking for it

Yes I obviously tried to trap my ex
How you actually trap a man I don’t know but this is what I was doing.it was others who hinted at that never my ex as he knows that’s not the truth (still hated me for a while for not having a termination)

Really op???