To ask how people 'accidentally' get pregnant?

[Butterflyone12e]

I honestly do wonder how people say they fell pregnant by accident. Of course I can understand the horrific situation if sexual abuse/rape was involved but do people honestly fall accidentally pregnant?

I'm 33 years of age and have never fallen pregnant because I've not wanted to fall pregnant.

I wondered what peoples stories are. I really disagree with terminations (again unless medial or abuse).

I hadn't either at that age. Turned out that we couldn't without fertility treatment.

Tbf I have never got pregnant unintentionally and rather assume it won't happen now. And I have dc who were conceived within normal 'expected' timeframes for normally fertile people.

But I've had lots of times that I've been worried over the last 25-odd years (as have friends). Clearly this has never happened to the OP then or she'd have more understanding surely. unless I was right about it being half term

So abortion is ok if woman is raped but not ok if a baby is unwanted?
Why? Can you explain you're thinking?
Either you think a foetus has the right to life or you don't?

Well clearly you've never have an accidental pregnancy OP but you have no right to judge others and be a smug bugger because you do not know what'll happen in the future do you

Ffsnosexallowed

I've seen lots of ignorant posts on my FB lately along the same vein as a reaction to abortion changed in n Ireland, "if you don't want to be pregnant just keep your legs closed" adolescent

Men get told to not have sex if they don’t want a baby on here all the time. Why is it different?

Accident rate in real life: 0.3% How is that measured? For many reasons it cannot be accurate!

Accident rate on MN: 50% Mmm! You don't get it. Such threads are fairly self selecting. Posters who HAVE become pregnant by accident are far more likely to respond to sucha goady tone than those who have not, or who agree with OP. It carries its own bias.

Not really a gotcha of any description!

Contraception fails, either because of user error or because it just does.
There also seems to be a very recent study where for some women the pill is not effective due to genetics, which gets put down to user error and the woman is blamed and told to take her pill better. An then there's another "accident".

I know women who have fallen pregnant with condoms,pill,implants and coils,nothing is 100%.

As for the "rate on MN is 50%" smart arses, no one is going to start threads or post about taking the pill and everything being fine and perfect are they?

@Butterflyone12e

YANBU, but you will be told on here that you are.

I never understand it either.

I have got so many things to say on this matter, but I shall refrain, or I will cause offence.

The only ONE thing I'll say is that when a woman 'accidentally' gets pregnant, I don't believe it's 'accidental' for the vast majority.

Men get told to not have sex if they don’t want a baby on here all the time. Why is it different?

I have honestly never, ever seen that. I've seen them get told to use a condom or get a vasectomy which is entirely reasonable.

The difference though in case you really are stupid rather than just goady is that only women get pregnant and men don't. That's a pretty big fucking difference don't you think? 🤦🏻‍♀️

Accident rate on MN: 50%

How would you know? Most people don’t post to say “been having sex all year and contraception has worked as intended.”

Men get told to not have sex if they don’t want a baby on here all the time. Why is it different?

I’m a woman. Biology dictates if I get pregnant accidentally I have another option to not be pregnant. Men don’t. They have a single shot (no pun intended!) to decide whether they’re going to risk a pregnancy. If they choose to have sex they’re accepting and acknowledging that a pregnancy could occur.

I have low fatality took three years to conceive DC1 five years for DC2. Then when DC2 was 12 months I fell pregnant with DC3. Complete accident/ human error. Hadn't had a period since having DC2 and due to previous experience didn't ever imagine I'd fall whilst breast feeding/ not having a cycle. so we got carried away and didn't us a condom and had surprise baby number 3.

How can you not understand how these things happen?

Sometimes people are told they're unable to have children and then they conceive (though in my area they're very strict on getting to the point where they say infertility means 99% chance of never conceiving).

Sometimes contraception fails

Sometimes contraception isn't used correctly because people think it won't happen to them and they get lax

Sometimes people say they're using contraception but don't take it properly, don't tell their partner and then are over the moon at a happy "accident".

Then there's basic biology.

I'm amazed on MN at how many apparently super fertile people there are who apparently use condoms, the pill and the MAP, have no sex during the fertile window but still end up conceiving. It's like all science doesn't apply to them or their partners have some sort of superhero sperm.

I have low fatality I am so very sorry @allabouteve1

I am now imagining you as a very long lived MNer... maybe ending your days with Cap'n Jack / The Face of Boe, keeping each other company at the far end of time

Lazorwitz said the findings likely apply to all forms of hormonal birth control — such as the pill, implant or injection — because the hormones used in these methods are similar and are processed similarly in the body. But future studies are needed to prove this.
The unintended pregnancy risk for women carrying this genetic variant cannot be quantified yet because it’s too early. Because the implant releases “more than enough” hormones needed to prevent pregnancy, Lazorwitz said the variant probably does not impact efficacy of the contraceptive implant. The researchers are more concerned that the genetic variant could affect the effectiveness of lower-dose hormonal methods, like the pill.
For now, Lazorwitz said women should continue to work with their doctors in finding the best birth control method for them.

never fallen pregnant because I've not wanted to fall pregnant

Many of my female relatives have had accident babies... some gave up babies for adoption. Me & DH & most of our parents are accidents.

Would you rather call them 'careless' pregnancies, OP?

I will give you benefit of doubt that you aren't actually asking why you don't get to call the women useless fuckup people. 44% of recent pregnancies were unplanned pregnancies.

My coil failed.

My friend did it 3 times accidentally on purpose. Her DH didn't seem suspicious at all.

Not sure if it's been posted, but those asking about condoms splitting are aware it's not that it bursts and sprays spunk everywhere right? It can be a teeny hole that literally you wouldn't notice unless you held it up and stared at it for about 5-10 seconds to see if it drips. So it's perfectly possible not to notice it split.

I accidentally got pregnant because the condom split. I didn't get the map because I knew we wanted to start trying within a couple of years. DD1 was still an accident though. So yabu, it is possible to accidentally get pregnant.

Accident rate in real life: 0.3%

This doesn't measure with the information the NHS gives out.

It's clearly true that some 'accidents' are carelessness or actually the woman deliberately getting pregnant when the man doesn't want it. BUT it's clearly true that it's possible to get pregnant accidentally also .

Look at the NHS stats most forms of contraception have a failure rate between 1 and 3% per year so over 20 years of a woman being fertile that makes accidental pregnancy fairly common I reckon!

I am now imagining you as a very long lived MNer... maybe ending your days with Cap'n Jack / The Face of Boe, keeping each other company at the far end of time 

Happy to live out my days with Captain Jack @CuriousaboutSamphire

My bold and grinning face disappeared. Clearly I can't use my phone

because I had a mirena cool fitted and my chances of pregnancy were less than 1% apparently. Still accidentally got pregnant (then miscarried)

Meh all the stats ,reasonable reasons and understanding goes out the window when we can sneer at other women about "accidents" and call them stupid,reckless or lying and trapping men.