To ask how people 'accidentally' get pregnant?

[Butterflyone12e]

I honestly do wonder how people say they fell pregnant by accident. Of course I can understand the horrific situation if sexual abuse/rape was involved but do people honestly fall accidentally pregnant?

I'm 33 years of age and have never fallen pregnant because I've not wanted to fall pregnant.

I wondered what peoples stories are. I really disagree with terminations (again unless medial or abuse).

Op, you obviously live in a very standardised world.

I had a tumour & treatment to sort it out when I was in my 30s. Although I came out of it ok, I was told I was no longer able to conceive.
Fast forward 10 YEARS to my mid 40s when I started feeling tired. No other symptoms. I thought I had a cold coming. I left it a few weeks.
Then I waited two more weeks for a GPS appt.....then she did a blood test......

Ta Dah! Surprise baby. And no I didn’t plan it, nor pretend I didn’t know, and no I wasn’t remotely prepared. Nor was I is a very serious relationship.
These things happen. Thank goodness

I have often suspected that if Mumsnet posters were typical, the average failure rate of any type of contraception would be 50%.

Obviously with every form of contraception there is a genuine failure rate. However, I suspect that some pregnancies are a result of carelessness or simply a failure to use any contraception at all. In these cases it may suit the parents, or sometimes just the mother, to describe the pregnancy as a failure of contraception.

What a stupid comment and I bet you felt really pleased with yourself for it hmm

Stupid comment from the op to start with...

OP disagrees with abortions and that’s her valid opinion.

Right, but what has her opinion about abortion got to do with other people’s lives and other people’s pregnancies? It’s completely irrelevant. Hence my emphasis oh her not having to have one because other people having them is none of her business.

DS1 was an accident. I took the pill religiously but still managed to get pregnant. I’m still not sure how, I hadn’t missed a pill and hadn’t had a stomach bug or anything that could have affected the pill. But 6 years on we’re very happy

Dd genuinely IS a condom failure. We had no idea until one of my friends mentioned I could be pregnant and I took a test to prove her wrong. We 100% used condoms and I'm 99% sure we used them correctly (as never had any other issues with condoms)
Not quite sure how I'm supposed to prove that to anyone though?

Was on the pill, same time every day. No periods for over 2 years. Had sex on holiday, condom broke, thought “hey I’m on the pill” and now we have a baby.

I've fallen pregnant by accident

Maybe u just aren't fertile

“I have often suspected that if Mumsnet posters were typical, the average failure rate of any type of contraception would be 50%.”

People who have not had contraceptive failures (1) may be less likely to be on MN as they may not be parents and (2) may be less likely to respond to threads about contraception failures

IvinghoeBeacon
True.
I'd also guess that people who've had genuine contraception failures would be more of the mindset that "mistakes happens but what a lovely outcome" rather than "omg I'm just so super fertile... Maybe people who comment on ineffective contraception use are just infertile and jealous of my superpower".

The only people I know who offline who seem to think they're miraculously fertile are people who over the years have had a very lax attitude to contraception, which is irritating when you're going through fertility issues because it takes a lot of self-restraint to refrain from saying "you repeatedly have unprotected sex and not used appropriate contraception so there's no super powr kindly STFU"

Fair enough, I have neither had contraception failure nor fertility problems and those people sound exasperating. I just don’t tend to assume people with a different experience to me are lying, which is what the OP is suggesting

My stepmum got pregnant through a condom and while on the pill.

I had to have IVF due to PCOS.

A good friend got pregnant with both of her children within a week of coming off the pill.

Another good friend went through 8 years of failed fertility treatment before she finally got her family by way of adoption.

I suppose everyone is different.

@JenniferM1989 sorry but I don't think you can actually read because you didn't seem to read what I said! Didn't I say even if before the pregnancy happens a woman seems fine with being a mother then she changes her mind, that shouldn't be an issue? So you can shove your 'forced birther' crap up your ass quite frankly.
I'm not even religious either. I just think prevention is better than cure. It's not ridiculous to suggest that people that don't want kids refrain from intercourse or double up. Am I suggesting they go without food, shelter, water? No, intercourse only. It's not a basic human need is it? Wouldn't anyone rather prevent a pregnancy than have an abortion? If there's a way to prevent it, take it. If you're ok and like the idea of having a baby, you don't need to be so careful. No contraception is 100% at the moment, there's always a risk. If you're utterly against the idea of becoming pregnant or you're a man and don't want to be a parent, refrain! Use lots of other ways for intimacy/pleasure. It just amazes me that you get men who a lot of the time don't even use anything then they come out with 'I don't want to be a father right now'... well, why were you dabbling in a risky business then mate?!

Your whole tone and the you should refrain from sex is the whole forced birther idea. Ive heard that exact line spouted over and over by the forced birther crowd.
If you dont like the tag, well maybe you should think about the delivery.
If abortion for unwanted pregnancy is so bad call for better contraception education, free contraception, women allowed to have tubes tied, which is discouraged by many drs if your young, have no kids, less than 3 kids or are unmarried plus its expensive.

Actually sex has many proven health benefits emotional and physical, its illogical to expect that couples dont have sex cos they done having kids or dont want them.
Like it or not contraception fails, people get slack, shit happens, fact is thats an accident, something not meaning to happen, but it did.

My sweet daughter became pregnant with the coil in place. The resulting ectopic pregnancy almost killed her. HTH

I vehemently detest and disagree with pro-forced birthers/forced female slavery like yourself, and I think even at 33, your narrow black and white view of the world still hasn't had a chance to be challenged. 2 cousins of mine were both 'pill babies'. Meaning my aunt - their mother - was on the pill when she conceived, both times. Both times she was on the pill. Chemicals are often no match for mother nature. Also, you discount those who don't use contraception (like very strict Catholics). Sometimes people don't plan to get pregnant, nor plan to not get pregnant. Life just happens. And some of those times, it is inconvenient to continue a pregnancy - which at that stage, is barely a zygote, just a blastocyst. You pass more during your period, than the tiny dot that the zygote is. I think you have a lot of learning to do, and it sounds like no one ever taught you about biology.

Contraception failure
Taking that one chance
Some women are more fertile than others

And as for abortions only receive your acceptance because of rape etc I find that more offensive than the reasoning of pro life

Thankfully the law doesn’t support your narrow minded and stupid views

I can 100% assure you that it is possible to fall pregnant on the POP, even if taken absolutely correctly and with no factors as to why it should become less effective! It surprised me too!!

My parents were young and apparently not great at using a condom. Then my mother was fitted with a coil. But still became pregnant with my brother. Quite soon after, actually now it isn't recommended so soon after a pregnancy. But there you go. Two children before she really knew what was going on.

Just googled this. Interesting....;

How effective is the birth control pill? If you use it perfectly, the pill is 99% effective. But people aren't perfect and it's easy to forget or miss pills — so in reality the pill is about 91% effective. That means about 9 out of 100 pill users get pregnant each year.

Numbers might not be quite as high as you think as you've got all those secretly planned pregnancies by women who lie and say their contraception has failed when in truth they haven't been using contraception at all, just let their DH/DP believe that they were

I hate the term ‘fall’ pregnant, oops I fell. Fallen woman. Fallen from grace. Sinful, shameful. Please stop using that term

Judging by the number of children that Mr Johnson has had with women he was or is not married to, Eton does not teach him about contraceptive failure, or else he regards such matters as not his responsibility.

'I wondered what peoples stories are. I really disagree with terminations (again unless medial or abuse).'

As do many woman who look after their fertility, who are careful, who use protection/ morning after pill.
Then they have a unplanned pregnancy and that view changes, like you stated you disagree (as do many woman who have abortions) but your view is irrelevent and theoretical because you have never been in that situation.
Take the judgement out and learn!

Bollocks to your opinions on abortion keep them smugly to yourself
A young doctor wrote me a prescription for antibiotics and the pill at the same time when I was a teenager and failed to mention I could get pregnant ( didn’t)
Another time I’d had a sexual dry spell and was on the pill for other medical reasons and had casually forgotten a couple and then had random sex thinking I was on the pill, woke and had fright when I checked packet, map worked
Ironically years later when I wanted to get pregnant found out I was infertile
My foster daughter had a couple of sexually unpleasant situations not knowing she was in abusive situation and got pregnant 3 times ( 2 abortions) because she was desperate to be loved
Op count yourself lucky that your life is completely in your control

Split condom followed by failed morning after pill. Second time I was on the pill had sex then was sick a few hours later with noro - has twins from that one. Luckily we planned to start trying for a baby the following month so wasn't disastrous.

Oh and I know 3 coil babies.

Have you accepted you're wrong yet op?